Getting out of celibacy after several years alone

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Getting out of celibacy smoothly in 3 steps

You’ve been single for a long time and you’re used to being alone.

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So how do we get out of this celibacy?

The longer you’ve been single, the more habits and routines you’ve developed to get used to being alone.

To assess your level of isolation look for:

  • If you have close friends or just colleagues around?
  • If you can tell your friends what’s on your mind?
  • If you often “lose” your friends?

The price of being yourself should not be isolation

Isolation or long-term celibacy is often a means of protection: because you have suffered too much, because you don’t want to suffer any more and you think that the only way to do this is by being alone.

A first exercise to unblock this fear is to learn to be 100% yourself in the presence of your friends and dare to be honest. First you learn that you can be you and displease, while being in relationships with people.

Heal from your fear of suffering to dare to risk again

Being in a relationship will always have a certain amount of risk, and so to get out of this isolation, the most important thing to do is to heal the wounds of your past that made you close yourself up from love.

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Socialize by regaining a taste for risk

You most certainly have regular activities such as shopping or going to the gym. A very good exercise to do during these activities is to push yourself into talking or interacting with strangers, not for the purpose of flirting, but in order to reprogram your reptilian brain that taking risks by socializing is good.

And who knows, you might even meet some great people through it.

Be “professional” in your search for a partner

If you really want to meet someone, but don’t invest enough of yourself for it either by signing up on dating sites or by going out to meet new people, you’ll be sure to stay alone.

No man is going to pick you up at home in your pyjamas.

Invest a number of hours a week to meet potential partners. Because meeting the right guy is also a matter of statistics.

It will also allow you to get used to being around people again, to look good and at ease with dating. Meet these people in order to get to know them, to have a good time pressure-free without having to go out with them or to please them. Also dare to go out without making any effort and by being 100% natural. And if they don’t inspire you or give you no hope about meeting someone, don’t waste your time with them.

Getting back in motion will help you release something rather than loneliness and allow you to open up more for your next partner.

And when you meet the right guy

Once you have met someone, it is quite possible that you will initially feel disturbed in your daily habits and routine. This is normal and does not mean that the relationship is not going well. It just means that you need to get used to sharing your life with someone again.

And to make this period of time easier, keep the activities and routines that are important to you in order to keep your balance. In clear, follow your rhythm to gradually open up the shell you’ve built for yourself.