{"id":2744,"date":"2019-06-24T08:21:11","date_gmt":"2019-06-24T08:21:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=2744"},"modified":"2025-10-15T05:07:39","modified_gmt":"2025-10-15T05:07:39","slug":"la-dette-relationnelle-ou-comment-avoir-des-relations-equilibrees-avec-les-autres","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/la-dette-relationnelle-ou-comment-avoir-des-relations-equilibrees-avec-les-autres\/","title":{"rendered":"La dette relationnelle ou comment avoir des relations \u00e9quilibr\u00e9es avec les autres?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"2744\" class=\"elementor elementor-2744\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2b46eb95 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"2b46eb95\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-1b2ca64\" data-id=\"1b2ca64\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7b6002c8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"7b6002c8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">La dette relationnelle ou comment avoir des relations \u00e9quilibr\u00e9es avec les autres?<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-295e082d elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"295e082d\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-1a1ac55\" data-id=\"1a1ac55\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-38da6974 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"38da6974\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div>\n<style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>\nfont-size: 34px;}<br \/>\n  <\/style>\n<\/div>\n<p>Je vous entends d\u00e9j\u00e0 dire \u00abComment \u00e7a une dette relationnelle ? Quand on est ami ou partenaire avec quelqu\u2019un, on ne doit pas compter.\u00bb<br>Ce \u00e0 quoi je vous r\u00e9ponds : \u00ab Comment vous sentez-vous dans une relation amoureuse qui ne va que dans un sens ou quand votre copine vous demande un \u00e9ni\u00e8me service sans vous rendre la pareille ? \u00bb<br>\u00c9nerv\u00e9e, utilis\u00e9e peut-\u00eatre ou vous allez vous \u00e9loigner sans le r\u00e9aliser consciemment.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Les_criteres_devaluation_de_votre_dette_relationnelle\"><\/span>Les crit\u00e8res d\u2019\u00e9valuation de votre dette relationnelle ?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Selon moi, une relation harmonieuse est une relation dans laquelle \u00ab le prendre, le donner et le recevoir \u00bb sont per\u00e7us par les partis concern\u00e9s comme \u00e9quilibr\u00e9s, qu&rsquo;il y a une satisfaction mutuelle. Ce qui permet de mettre en lumi\u00e8re deux crit\u00e8res importants pour une relation \u00e9quilibr\u00e9e :<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Un besoin d\u2019\u00e9quilibre \u00ab entre le prendre, le donner et le recevoir \u00bb<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>La perception des partis concern\u00e9s<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Voici un exemple pour illustrer mon propos. Si vous \u00eates une amie qui aime beaucoup aider ou rendre des services \u00e0 votre meilleure copine, vous pouvez percevoir la relation comme \u00e9quilibr\u00e9e si cette amie vous remercie pour ce que vous avez fait pour elle ou alors vous aurez besoin que cette derni\u00e8re vous rende la pareille \u00e0 d\u2019autres occasions.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Autre facteur important : le facteur temps<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Quand il s\u2019agit d\u2019une longue relation (amiti\u00e9s ou couples de longues dates), le facteur temps entre aussi en jeu. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Si je reprends l\u2019exemple de cette meilleure amie qui aime rendre service, celle-ci sera encline \u00e0 donner plus sans rien attendre en retour (autrement dit \u00e0 se mettre en \u00ab n\u00e9gatif \u00bb) si son amie traverse une phase difficile par exemple.<\/p>\n<p>Cela explique aussi pourquoi certaines crises de couple perdurent dans la dur\u00e9e, car un partenaire s\u2019estime toujours en \u00ab n\u00e9gatif \u00bb par rapport \u00e0 l\u2019autre (ce partenaire peut n\u2019avoir pas re\u00e7u suffisamment de soutien de son partenaire dans une phase personnelle difficile ou bien il a au contraire trop donn\u00e9 pour aider son partenaire dans une phase difficile et n\u2019a pas eu la reconnaissance souhait\u00e9e).<\/p>\n<p>Pour r\u00e9soudre cela de mani\u00e8re d\u00e9finitive, il faudrait que l\u2019autre partenaire r\u00e9alise sa \u00ab dette \u00bb relationnelle et fasse un effort suppl\u00e9mentaire par rapport \u00e0 la \u00ab dose \u00bb d\u2019attention habituelle. Cela demande au partenaire en n\u00e9gatif de demander consciemment le remboursement de sa dette.<\/p>\n<p><strong>La mani\u00e8re de g\u00e9rer ses dettes relationnelles est souvent refl\u00e9t\u00e9e dans la mani\u00e8re dont on g\u00e8re son argent <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Et souvent on sait g\u00e9rer ses dettes relationnelles comme on g\u00e8re son argent : \u00ab \u00cates-vous toujours \u00e0 sec sans \u00e9conomies ? \u00bb Alors vous risquez fortement d\u2019\u00eatre celui qui veut faire plaisir \u00e0 tout le monde ou la m\u00e8re Teresa dans vos relations. \u00ab \u00cates-vous au contraire l\u2019\u00e9conome ? \u00bb Posez-vous la question si vous exprimez suffisamment votre reconnaissance \u00e0 vos proches ou si vous estimez cela comme un du. Et comme pour son argent, si on ne veille pas \u00e0 bien g\u00e9rer ses dettes relationnelles, les relations risquent \u00e0 terme de casser.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Alors_comment_gerer_cette_dette_relationnelle\"><\/span>Alors comment g\u00e9rer cette dette relationnelle ?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>C\u2019est en fait simple. Pour chacune de vos relations :<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>\u00c9valuer votre perception de l\u2019\u00e9quilibre entre \u00ab le prendre, le donner et le recevoir. \u00bb<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Essayer d\u2019estimer la perception de l\u2019autre. Vous pouvez la deviner en observant le comportement de l\u2019autre personne (\u00e9loignement ou rapprochement, reproche ou compliment).<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Ensuite posez-vous la question si cet \u00e9quilibre vous convient ou pas. S\u2019il ne vous convient pas, adaptez votre comportement (prendre plus ou moins, donner plus ou moins, recevoir vous ne pouvez pas l\u2019influencer directement). Si vous d\u00e9cidez de donner moins, communiquer \u00e0 l\u2019autre pourquoi vous changez votre comportement.<br>Quand vous commencez \u00e0 faire cette \u00e9valuation, il est possible que vous vous posiez cette question : \u00ab Mais je demande peut-\u00eatre trop ? \u00bb La r\u00e9ponse est simple. Si vous avez r\u00e9ellement ce besoin, alors vous devez le respecter, vous ne vous cr\u00e9ez pas des besoins pour emb\u00eater les autres. Ce que vous pouvez vous poser comme question, c\u2019est si vous avez un moyen de vous-m\u00eame combler ce besoin sans d\u00e9pendre de l\u2019autre.<br>Quand on devient conscient de cette dette relationnelle, on peut aussi aider nos amies qui en font trop, en prenant moins (en refusant son aide) ou en donnant plus (de reconnaissance par exemple) pour \u00e9quilibrer la dette relationnelle dans la relation et \u00e9viter qu\u2019elle ne casse.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Et_si_je_continue_a_mendetter\"><\/span>Et si je continue \u00e0 m\u2019endetter?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Une fois que vous avez fait cette \u00e9valuation pour toutes vos relations, cela vous permet aussi de voir en vous si certains sch\u00e9mas relationnels (toujours donner trop) se r\u00e9p\u00e8tent et s\u2019il y a un travail de r\u00e9\u00e9quilibrage plus profond \u00e0 effectuer, qui n\u00e9cessite de chercher dans votre pass\u00e9 ce qui a g\u00e9n\u00e9r\u00e9 ce m\u00e9canisme relationnel d\u00e9s\u00e9quilibr\u00e9 et corriger cet automatisme.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #e88a7e; 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