{"id":1075030,"date":"2025-02-24T14:03:27","date_gmt":"2025-02-24T14:03:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1075030"},"modified":"2025-10-13T14:33:06","modified_gmt":"2025-10-13T14:33:06","slug":"153-les-4-categories-de-schemas-amoureux","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/153-les-4-categories-de-schemas-amoureux\/","title":{"rendered":"153. Les 4 cat\u00e9gories de sch\u00e9mas amoureux"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1075030\" class=\"elementor elementor-1075030\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ed86594 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ed86594\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6ea7bd98\" data-id=\"6ea7bd98\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d639127 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3d639127\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">Les 4 cat\u00e9gories de sch\u00e9mas amoureux<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-62d37295 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62d37295\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4e162bd6\" data-id=\"4e162bd6\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-376509b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"376509b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cet \u00e9pisode fait partie d\u2019un trio d\u2019\u00e9pisodes qui a pour but de te pr\u00e9senter mon approche du coaching amoureux.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dans <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/152-l-impact-du-systeme-nerveux-dans-tes-relations\/\">l\u2019\u00e9pisode 152<\/a>, je t\u2019explique pourquoi ton syst\u00e8me nerveux impacte ta mani\u00e8re de relationner.\u00a0<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dans cet \u00e9pisode je vais te d\u00e9crire les 4 grandes cat\u00e9gories de sch\u00e9mas selon mon observation empirique aupr\u00e8s des personnes que j\u2019ai pu observer.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dans <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/154-les-3-etats-de-ton-systeme-nerveux-et-lechelle-poly-vagale\/\">l\u2019\u00e9pisode 154<\/a> j\u2019irai plus en d\u00e9tail sur les 3 \u00e9tats de ton syst\u00e8me nerveux et l\u2019\u00e9chelle poly-vagale.<\/span>\n\n&nbsp;\n\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color: #eeeeee;\">\u2764\ufe0f Regarde <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/inscriptionblessurepasse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">mon w\u00e9binaire <\/a><\/strong>sur comment \u00eatre enfin heureux\/se en Amour!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a620e1c elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-shortcode\" data-id=\"a620e1c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"shortcode.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-shortcode\"><iframe name=\"Ausha Podcast Player\" frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" id=\"ausha-BAOG\" height=\"220\" style=\"border: none; width:100%; height:220px\" src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/?showId=bjPkYiPMPlqo&color=%23d13523&podcastId=yJ4lZhjKrkw6&v=3&playerId=ausha-BAOG\"><\/iframe><script src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/ausha-player.js\"><\/script>\n<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b8d8830 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"b8d8830\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/7TcGtPn4614&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4dc2b12 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4dc2b12\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_voies_et_4_categories_de_schemas_amoureux_en_Amour\"><\/span>2 voies et 4 cat\u00e9gories de sch\u00e9mas amoureux en Amour <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3574bfe elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3574bfe\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sur la base de ce que j\u2019ai pu observer avec les 450 coach\u00e9s que j\u2019ai eu l\u2019honneur d\u2019accompagner, et si tu tiens compte que comme je l\u2019ai d\u00e9cris dans <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/152-l-impact-du-systeme-nerveux-dans-tes-relations\/\">l\u2019\u00e9pisode 152<\/a> que ton syst\u00e8me nerveux veut assurer ta survie, il y a 4 cat\u00e9gories de sch\u00e9mas amoureux qui se regroupent en 2 voies\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>La voie de la menace<\/b> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Le monde (y compris les autres) est mena\u00e7ant, ce que je fais ou je ne fais pas influence le niveau de menace ext\u00e9rieure et donc influence aussi ma capacit\u00e9 \u00e0 cr\u00e9er du lien, \u00e0 \u00eatre heureuse en amour.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>La voie du rejet<\/b> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ce que je suis ou ne suis pas m\u2019emp\u00eache d\u2019\u00eatre en lien. Quoique je fasse, je n\u2019ai pas ma place ou je n\u2019ai pas de soutien du lien.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ce qui est assez logique finalement. Si tes sch\u00e9mas amoureux sont enregistr\u00e9s dans ton syst\u00e8me nerveux, qui est ton syst\u00e8me de survie, il n\u2019y a que 2 choses qui peuvent nuire \u00e0 ta survie \u00e0 savoir\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Le niveau de menace et ta capacit\u00e9 personnelle \u00e0 faire face \u00e0 cette menace. Un loup n\u2019aura pas peur d\u2019un lapin mais s\u2019il confronte un ours, la menace est autre.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">L\u2019appartenance au groupe. Un loup exclu de sa meute ne va pas \u00eatre capable de faire face \u00e0 la menace de la m\u00eame mani\u00e8re qu\u2019un loup entour\u00e9 de sa meute.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><b><i>La voie de la menace<\/i><\/b><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La voie de la menace regroupe 3 m\u00e9canismes class\u00e9s par ordre crescendo d\u2019intensit\u00e9\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Le <\/span><b>non-alignement <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">c\u2019est quand tu fais quelque chose de contraire \u00e0 ce que tu voudrais pour t\u2019adapter \u00e0 ton environnement (tu te sacrifies pour minimiser la menace) et au final maximiser tes chances d\u2019\u00eatre aim\u00e9 (pour rappel: rester en lien est essentiel \u00e0 ta survie). Tu sais ce que tu veux mais tu priorises ce que les autres attendent de toi.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">L\u2019<\/span><b>absence de limites <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">est le niveau au-dessus. Tu as tellement \u00e9t\u00e9 non-align\u00e9 ou irrespect\u00e9 que tu ne sais plus distinguer quelles sont tes propres limites, tes propres besoins et tu vas soit dans le trop ou dans le flou. C\u2019est comme s\u2019il n\u2019y avait plus de barri\u00e8re en toi et les autres.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>L\u2019impuissance face au non-contr\u00f4le et \u00e0 l\u2019inconnu<\/b><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Ce m\u00e9canisme survient quand le niveau de menace est soudain ou suffisamment intense et que tu n\u2019as pas eu de contr\u00f4le sur la situation. Il peut enclencher 2 r\u00e9actions oppos\u00e9es\u00a0: soit tu cherches \u00e0 garder le contr\u00f4le \u00e0 tout prix ou tu bloques et tu subis m\u00eame si int\u00e9rieurement tu veux agir.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p>\u00a0<\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Categorie_1_Le_non-alignement\"><\/span><b><i>Cat\u00e9gorie 1\u00a0: Le non-alignement\u00a0<\/i><\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Le non-alignement est un m\u00e9canisme d\u2019<\/span><b>adaptation de ton faire <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">pour diminuer la menace ext\u00e9rieure ou maintenir le lien. En amour, ce m\u00e9canisme se montre sous diff\u00e9rentes formes\u00a0:\u00a0<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"list-style-type: none;\"><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">L<\/span><b>\u2019auto-trahison. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu connais tes limites mais tu ne respectes pas tes propres limites (ce que tu dis ou ce que tu fais ne sont pas align\u00e9s avec tes propres limites ou besoins), tu communiques tes limites mais laisses les autres empi\u00e9ter sur tes limites (tu ne r\u00e9agis pas), tu te mens \u00e0 toi-m\u00eame et minimise les actions de l\u2019autre (tu sous-\u00e9values).<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>fuis les situations<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> o\u00f9 tu ressens un non-alignement au lieu d\u2019aller confronter, par exemple en \u00e9vitant de clarifier le status de la relation avec ton crush.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>vas vite dans les projections<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> au lieu d\u2019observer les faits ( fuite par la pens\u00e9e), par exemple tu agis comme si tu \u00e9tais en couple apr\u00e8s quelques dates alors que ton date n\u2019a pas encore clairement dit qu\u2019il souhaite s\u2019engager avec toi ou les \u00ab\u00a0signes\u00a0\u00bb sont plus importants que les faits, par exemple tu consultes l\u2019horoscope ou les tarots, tu es attentif aux signes de l\u2019univers qui \u00ab\u00a0expliquent\u00a0\u00bb votre rencontre, tu restes dans une relation non \u00e9panouissante car tu penses que c\u2019est ta flamme jumelle.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>\u00ab\u00a0attaques\u00a0\u00bb avant qu\u2019il y ait une vraie menace<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. La meilleure d\u00e9fense \u00e9tant l\u2019attaque, tu te vois monter au quart de tour et anticiper le pire \u00e0 la moindre baisse d\u2019int\u00e9r\u00eat de ton partenaire.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu es <\/span><b>bloqu\u00e9 dans le faire<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Tu te sens impuissant face \u00e0 ta situation amoureuse et incapable de passer \u00e0 l\u2019action\u00a0: difficult\u00e9 \u00e0 te s\u00e9parer alors que tu n\u2019es pas heureux, difficult\u00e9 \u00e0 cr\u00e9er des opportunit\u00e9s de rencontres alors que tu veux \u00eatre en couple, difficult\u00e9 \u00e0 avoir une conversation difficile.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>adoptes un mod\u00e8le que tu connais<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Tu remarques que tu agis comme ta m\u00e8re ou ton p\u00e8re en relation (qui s\u2019oubliait, qui se sacrifiait, qui \u00e9tait soumis&#8230;) alors que consciemment tu rejettes son mod\u00e8le.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>es attir\u00e9 par un mod\u00e8le que tu connais.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Ton p\u00e8re ou ta m\u00e8re sont loin d\u2019\u00eatre des partenaires id\u00e9aux mais tu te rends compte que tu entres souvent en relation avec des partenaires qui ont les m\u00eames caract\u00e9ristiques n\u00e9gatives communes.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><\/ul><ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu as tellement \u00e9t\u00e9 non-align\u00e9 que tu te sens <\/span><b>bouillonner de col\u00e8re<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00e0 l\u2019int\u00e9rieur et tu as du mal \u00e0 communiquer sans agresser.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><b><\/b><br \/><br \/><\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Categorie_2_Labsence_de_limites\"><\/span><b><i>Cat\u00e9gorie 2\u00a0: L\u2019absence de limites\u00a0<\/i><\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dans ce m\u00e9canisme, tu n\u2019as plus vraiment conscience de la d\u00e9limitation entre l\u2019ext\u00e9rieur et toi, c\u2019est presque <\/span><b>difficile \u00e0 identifier si la menace vient de toi ou des autres<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. En amour, ce m\u00e9canisme se montre sous diff\u00e9rentes formes\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Tu n\u2019as pas vraiment conscience de tes limites<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Tu te rends compte apr\u00e8s coup que tes limites ont \u00e9t\u00e9 d\u00e9pass\u00e9es physiquement ou \u00e9motionnellement.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Tu te moules dans les attentes des autres pour plaire<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Ce m\u00e9canisme peut \u00eatre plus ou moins conscient et commencer par de la simple suradaptation (\u00ab\u00a0People pleasing\u00a0\u00bb) \u00e0 l\u2019impression d\u2019avoir v\u00e9cu pour les autres ou de t\u2019\u00eatre forg\u00e9 une identit\u00e9 qui refl\u00e8te ce que les autres attendent de toi et tu ne sais plus qui tu es vraiment. (Soumission)\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>L\u2019ind\u00e9cision<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Il y a eu tellement de non-respect de tes limites (par toi-m\u00eame ou les autres) que tu ne sais plus ce qui est bon ou mauvais pour toi, tu \u00e9vites de clarifier et restes dans le flou, tu as du mal \u00e0 faire le tri et \u00e0 te d\u00e9cider.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Tu donnes plus d\u2019importance \u00e0 l\u2019avis des autres<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ou \u00e0 celui de ton partenaire qu\u2019\u00e0 ton propre avis, tu as du mal \u00e0 \u00e9valuer une situation et manque de confiance en ton jugement.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu peux <\/span><b>avoir du mal \u00e0 \u00ab\u00a0fermer\u00a0\u00bb tes options<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0: rompre, garder tes flirts \u00ab\u00a0ouverts\u00a0\u00bb au cas o\u00f9, repousser le moment o\u00f9 tu vas prendre une d\u00e9cision sur la relation.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>L\u2019abus<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Tu es constamment dans le trop, dans l\u2019exc\u00e8s (trop manger, trop travailler, trop s\u2019occuper, trop analyser). En amour, cela se traduit par un sentiment que les relations te prennent toute ton \u00e9nergie, que tu aimes trop (trop, trop vite, trop fort, tu es accro aux \u00e9motions fortes), par le fait que tu adoptes le syndrome du sauveur (\u00ab\u00a0il\/elle a un pass\u00e9 charg\u00e9\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0il\/elle est dans une phase difficile\u00a0\u00bb) ou que tu <\/span><b>es accro au drame<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ou au chaos (les \u00ab\u00a0gentils\u00a0\u00bb t\u2019ennuient) ou enfin que tu acceptes l\u2019abus des autres. C\u2019est un niveau au-dessus de la trahison car tes m\u00e9canismes de r\u00e9action impliquent encore plus ton corps (burnout, addictions, troubles du comportement alimentaire, ruminations, anxi\u00e9t\u00e9, crise de panique, \u00e9puisement relationnel, comportements obsessionnels comme stalker ton crush sur les r\u00e9seaux, v\u00e9rifier son t\u00e9l\u00e9phone, dating burnout, accepter des choses que tu ne souhaites pas sexuellement, addiction sexuelle\u2026)<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p>\u00a0<\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Categorie_3_Limpuissance_face_au_non-controle_et_a_linconnu\"><\/span><b><i>Cat\u00e9gorie 3\u00a0: L\u2019impuissance face au non-contr\u00f4le et \u00e0 l\u2019inconnu\u00a0<\/i><\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dans ce m\u00e9canisme, tu es dans l\u2019<\/span><b>anticipation constante <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">de ce qui peut se passer pour \u00e9viter de subir \u00e0 nouveau le non-contr\u00f4le et l\u2019inconnu. En amour, ce m\u00e9canisme se montre sous diff\u00e9rentes formes\u00a0:\u00a0<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>es hypervigilant aux agissements de ton partenaire<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0: le nombre de fois o\u00f9 il\/elle t\u2019\u00e9crit, diff\u00e9rence dans ce qu\u2019il\/elle t\u2019\u00e9crit, dans ses marques d\u2019affection, dans le nombre de fois o\u00f9 vous faites l\u2019amour\u2026<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu te sens vite <\/span><b>en d\u00e9tresse dans les situations que tu ne peux pas contr\u00f4ler, par<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> exemple si ton partenaire ne r\u00e9agit pas comme d\u2019habitude, ne r\u00e9pond pas, si tu ne sais pas ses intentions, en cas de ghosting.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu as <\/span><b>peur de perdre le contr\u00f4le sur tes propres comportements<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0: tu as peur d\u2019\u00eatre trop \u00e9motif ou trop r\u00e9actif. Dans les faits, c\u2019est soit tu mets un couvercle et ne montres rien soit tu exploses.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu es <\/span><b>r\u00e9actif<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> et n\u2019arrives plus \u00e0 redescendre, \u00e0 te \u00ab\u00a0re-contr\u00f4ler\u00a0\u00bb.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu as <\/span><b>peur d\u2019oser te risquer<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> aux relations ou tu vas vers des partenaires sans risque mais qui ne te font pas vibrer.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Il est <\/span><b>difficile <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">pour toi de <\/span><b>te laisser aller \u00e0 tes sentiments<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> et d\u2019avoir le sentiment de \u00ab\u00a0perdre le contr\u00f4le\u00a0\u00bb.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu as <\/span><b>tendance \u00e0 vouloir contr\u00f4ler ton partenaire<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ou \u00e0 <\/span><b>assumer tout<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Tu as besoin de savoir et planifier. Ton partenaire se plaint d\u2019\u00e9touffer.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>restes dans le pass\u00e9<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> et n\u2019arrives plus \u00e0 tourner la page suite \u00e0 une rupture, quand tu te rappelles de certains \u00e9v\u00e9nements de ton enfance ou encore quand tu as fait une erreur que tu regrettes.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p>\u00a0<\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Categorie_4_Le_rejet_de_soi_ou_de_son_existence\"><\/span><b><i>Cat\u00e9gorie 4\u00a0: Le rejet de soi ou de son existence\u00a0<\/i><\/b><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ce m\u00e9canisme intervient quand tu as l\u2019<\/span><b>impression que quelque chose cloche en toi<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, que tu n\u2019es pas assez ou que qui tu es t\u2019emp\u00eache d\u2019\u00eatre en lien. En amour ce m\u00e9canisme se montre sous diff\u00e9rentes formes\u00a0:\u00a0<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu as l\u2019impression que tu dois te battre ou <\/span><b>m\u00e9riter ta place pour \u00eatre aim\u00e9<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Tu compenses ton \u00eatre par le faire mais cela ne change rien \u00e0 la situation.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu as le sentiment de <\/span><b>n\u2019\u00eatre jamais assez<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0: que ton physique, que ton \u00e2ge, que ton caract\u00e8re, ton intelligence\u2026 n\u2019est pas assez pour plaire.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu cherches \u00e0 <\/span><b>montrer une image parfaite de toi<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> et tu as du mal \u00e0 te montrer authentique.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu as le sentiment de ne pas avoir ta place, <\/span><b>d\u2019\u00eatre ind\u00e9sir\u00e9<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> et c\u2019est comme si l\u2019amour reste \u00e0 distance ou tu penses que l\u2019amour n\u2019est pas pour toi. Tu te sens exclu des groupes.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>ressens un manque affectif<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, un vide int\u00e9rieur que tu n\u2019arrives pas \u00e0 combler.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>te d\u00e9connectes de tes sensations<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, tu as ferm\u00e9 ton c\u0153ur et ton corps. Tu as du mal \u00e0 ressentir tes \u00e9motions, si tu es amoureux\/se ou pas ou \u00e0 ressentir du plaisir physiquement ou sexuellement.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu ne vois pas quand quelqu\u2019un te montre de l\u2019int\u00e9r\u00eat ou tu le vois mais n\u2019y crois pas.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>perds espoir <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(\u00e0 quoi bon) et peut avoir l\u2019impression de pas avoir de chance en amour ou dans la vie.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu peux avoir le sentiment de <\/span><b>ne plus ressentir de la joie<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, du plaisir ou de ne pas trouver un sens \u00e0 la vie.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>as l\u2019impression que c\u2019est plus facile pour les autres<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ou pour l\u2019autre sexe.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>te sens vite coupable<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> et retournes le combat contre toi-m\u00eame (honte toxique)\u00a0: \u00ab\u00a0c\u2019est ma faute si cela se passe comme cela\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0je ne m\u00e9rite pas de\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0j\u2019ai encore tout g\u00e2ch\u00e9 \u00bb \u00ab\u00a0tu te prends pour qui\u00a0\u00bb \u00ab\u00a0qui es-tu pour penser que ..\u00a0\u00bb. Ce m\u00e9canisme peut aller de la simple d\u00e9valorisation \u00e0 des comportements auto-destructeurs.<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f6b1f5c elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"f6b1f5c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Quid_des_5_blessures_de_Lise_Bourbeau\"><\/span>Quid des 5 blessures de Lise Bourbeau ?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8a0530c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8a0530c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu aimes comme moi le livre des 5 blessures de l\u2019\u00e2me de Lise Bourbeau, je te fais le lien entre les 2 voies que j\u2019ai identifi\u00e9 pr\u00e9c\u00e9demment et les 5 blessures\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Voie de la menace\u00a0: Blessure d\u2019abandon, de la trahison et de l\u2019humiliation<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Voie du rejet\u00a0: Blessure du rejet et de l\u2019injustice<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Comme je l\u2019expliquais dans l\u2019\u00e9pisode 152 pas tous les \u00e9v\u00e9nements ont le m\u00eame impact sur toi. Ton syst\u00e8me nerveux est ton syst\u00e8me de survie et il est possible que d\u2019autres m\u00e9canismes ou \u00e9v\u00e9nements impactent plus tes relations que les 5 blessures de Lise Bourbeau.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Je parle plus en d\u00e9tail des 5 Blessures de Lise Bourbeau dans <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/14-blessure-dabandon-comment-elle-se-manifeste-en-amour\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">les \u00e9pisodes 14 \u00e0 18<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> du podcast.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-831cf2a elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"831cf2a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Pour_aller_plus_loin\"><\/span>Pour aller plus loin<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e33e903 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e33e903\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu as envie d\u2019approfondir le sujet et d\u2019identifier tes propres sch\u00e9mas amoureux tu as mon livre <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> disponible dans toutes les librairies.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-71d83859 elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-content-middle elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-items-middle\" data-id=\"71d83859\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2528a3b5\" data-id=\"2528a3b5\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-26043217 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"26043217\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column 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https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-768x666.png 768w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-1536x1331.png 1536w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-600x520.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1771px) 100vw, 1771px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-6939cace\" data-id=\"6939cace\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-51bb85bb elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"51bb85bb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-medium\">S'ouvrir \u00e0 l'Amour<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-33f8d0df elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"33f8d0df\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Le livre qui va te permettre d'identifier tes sch\u00e9mas amoureux et te permettre d'apprendre les clefs pour construire une relation saine<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-1b874d70 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"1b874d70\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div 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