Understand what generates this mental bicycle

There is often one thought that has been the trigger for this chain of dark thoughts. In the psycho-corporal approach that I practice, the seat of the mental bicycle is the gallbladder.

The mental cycle begins when you have judged yourself so much, when you have felt so much guilt or anxiety (liver dysfunction) that these inner judgments are starting to loop around in your head and you’re having trouble telling the difference between right and wrong.

To stop the mental cycle before it starts, try to spot the first self-judgment, the first thought, and give yourself the right to choose a new, more positive thought that allows you to avoid this toxic negative spiral. It’s the famous “Choose again” Gabby Bernstein’s method or the model of Brooke Castillo that Clotilde Dusoulier talks about in her podcast Change ma vie (in french only).

For example, if your boyfriend doesn’t answer straight away,  

Instead of thinking he doesn’t like me, you can think he’s busy.

Instead of thinking I’ve been too demanding, you may think I’ve expressed my need of the moment.

Change your pattern of self-judgment

This reflexion of judging and questioning all the time did not happen by chance. Maybe you’ve learned from past experiences that you have to be perfect to be loved or you can’t make mistakes.

Check out my free webinar to see how you came up with this schema.