{"id":36322,"date":"2021-11-13T08:38:07","date_gmt":"2021-11-13T08:38:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=36322"},"modified":"2025-10-15T04:25:48","modified_gmt":"2025-10-15T04:25:48","slug":"5-pourquoi-tu-nobtiens-pas-ce-que-tu-veux-en-amour","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/5-pourquoi-tu-nobtiens-pas-ce-que-tu-veux-en-amour\/","title":{"rendered":"5. Pourquoi tu n&rsquo;obtiens pas ce que tu veux en Amour ?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"36322\" class=\"elementor elementor-36322\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ed86594 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ed86594\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6ea7bd98\" data-id=\"6ea7bd98\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d639127 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3d639127\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">Pourquoi tu n'obtiens pas ce que tu veux en amour?<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-62d37295 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62d37295\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4e162bd6\" data-id=\"4e162bd6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-376509b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"376509b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>    h3 {color: #7A7A7A;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><p>Tu lis beaucoup de livres sur le d\u00e9veloppement personnel, tu as d\u00e9j\u00e0 suivi plusieurs coachings ou th\u00e9rapies et pourtant tu as l&rsquo;impression de ne pas voir de changement concret dans ta vie.<\/p><p>Si c\u2019est ton cas, cela veut souvent dire que tu as un probl\u00e8me d&rsquo;alignement.<\/p><p>Dans cet article, je vais t&rsquo;expliquer ce qu&rsquo;est l\u2019alignement et les diff\u00e9rentes formes de non-alignement.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8bdbf73 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"8bdbf73\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/SVvePRBs2C8?si=1FhSu1-jpud0BowJ&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c782d31 elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"c782d31\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<iframe frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" id=\"ausha-aQvD\" height=\"220\" style=\"border: none; width:100%; height:220px\" src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/index.html?podcastId=B64l0hAjMede&playlist=false&color=%23f6dcda&v=3&playerId=ausha-aQvD\"><\/iframe><script src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/ausha-player.js\"><\/script>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-751a1b2b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"751a1b2b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"i\"><\/span>\u00a0<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Ca_veut_dire_quoi_etre_alignee\"><\/span><strong>\u00c7a veut dire quoi \u00eatre align\u00e9e?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/relation-sans-prise-de-tete\/\">\u00catre align\u00e9e<\/a> avec soi-m\u00eame veut tout simplement dire que tu agis, interagis et tu parles en alignement avec ce que tu veux \u00eatre et\/ou ce que tu veux cultiver dans ta vie et\/ou tes d\u00e9sirs ou buts dans la vie.<\/p><p>C&rsquo;est un peu comme ton fil rouge int\u00e9rieur:<\/p><ul><li>Qui te fait agir pour aller dans la direction que tu veux<\/li><li>Qui te fait dire non\/ne pas aller dans la direction que tu ne veux pas<\/li><\/ul><p>Si tu n&rsquo;obtiens pas les r\u00e9sultats que tu veux dans ta vie, cela veut forc\u00e9ment dire qu&rsquo;il y a un non-alignement en toi \u00e0 un des niveaux suivants.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6d0096f elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"6d0096f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/2-1024x1024.png\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-36885\" alt=\"Pourquoi je n&#039;obtiens pas ce que je veux\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/2-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/2-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/2-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/2-768x768.png 768w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/2-600x600.png 600w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/2-100x100.png 100w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/07\/2.png 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4386a95 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"4386a95\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div>\n<h2><\/h2>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Les_differentes_formes_de_non-alignement\"><\/span><strong>Les diff\u00e9rentes formes de non-alignement<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<strong>Forme n\u00b01 Tu ne sais pas ce que tu veux<\/strong>\n\nC&rsquo;est la forme la plus grave de non-alignement, car si tu ne sais pas vraiment ce que tu veux ou tu changes d&rsquo;avis constamment. Il est impossible pour toi d&rsquo;avoir une ligne conductrice dans ce que tu dis ou fais et donc les r\u00e9sultats ne suivront pas.\n\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color: #eeeeee;\">\u2764\ufe0f Regarde <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/inscriptionblessurepasse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">mon w\u00e9binaire <\/a><\/strong>sur comment \u00eatre enfin heureux\/se en Amour!<\/p>\n\nCe non-alignement peut prendre diff\u00e9rentes formes:\n<ul>\n \t<li><strong>Tu n&rsquo;as aucune id\u00e9e de ce que tu veux<\/strong>. Par exemple, tu as du mal \u00e0 d\u00e9finir le partenaire id\u00e9al pour toi. Or, tout le monde n&rsquo;est pas forc\u00e9ment compatible avec toi, avec ton mode de vie et parfois il peut y avoir des contradictions int\u00e9rieures dans ce que tu recherches chez l&rsquo;autre. Si tu esquives la d\u00e9cision de ce que tu veux vraiment, tu vas non seulement perdre beaucoup de temps pour trouver une personne qui te correspond (comment trouver si tu ne sais pas ce que tu cherches), mais aussi risquer la d\u00e9ception apr\u00e8s quelques mois de relation, quand tu te rendras compte que vous n&rsquo;\u00eates vraiment pas compatibles. C&rsquo;est la raison pour laquelle j\u2019y consacre un module entier de mon programme <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvriralamour\/\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l&rsquo;amour<\/a>.<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>Tu te laisses facilement influencer par l\u2019avis des autres<\/strong>. L\u2019avis des autres prend plus de poids que ton propre avis et tu te laisses ballotter par les conseils bien attentionn\u00e9s de tes amis, de ta famille, de ton partenaire, voire m\u00eame de ton th\u00e9rapeute. Par exemple, si tu as un probl\u00e8me dans ta vie de couple, tu pourrais avoir la tendance de tr\u00e8s vite demander l&rsquo;avis des autres avant de te forger ta propre opinion. Le probl\u00e8me est que les autres n&rsquo;ont qu&rsquo;une vue subjective de la situation, \u00e0 savoir celle que tu leur racontes, pas l&rsquo;historique complet et encore moins ce que tu as pu faire pour cr\u00e9er cette situation (tu sais, cette part d&rsquo;ombre qui est difficilement avouable).<\/li>\n \t<li><strong>Tu changes constamment d&rsquo;avis<\/strong>. Par exemple, tu veux une relation durable, puis quelque temps apr\u00e8s (peut-\u00eatre apr\u00e8s quelques essais qui ont \u00e9chou\u00e9) tu te dis qu&rsquo;une relation l\u00e9g\u00e8re serait pas mal non plus. Ce n&rsquo;est pas le fait de vouloir une relation l\u00e9g\u00e8re ou s\u00e9rieuse qui pose probl\u00e8me, mais cette oscillation constante entre ces 2 choix qui g\u00e9n\u00e8re des comportements contradictoires et peut potentiellement d\u00e9concerter tes partenaires potentiels qui ne comprennent plus vraiment ce que tu veux.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\nEnfin, un dernier d\u00e9savantage de cette forme de non-alignement est que tu attires des personnes qui ont exactement le m\u00eame probl\u00e8me que toi, c&rsquo;est-\u00e0-dire qui ne savent pas ce qu&rsquo;elles veulent, qui sont contradictoires, qui sont facilement influen\u00e7ables par les autres. Et tu fais fuir les personnes qui sont au clair avec elles-m\u00eames.\n\n<strong>Une m\u00eame cause, la sur-adaptation <\/strong>\n\nCette forme de non-alignement vient souvent du fait que tu t&rsquo;es sur-adapt\u00e9e dans ton enfance pour \u00eatre aim\u00e9e et que cette forme de sur-adaptation est devenue tellement importante et automatique que tu ne sais plus ce que tu veux, que tu remets constamment ton jugement int\u00e9rieur en cause, voire m\u00eame ton identit\u00e9.\n\nRegarde mon w\u00e9binaire gratuit pour comprendre comment tu as pu te cr\u00e9er ce sch\u00e9ma.\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-503f792 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"503f792\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4b3d6b9\" data-id=\"4b3d6b9\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-0c776a2 elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"0c776a2\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-2f1fc2d\" data-id=\"2f1fc2d\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-761b44a elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"761b44a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-4333e63 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4333e63\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-8536336\" data-id=\"8536336\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e6a92a4 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"e6a92a4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Pour toi<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e13a2f0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"e13a2f0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"%22COMMENT_SE_LIBERER_DES_SCHEMAS_QUI_NOUS_EMPECHENT_DETRE_HEUREUSES_EN_AMOUR_%22\"><\/span><span>\"COMMENT SE LIB\u00c9RER DES SCH\u00c9MAS QUI NOUS EMP\u00caCHENT D'\u00caTRE HEUREUSES EN AMOUR ?\" <\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e4b235c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e4b235c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #000000; 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Tu peux te d\u00e9sabonner \u00e0 tout moment. Merci de lire ma <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/politique-de-confidentialite\/\"> Politique de confidentialit\u00e9 <\/a> pour voir comment je traite les donn\u00e9es.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-b0f216f elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"b0f216f\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-29e6d57\" data-id=\"29e6d57\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-749e97a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"749e97a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"i-2\"><\/span>\u00a0<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p><strong>Forme n\u00b02 Tu n&rsquo;agis pas en alignement avec ce que tu veux <\/strong><\/p><p>\u00a0Tu es au clair sur tes d\u00e9sirs, tes envies, mais tu as du mal \u00e0 agir pour les atteindre:<\/p><ul><li>Tu procrastines. Tu sais ce que tu dois faire, mais tu n&rsquo;arrives pas \u00e0 passer \u00e0 l&rsquo;action.<\/li><li>Tu trouves des excuses comme \u201cce n&rsquo;est pas le bon moment\u201d, \u201cil traverse une phase difficile\u201d, \u201cc\u2019est trop difficile\u201d.<\/li><li>Tu fais d&rsquo;autres actions, mais pas celles qui vont vraiment t&rsquo;aider \u00e0 atteindre ton but. Par exemple, tu restes en couple avec quelqu&rsquo;un qui te dit clairement ne pas vouloir d&rsquo;une relation s\u00e9rieuse avec toi, tu ne le quittes pas, mais essaies de te montrer plus distante pour voir s&rsquo;il r\u00e9agit et revient vers toi.<\/li><li>Tu agis, mais tu ne respectes pas ta d\u00e9cision dans le temps. Par exemple, tu as une discussion claire avec ton partenaire sur ce que tu veux dans la relation et tu c\u00e8des s&rsquo;il revient, m\u00eame s&rsquo;il ne s\u2019est pas vraiment positionn\u00e9 vis-\u00e0-vis de tes demandes.<\/li><\/ul><p><strong>Une m\u00eame cause, l\u2019abandon de soi<\/strong><\/p><p>Cette forme de non-alignement vient souvent du fait que tu t\u2019auto-abandonnes et manques de pers\u00e9v\u00e9rance pour ce qui te tient \u00e0 c\u0153ur. (Regarde mon article sur la <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/blessure-abandon-amour-lise-bourbeau\/\">blessure d\u2019abandon<\/a> pour voir les autres impacts de cette blessure dans ta vie amoureuse).<\/p><p>L\u2019auto-abandon vient souvent du fait qu&rsquo;on s&rsquo;est sentie abandonn\u00e9e plut\u00f4t dans son enfance par les gens qu&rsquo;on aime et donc qu\u2019on pense inconsciemment \u201cm\u00e9riter\u201d cela.<\/p><p>Regarde mon webinaire pass\u00e9 gratuit pour comprendre comment tu as pu te cr\u00e9er ce sch\u00e9ma.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3843c3a elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3843c3a\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-85d1c52\" data-id=\"85d1c52\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-4c5415e elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4c5415e\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-64d5955\" data-id=\"64d5955\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-704b32b elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"704b32b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-6008a2e elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6008a2e\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-a08e7d6\" data-id=\"a08e7d6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b6d562e elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"b6d562e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Pour toi<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d9bd639 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"d9bd639\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"LE_WEBINAIRE_comment_se_cree-t-on_une_blessure_du_passe\"><\/span><span>LE W\u00c9BINAIRE comment se cr\u00e9e-t-on une blessure du pass\u00e9? <\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-03240cd elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"03240cd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 18px; letter-spacing: 1.1px;\">Enregistre-toi d\u00e8s maintenant \u00e0 ma newsletter et re\u00e7ois le replay du w\u00e9binaire <span lang=\"FR-CH\">comment se cr\u00e9e-t-on une blessure du pass\u00e9\u00a0?\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-eca90c6\" data-id=\"eca90c6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-07cd32d elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"07cd32d\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-7656d5e\" data-id=\"7656d5e\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-643a902 elementor-widget elementor-widget-shortcode\" data-id=\"643a902\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"shortcode.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-shortcode\"><script src=https:\/\/sandy-kaufmann.mykajabi.com\/forms\/2149274795\/embed.js><\/script><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6962fcf elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6962fcf\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>* Champs obligatoires<\/p><p>Si tu t&rsquo;abonnes \u00e0 ma newsletter, tu recevras \u00e9galement des offres. Tu peux te d\u00e9sabonner \u00e0 tout moment. Merci de lire ma <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/politique-de-confidentialite\/\"> Politique de confidentialit\u00e9 <\/a> pour voir comment je traite les donn\u00e9es.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-0508146 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"0508146\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-ab46ca8\" data-id=\"ab46ca8\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c27c54d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c27c54d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"i-3\"><\/span>\u00a0<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p><strong>Forme n\u00b03 Tu dis le contraire ou une variante de ce que tu veux vraiment <\/strong><\/p><p>C&rsquo;est le syndrome de la MENTEUSE.<\/p><p>J&rsquo;en parle en connaissance de cause, je l&rsquo;ai pratiqu\u00e9 pendant des ann\u00e9es. La menteuse veut \u00e9viter les conflits pour \u00e9viter de blesser les autres et pour arriver \u00e0 faire cela, elle dit une version \u00e9dulcor\u00e9e fausse ou contradictoire de ce qu&rsquo;elle veut vraiment.<\/p><p>Cette trahison constante de soi non seulement augmente \u00e0 long terme les conflits relationnels (car tu pars du principe que les autres ne disent pas non plus ce qu&rsquo;ils veulent vraiment, puisque ton environnement ressent que tu mens), mais surtout g\u00e9n\u00e8re en toi beaucoup de frustration et de col\u00e8re retenue.<\/p><p>Cela peut prendre diff\u00e9rentes formes:<\/p><ul><li>Tu n&rsquo;oses pas dire ce que tu veux, par peur des repr\u00e9sailles<\/li><li>Tu ne dis pas ce que tu veux, car tu penses ne pas y avoir le droit\/le m\u00e9riter<\/li><li>Tu dis ce que tu penses que l&rsquo;autre veut entendre de toi<\/li><\/ul><p><strong>Une m\u00eame cause, la trahison de soi<\/strong><\/p><p>Cette forme de non-alignement arrive souvent quand tu as pu exp\u00e9rimenter les cons\u00e9quences n\u00e9gatives d&rsquo;\u00eatre soi dans ta relation aux autres: \u2018Je perds l&rsquo;amour\u2019 explique pour toi que tu pr\u00e9f\u00e8res te trahir maintenant. (Regarde mon article sur la <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/blessure-trahison-amour-lise-bourbeau\/\">blessure de la trahison<\/a> pour voir les autres impacts de cette blessure dans ta vie amoureuse).<\/p><p>Regarde mon webinaire pass\u00e9 gratuit pour comprendre comment tu as pu te cr\u00e9er ce sch\u00e9ma.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-f8845e5 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"f8845e5\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-ef9d078\" data-id=\"ef9d078\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-d571f38 elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"d571f38\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-dfe175c\" data-id=\"dfe175c\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-50271cb elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"50271cb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-8f8d2c0 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"8f8d2c0\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-5ef3f70\" data-id=\"5ef3f70\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-48870d3 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"48870d3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Pour toi<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-06b1c02 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"06b1c02\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"LE_WEBINAIRE_comment_se_cree-t-on_une_blessure_du_passe-2\"><\/span><span>LE W\u00c9BINAIRE comment se cr\u00e9e-t-on une blessure du pass\u00e9? <\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8ca31f8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8ca31f8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 18px; letter-spacing: 1.1px;\">Enregistre-toi d\u00e8s maintenant \u00e0 ma newsletter et re\u00e7ois le replay du w\u00e9binaire <span lang=\"FR-CH\">comment se cr\u00e9e-t-on une blessure du pass\u00e9\u00a0?\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-b72f5e7\" data-id=\"b72f5e7\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-9fe327a elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"9fe327a\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-04b206c\" data-id=\"04b206c\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-21b3937 elementor-widget elementor-widget-shortcode\" data-id=\"21b3937\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"shortcode.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-shortcode\"><script src=https:\/\/sandy-kaufmann.mykajabi.com\/forms\/2149274795\/embed.js><\/script><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b037d52 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b037d52\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>* Champs obligatoires<\/p><p>Si tu t&rsquo;abonnes \u00e0 ma newsletter, tu recevras \u00e9galement des offres. Tu peux te d\u00e9sabonner \u00e0 tout moment. Merci de lire ma <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/politique-de-confidentialite\/\"> Politique de confidentialit\u00e9 <\/a> pour voir comment je traite les donn\u00e9es.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-d34a145 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"d34a145\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-b1f47c4\" data-id=\"b1f47c4\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-06fca0c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"06fca0c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"i-4\"><\/span>\u00a0<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p><strong>Forme n\u00b04 Tu laisses faire quand les autres vont \u00e0 l&rsquo;encontre de ce que tu veux<\/strong><\/p><p><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>La derni\u00e8re forme de non-alignement est un non-alignement par omission, c&rsquo;est-\u00e0-dire que tu sais ce que tu veux, tu sais le communiquer clairement mais tu ne r\u00e9agis pas si quelqu&rsquo;un va \u00e0 l&rsquo;encontre de ce que tu veux.<\/p><p>Attention, ici je ne dis pas que l&rsquo;autre doit faire tout ce que tu veux, mais que c&rsquo;est ton devoir de choisir ta mani\u00e8re de r\u00e9agir si cela se produit.<\/p><p>\u00a0Ce non-alignement peut prendre diff\u00e9rentes formes:<\/p><ul><li>Tu restes en couple dans une relation qui ne te convient pas<\/li><li>Tu adaptes syst\u00e9matiquement ton envie de t\u2019engager dans la relation et ta vitesse d\u2019engagement \u00e0 l&rsquo;autre<\/li><li>Tu \u201ct\u2019arranges\u201d pour obtenir ce que tu veux diff\u00e9remment. Par exemple en faisant un enfant pour \u201c\u00e9tablir\u201d la relation, en t\u2019installant peu \u00e0 peu chez lui, dans son cercle, alors qu&rsquo;il ne veut rien de s\u00e9rieux etc.<\/li><\/ul><p>Ici la cause est souvent un m\u00e9lange entre l&rsquo;abandon et la trahison de soi.<\/p><p><strong>Reconstruis peu \u00e0 peu ton alignement <\/strong><\/p><p>Je te rassure, on est tous d&rsquo;une certaine mani\u00e8re non-align\u00e9s sous diff\u00e9rentes intensit\u00e9s.<\/p><p>La premi\u00e8re \u00e9tape est pour moi de viser la cause de ce non-alignement, en travaillant sur les blessures de ton pass\u00e9 qui ont g\u00e9n\u00e9r\u00e9 ce comportement. C&rsquo;est ce que je propose dans mon programme <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvriralamour\/\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019Amour<\/a>. Car une fois la cause travaill\u00e9e, il est plus facile de changer son comportement.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-60ff52df elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"60ff52df\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-38c4690c\" data-id=\"38c4690c\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2f1e96de elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"2f1e96de\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvriralamour\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">S'ouvrir \u00e0 l'amour<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-ed513a4 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"ed513a4\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-04c9332\" data-id=\"04c9332\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-def7ba6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"def7ba6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>Ensuite, devenir align\u00e9e est un travail qui prend du temps et il est illusoire de penser que tu vas passer de 0% d&rsquo;alignement \u00e0 100% d&rsquo;alignement, bien souvent parce que tu ne te rends pas toujours compte quand tu n\u2019es pas align\u00e9e.<\/p><p>\u00c0 cet effet je te propose de pratiquer le journal \u00e0 mensonges qui va t&rsquo;aider \u00e0 te rendre compte des situations dans lesquelles tu n&rsquo;es pas align\u00e9e et de ce que tu peux faire pour le corriger. Le journal \u00e0 mensonges consiste \u00e0 noter \u00e0 la fin de chaque journ\u00e9e:<\/p><ul><li>Toutes les fois o\u00f9 tu as dit oui alors que tu voulais dire non<\/li><li>Toutes les fois o\u00f9 tu as agi autrement de ce que tu voulais<\/li><li>Et donne-toi le droit de corriger ce non-alignement a posteriori ou de le prendre comme le\u00e7on pour la prochaine fois.<\/li><\/ul><p>Cet outil je l&rsquo;ai cr\u00e9\u00e9 au d\u00e9part pour moi et pratiqu\u00e9 pendant plus de 3 ans et tu verras, c&rsquo;est magique tu vas reprendre ton pouvoir et te conna\u00eetre de mieux en mieux!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-6ef8767a elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6ef8767a\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-367846f7\" data-id=\"367846f7\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-154cb396 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"154cb396\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Pour_aller_plus_loin\"><\/span>Pour aller plus loin<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3e7c2acd elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3e7c2acd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu as envie d\u2019approfondir le sujet et d\u2019identifier tes propres sch\u00e9mas amoureux tu as <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-souvrir-a-lamour-et-si-la-solution-se-trouvait-du-cote-du-nerf-vague\/\">mon livre <\/a><\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-souvrir-a-lamour-et-si-la-solution-se-trouvait-du-cote-du-nerf-vague\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> disponible dans toutes les librairies.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-5a22f110 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"5a22f110\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-3519a05c\" data-id=\"3519a05c\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-384cfe07 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"384cfe07\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><p><span style=\"font-size: 30px;\">Et enfin si tu es pr\u00eate \u00e0 t\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour et \u00e0 transformer ta vie amoureuse je t\u2019invite \u00e0 rejoindre mon programme de coaching <\/span><a style=\"font-size: 30px; background-color: #ffffff;\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvrir-a-lamour\/\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour<\/a><span style=\"font-size: 30px;\">.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-74c1bc6c elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-global elementor-global-38034 elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"74c1bc6c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvrir-a-lamour\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span 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