{"id":31126,"date":"2021-01-02T10:57:00","date_gmt":"2021-01-02T10:57:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=31126"},"modified":"2025-10-15T04:36:22","modified_gmt":"2025-10-15T04:36:22","slug":"attentes-en-couple","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/attentes-en-couple\/","title":{"rendered":"Peut-on avoir des attentes en couple?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"31126\" class=\"elementor elementor-31126\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-425c4126 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"425c4126\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-78efbdf6\" data-id=\"78efbdf6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4a0604d8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4a0604d8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">Attentes dans son couple: destructrices ou normales? <\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3121797e elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3121797e\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-7360bdfb\" data-id=\"7360bdfb\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-779e9c38 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"779e9c38\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>    h3 {color: #7A7A7A;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><p>Tu <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/les-stades-dune-relation-amoureuse\/\">viens de te mettre en couple <\/a>et tu n&rsquo;oses pas dire de suite ce que tu veux, par exemple que tu veux avoir une relation s\u00e9rieuse, te marier, avoir des enfants, par peur de le faire fuir.<\/p><p>Ou bien la relation n&rsquo;avance pas au rythme que tu aimerais et quand tu le communiques l&rsquo;autre te dit que tu lui mets trop la pression.<\/p><p>Ou enfin, quand tu demandes plus d&rsquo;attention, que tu voudrais faire plus de choses en couple, l&rsquo;autre te dit qu&rsquo;il te donne d\u00e9j\u00e0 beaucoup plus qu\u2019\u00e0 son ancien partenaire et que tu es trop exigeante.<\/p><p>\u00a0Si cela te parle alors cet article est pour toi.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bef1b6d elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"bef1b6d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" 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data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d4b1563 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"d4b1563\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5abb3fb7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5abb3fb7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Nest-on_pas_cense_combler_ses_besoins_soi-meme_et_ne_pas_avoir_dattente_envers_les_autres\"><\/span>N&rsquo;<strong>est-on pas cens\u00e9 combler ses besoins soi-m\u00eame et ne pas avoir d&rsquo;attente envers les autres?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>C&rsquo;est une phrase que l&rsquo;on entend beaucoup en d\u00e9veloppement personnel: que l&rsquo;autre n&rsquo;est pas cens\u00e9 combler nos besoins, que l&rsquo;on doit combler ses besoins soi-m\u00eame et que l&rsquo;on doit \u00eatre avec quelqu&rsquo;un juste pour le plaisir d&rsquo;\u00eatre \u00e0 deux, que l&rsquo;amour v\u00e9ritable commence quand il n&rsquo;y a plus d&rsquo;attente.<\/p><p>Cette phrase porte souvent \u00e0 confusion dans sa mise en pratique:<\/p><ul><li>Est-ce que cela veut dire que je n&rsquo;ai aucun droit de demander quelque chose \u00e0 l&rsquo;autre?<\/li><li>Est-ce que cela veut dire que si je veux quelque chose, aussi j&rsquo;ai un besoin dans une relation, et que l&rsquo;autre ne veut pas le satisfaire, je dois le combler moi-m\u00eame?<\/li><\/ul><p>Si l&rsquo;autre n&rsquo;est certes pas responsable et oblig\u00e9 de r\u00e9pondre \u00e0 tous tes besoins, tu es en droit d&rsquo;avoir des attentes dans ton couple:<\/p><ul><li>De savoir o\u00f9 votre relation va<\/li><li>De vouloir te projeter dans le futur<\/li><li>De vouloir le voir suffisamment souvent et d&rsquo;\u00eatre int\u00e9gr\u00e9e dans sa vie<\/li><\/ul><p>Car ces attentes-l\u00e0 tu ne peux pas les combler sans la collaboration de l&rsquo;autre.<\/p><p>Et c&rsquo;est ta responsabilit\u00e9 de communiquer clairement \u00e0 l&rsquo;autre ce que tu veux, pour que l&rsquo;autre puisse se positionner face \u00e0 tes attentes et voir si elles sont compatibles avec les siennes.<\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"La_dependance_saine\"><\/span><strong>La d\u00e9pendance saine<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>Dans toutes relations il y a une d\u00e9pendance de l&rsquo;autre, tout simplement parce que tu ne peux pas faire certaines choses \u00e0 deux sans l&rsquo;accord de l&rsquo;autre: tu ne peux pas forcer l&rsquo;autre \u00e0 t&rsquo;aimer, tu ne peux pas avancer dans la relation si l&rsquo;autre ne le souhaite pas, tu ne peux pas avoir des enfants si l&rsquo;autre ne le veut pas (enfin, si, tu peux techniquement faire un enfant dans le dos, mais c\u2019est plut\u00f4t \u00e0 \u00e9viter).<\/p><p>Ces d\u00e9cisions se prennent \u00e0 deux et tu es d\u00e9pendante de l&rsquo;autre pour la r\u00e9alisation ou pas de ces d\u00e9cisions.<\/p><p>Cette d\u00e9pendance-l\u00e0 est saine et in\u00e9vitable (attention, la d\u00e9pendance affective c\u2019est un autre sujet dont je parle <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/se-liberer-de-la-dependance-affective\/\">ici<\/a>).<\/p><p>Et elle demande \u00e0 chaque partenaire de communiquer clairement ses attentes et ses besoins (je t\u2019en parle encore plus dans cet article sur le <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/le-secret-des-couples-qui-durent\/\">secret des couples qui durent<\/a>).<\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Que_faire_alors_quand_lautre_ne_repond_pas_a_tes_attentes\"><\/span><strong>Que faire alors quand l&rsquo;autre ne r\u00e9pond pas \u00e0 tes attentes?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>C&rsquo;est l\u00e0 que la responsabilit\u00e9 de combler toi-m\u00eame tes besoins intervient.<\/p><p>Quand tu as clairement communiqu\u00e9 tes attentes et tes besoins, tu peux te poser les questions suivantes:<\/p><ul><li>Est-ce que cette attente ou ce besoin est r\u00e9ellement important pour moi?<\/li><li>Est-ce que je peux le r\u00e9aliser uniquement dans mon couple?<\/li><li>Quel est mon degr\u00e9 d&rsquo;urgence pour ce besoin (timing\/d\u00e9lai)?<\/li><li>Quelle d\u00e9cision je dois prendre pour rester align\u00e9e avec mon attente et mon besoin?<\/li><\/ul><p>Tu remarques ici que je ne te dis pas de baisser tes attentes, mais de d\u00e9finir plus pr\u00e9cis\u00e9ment ton degr\u00e9 d&rsquo;urgence et de rester align\u00e9e par rapport \u00e0 cela.<\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Baisser_tes_attentes_ou_les_oublier_ne_va_pas_aider_a_faire_marcher_la_relation\"><\/span><strong>Baisser tes attentes ou les oublier ne va pas aider \u00e0 faire marcher la relation<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>Te sur-adapter \u00e0 l&rsquo;autre ne va faire qu&#8217;empirer la situation:<\/p><ul><li>Parce que ton degr\u00e9 de frustration va augmenter<\/li><li>Parce que l&rsquo;autre n\u2019aura aucune incitation \u00e0 revoir son timing personnel ou son positionnement pour aller dans ton sens<\/li><li>Parce que tu vas augmenter ta dette relationnelle en t\u2019oubliant. Ce qui pourra l&rsquo;inciter \u00e0 partir s&rsquo;il devient trop \u201cendett\u00e9\u201d relationnellement (voir mon article sur <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/la-dette-relationnelle-ou-comment-avoir-des-relations-equilibrees-avec-les-autres\/\">la dette relationnelle ici<\/a>)<\/li><\/ul><p>Si c&rsquo;est difficile pour toi de communiquer tes attentes, c&rsquo;est que tu as appris par le pass\u00e9 que tu n\u2019avais pas le droit d\u2019avoir des attentes. Regarde mon webinaire pass\u00e9 pour savoir comment tu as pu enregistrer cela.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-84bf1ec elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"84bf1ec\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-0bef51a\" data-id=\"0bef51a\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-3281797 elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3281797\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-74c4ec9\" data-id=\"74c4ec9\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a58135c elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"a58135c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-7fd8f95 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7fd8f95\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-608a5f7\" data-id=\"608a5f7\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-32adb25 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"32adb25\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Pour toi<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c2145b2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"c2145b2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"LE_WEBINAIRE_comment_se_cree-t-on_une_blessure_du_passe\"><\/span><span>LE W\u00c9BINAIRE comment se cr\u00e9e-t-on une blessure du pass\u00e9? 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Tu peux te d\u00e9sabonner \u00e0 tout moment. Merci de lire ma <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/politique-de-confidentialite\/\"> Politique de confidentialit\u00e9 <\/a> pour voir comment je traite les donn\u00e9es.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-0b61fe5 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"0b61fe5\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-8a33216\" data-id=\"8a33216\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a104984 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a104984\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Ose_augmenter_tes_attentes\"><\/span><strong>Ose augmenter tes attentes<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>Au risque de te choquer, je demande le plus souvent \u00e0 mes clientes d&rsquo;augmenter leurs attentes, car tu es en droit d&rsquo;avoir un engagement clair de ton partenaire, de te sentir int\u00e9gr\u00e9e dans sa vie, de te sentir respect\u00e9e et \u00e9cout\u00e9e dans la relation.<\/p><p>Un moyen tr\u00e8s simple de savoir si ton attente est normale est de te poser la question de ce que tu accepterais d&rsquo;une amie ou dans ton job:<\/p><ul><li>Est-ce que tu accepterais qu&rsquo;une amie te demande toujours \u00e0 la derni\u00e8re minute de la voir?<\/li><li>Est-ce que tu accepterais que cette amie te cache \u00e0 ses autres amis?<\/li><li>Est-ce que tu resterais toujours amie avec cette amie si elle te manquerait de respect?<\/li><li>Est-ce que tu resterais amie avec cette amie si vous faisiez seulement ce qu&rsquo;elle veut?<\/li><li>Est-ce que tu accepterais de commencer un job sans savoir si c&rsquo;est un contrat temporaire ou ind\u00e9termin\u00e9? Ici, il convient de clarifier l\u2019intention, car dans tous les cas l\u2019arr\u00eat de la relation est toujours possible.<\/li><\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Pour_augmenter_tes_attentes_ose_augmenter_tes_standards\"><\/span>Pour <strong>augmenter tes attentes ose augmenter tes standards<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>Comment les autres te traitent est le reflet de comment tu te traites toi-m\u00eame. Plus tu vas t&rsquo;aimer et te respecter, moins tu seras pr\u00eate \u00e0 tout accepter de l&rsquo;autre sous n&rsquo;importe quelles conditions.<\/p><p>T\u00e9l\u00e9charge cette m\u00e9ditation gratuite pour d\u00e9velopper plus d&rsquo;amour envers toi-m\u00eame.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-9851577 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"9851577\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-d3a2bc8\" data-id=\"d3a2bc8\" data-element_type=\"column\" 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