Lost in the Jungle of Love Advice? Why Advice Does Not Work
166. Lost in the Jungle of Love Advice? Why Advice Does Not Work
A quelquetemps ago on my Instagram I published a reel that resonated with many of you.
And given the reactions I told myself that it was worth digging into this subject in a podcast episode, namely why advice does not work and why coaching is for me, having accompanied more than 600 people, the modality that will allow you to have better keys for navigating your love life.
It connects a little with episode 4, why are there so many different coaches in love?. In episode 4 I was telling you more about the different angles of support in love coaching to help you choose what suits you best.
In this episode I am going to list more the reasons that, in my view, explain why advice does not work.
Advice does not take your biases into account
For example, if you have an avoidant attachment model it will be very easy for you to apply the famous advice “I flee, you follow me” because it is your bias. But is this advice really going to help you transform your love life? No, because this advice reinforces your bias.
Without knowing your own biases (namely your love patterns, your perception of the situation…) and without knowing whether this advice helps you to overcome your bias, the advice you receive is useless.
I invite you to watch my free webinar on how to free yourself from the love patterns that prevent you from being happy in love if you are not quite sure what a love pattern is and how it can influence your behaviours in a relationship.
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Advice incites you not to use your own judgement
Applying advice from experts without taking the time to evaluate the situation for yourself will maintain your inability to evaluate a situation by yourself and in a way keep you in a form of powerlessness, of dependence, whereas the goal of love coaching is after all to regain your power over your love life. It will also remove your responsibility for your choices, “I do what this expert x told me” and it does not work. In coaching, you learn to ask yourself the right questions to allow yourself to evaluate the situation by yourself and make an informed decision.
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Going further
And if you would like to do the work on your love patterns through the body and transform your love life you have the programme Opening Up to Love and you can add the Day of the Past option as well.
Sandy Kaufmann
is a somatic therapist and coach, based in Switzerland. She is the author of two books published by Éditions Eyrolles and has accompanied more than 600 people. She is the creator of the Somatic Deprogramming method and hosts the podcast “S’ouvrir a l’amour“, ranked in the French top 50 in the relationships category.
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