You’ve just been ghosted, meaning you suddenly stopped hearing from your lover or he stops texting you overnight.

Or every time you ask your partner for a commitment from him or something important to you, he switches to

“Silence”

“I’ll tell you later,” but that later never happens.

It’s like he can’t hear what you’re asking for.

A non-response is also a response.

I know it can hurt, but a non-response is also an answer.

The difficult thing is the interpretation of that non-response, which is, what he says no to:

• He’s refusing to answer right away because he’s too busy?
• He doesn’t want to meet the demand (commitment or need)?
• Or is he just saying no to the relationship?

Cutting it short, this non-response simply tells you that he’s saying no, but not exactly to what.

Elusion strategy is useless

Sitting around waiting isn’t going to help you clear his negative answer.

It’ll do quite the opposite.

This expectation will give you plenty of opportunities to imagine the worst-case scenarios (if any), this article will give you tips on how to stop worrying too much).

I understand that it takes courage to clarify a no. It requires you to accept some form of rejection. At the same time, do you want to keep hoping for nothing or be with someone who isn’t really interested or willing to commit?

By clarifying this no, you also give yourself the right to be positively surprised by your partner’s response. For example, he may say no to your commitment proposal as you have suggested, but he is still willing to move forward in the relationship.

Download this Selflove-Meditation to give you the courage to take that step forward.