{"id":1075021,"date":"2025-02-17T13:53:06","date_gmt":"2025-02-17T13:53:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1075021"},"modified":"2025-10-13T14:35:31","modified_gmt":"2025-10-13T14:35:31","slug":"152-l-impact-du-systeme-nerveux-dans-tes-relations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/152-l-impact-du-systeme-nerveux-dans-tes-relations\/","title":{"rendered":"152. L\u2019impact du syst\u00e8me nerveux dans tes relations"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1075021\" class=\"elementor elementor-1075021\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ed86594 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ed86594\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6ea7bd98\" data-id=\"6ea7bd98\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d639127 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3d639127\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">L\u2019impact du syst\u00e8me nerveux dans tes relations <\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-62d37295 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62d37295\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4e162bd6\" data-id=\"4e162bd6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-376509b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"376509b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cet \u00e9pisode est le d\u00e9but d\u2019un trio d\u2019\u00e9pisodes qui a pour but de te pr\u00e9senter mon approche du coaching amoureux.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dans cet \u00e9pisode je t\u2019explique pourquoi ton syst\u00e8me nerveux impacte ta mani\u00e8re de relationner.\u00a0<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dans <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/153-les-4-categories-de-schemas-amoureux\/\">l\u2019\u00e9pisode 153<\/a><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> je vais te d\u00e9crire les 4 grandes cat\u00e9gories de sch\u00e9mas selon mon observation empirique aupr\u00e8s des personnes que j\u2019ai pu observer.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dans <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/154-les-3-etats-de-ton-systeme-nerveux-et-lechelle-poly-vagale\/\">l\u2019\u00e9pisode 154<\/a><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> j\u2019irai plus en d\u00e9tail sur les 3 \u00e9tats de ton syst\u00e8me nerveux et l\u2019\u00e9chelle poly-vagale.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu veux approfondir le sujet, je t\u2019invite \u00e0 te procurer mon livre S<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour.<\/span>\n\n<b>\u00a0<\/b>\n\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color: #eeeeee;\">\u2764\ufe0f Regarde <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/inscriptionblessurepasse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">mon w\u00e9binaire <\/a><\/strong>sur comment \u00eatre enfin heureux\/se en Amour!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a620e1c elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-shortcode\" data-id=\"a620e1c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"shortcode.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-shortcode\"><iframe name=\"Ausha Podcast Player\" frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" id=\"ausha-9WxC\" height=\"220\" style=\"border: none; width:100%; height:220px\" src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/?showId=bjPkYiPMPlqo&color=%23d13523&podcastId=ypE2JTAYed2M&v=3&playerId=ausha-9WxC\"><\/iframe><script src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/ausha-player.js\"><\/script>\n<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b8d8830 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"b8d8830\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/GPfmws5AJ7k&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4dc2b12 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4dc2b12\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"La_theorie_polyvagale_ou_pourquoi_ta_capacite_de_relationner_avec_les_autres_est_definie_dans_ton_systeme_nerveux\"><\/span>La th\u00e9orie polyvagale ou pourquoi ta capacit\u00e9 de relationner avec les autres est d\u00e9finie dans ton syst\u00e8me nerveux <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3574bfe elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3574bfe\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La th\u00e9orie polyvagale qui a \u00e9t\u00e9 d\u00e9velopp\u00e9e par Stephen Porges<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">explique que <\/span><b>notre syst\u00e8me nerveux autonome scanne en permanence nos interactions avec l\u2019environnement <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">et les autres pour assurer notre survie. Ce scan intervient de mani\u00e8re automatique sans l\u2019intervention du cerveau rationnel sur la base de nos perceptions de l\u2019environnement\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stephen Porges explique aussi dans cette th\u00e9orie que l\u2019attachement est tellement essentiel \u00e0 notre survie que <\/span><b>la qualit\u00e9 de cet attachement va influencer notre capacit\u00e9 d\u2019engagement social en influen\u00e7ant directement le d\u00e9veloppement de la branche my\u00e9linis\u00e9e de notre nerf vague<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, \u00e0 savoir la branche vagale ventrale qui permet cet engagement social.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Comment est-ce possible\u00a0?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quand un b\u00e9b\u00e9 na\u00eet, la branche sympathique et la branche vagale dorsale sont d\u00e9j\u00e0 existantes pour que le b\u00e9b\u00e9 puisse crier s\u2019il a besoin de manger et se figer en cas de grands dangers. La branche vagale ventrale de son nerf vague, qui permet l\u2019engagement social, n\u2019est pas encore d\u00e9velopp\u00e9e. Celle-ci va se d\u00e9velopper au fur et \u00e0 mesure de son interaction avec son environnement, en particulier dans l\u2019interaction avec ses parents ou ses figures principales d\u2019attachement<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">7<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> (par le biais de la co-r\u00e9gulation). <\/span><b>C\u2019est sur la base des perceptions de ces interactions <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(les mimiques des gens, leurs tons de la voie, leurs comportements\u2026) <\/span><b>qu\u2019une base de donn\u00e9es de perceptions va se cr\u00e9er chez l\u2019enfant pour l\u2019aider \u00e0 identifier ce qui repr\u00e9sente la s\u00e9curit\u00e9 ou l\u2019ins\u00e9curit\u00e9<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Parce qu\u2019en tant qu\u2019\u00eatre humain et, surtout pour un enfant, notre survie d\u00e9pend des autres.<\/span><\/p><p><b>Cette base de donn\u00e9es de survie va l\u2019aider ensuite \u00e0 qualifier les perceptions ressenties par ses nouvelles exp\u00e9riences de vie<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> pour assurer, au besoin, une r\u00e9ponse de survie.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ce m\u00e9canisme de survie se passe en mode automatique sans l\u2019intervention du cerveau rationnel. Ce m\u00e9canisme est utile et sain quand il y a un vrai danger. Qui aurait envie de prendre le temps de r\u00e9fl\u00e9chir \u00e0 comment agir au mieux si un ours fon\u00e7ait sur toi ?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Un syst\u00e8me nerveux autonome r\u00e9gul\u00e9 est un syst\u00e8me qui arrive facilement \u00e0 passer par les diff\u00e9rents \u00e9tats du syst\u00e8me nerveux pour faire face aux stress de la vie puis \u00e0 retourner naturellement dans l\u2019\u00e9tat vagal ventral (frein vagal). L\u2019\u00e9tat vagal ventral n\u2019est pas un refuge permanent, le but est d\u2019y retourner suffisamment souvent pour que le corps se r\u00e9g\u00e9n\u00e8re et puisse faire face aux prochains stress. En d\u2019autres termes, c\u2019est normal et utile de changer d\u2019\u00e9tat tout au long de la journ\u00e9e.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f6b1f5c elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"f6b1f5c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Quand_ton_systeme_nerveux_devient_un_frein_pour_tes_relations\"><\/span>Quand ton syst\u00e8me nerveux devient un frein pour tes relations<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8a0530c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8a0530c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ton syst\u00e8me nerveux peut devenir un frein dans tes interactions sociales <\/span><b>si cette base de donn\u00e9es de survie a enregistr\u00e9 des exp\u00e9riences pass\u00e9es qui ont submerg\u00e9 ton syst\u00e8me nerveux et l\u2019ont d\u00e9r\u00e9gul\u00e9. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0C\u2019est ce qui explique toutes les fois o\u00f9 tu surr\u00e9agis, o\u00f9 tu te sens en ins\u00e9curit\u00e9 alors que rationnellement il n\u2019y pas de raison et aussi toutes les fois o\u00f9 tu as ce sentiment de ne pas pouvoir sortir d\u2019un sch\u00e9ma que tu r\u00e9p\u00e8tes malgr\u00e9 toi.<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Le syst\u00e8me nerveux peut se d\u00e9r\u00e9guler de 3 fa\u00e7ons\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Tu peux avoir un \u00e9tat dominant qui est un \u00e9tat d\u2019ins\u00e9curit\u00e9 <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(vagal dorsal ou sympathique). Il y a souvent 2 causes possibles\u00a0:\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><b>\u00c0 la naissance, tu h\u00e9rites de l&rsquo;influence du syst\u00e8me nerveux de tes figures d\u2019attachement (souvent tes parents), te transmettant soit un \u00e9tat dominant de s\u00e9curit\u00e9 si la co-r\u00e9gulation a eu lieu, soit d&rsquo;ins\u00e9curit\u00e9 si elle a manqu\u00e9.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Cela a 2 cons\u00e9quences pour l\u2019enfant devenu adulte\u00a0: il va avoir lui-m\u00eame un \u00e9tat dominant qui repr\u00e9sente l\u2019ins\u00e9curit\u00e9 et il va naturellement entrer en relation avec des personnes qui ont aussi un \u00e9tat dominant ins\u00e9cure car cet \u00e9tat repr\u00e9sente \u00ab\u00a0la r\u00e9f\u00e9rence qu\u2019il connait\u00a0\u00bb. Le connu m\u00eame ins\u00e9cure est toujours mieux que l\u2019inconnu.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Une personne peut aussi vivre <\/span><b>des chocs suffisamment importants ou un stress chronique (physique ou psychique) qui peuvent modifier son \u00e9tat dominant\u00a0<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: une naissance traumatisante, l\u2019exposition \u00e0 la mort, la guerre, un accident, de l\u2019abus, de la n\u00e9gligence parentale, une phase prolong\u00e9e de stress, burnout, d\u00e9pression. Ainsi, m\u00eame si la menace a disparu, les d\u00e9fenses restent engag\u00e9es et le corps per\u00e7oit toujours le danger. \u00c0 l\u2019\u00e2ge adulte, tu peux le ressentir par un \u00e9tat de m\u00e9fiance constant, de l\u2019hypervigilance ou un besoin de contr\u00f4le exacerb\u00e9. Dans cette cat\u00e9gorie il y a aussi toutes les personnes qui souffrent du syndrome de stress post-traumatique<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">9<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> dont les sympt\u00f4mes principaux sont des flashbacks de leurs exp\u00e9riences traumatisantes, des strat\u00e9gies d\u2019\u00e9vitement, des alt\u00e9rations de l\u2019humeur, de la cognition, de l\u2019\u00e9veil et de la r\u00e9activit\u00e9.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><p>\u00a0<\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Tu peux te sentir plus rapidement en ins\u00e9curit\u00e9<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> car l\u2019exp\u00e9rience que tu vis est v\u00e9cue comme similaire \u00e0 certaines exp\u00e9riences de ton pass\u00e9 et r\u00e9active automatiquement des r\u00e9ponses de protection enregistr\u00e9es dans ta base de donn\u00e9es de survie. \u00c0 l\u2019\u00e2ge adulte, cela explique toutes les fois o\u00f9 tu as des surr\u00e9actions ou ins\u00e9curit\u00e9s alors que rationnellement il n\u2019y a pas de raison. Une illustration de cette situation serait mon exemple personnel.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p>\u00a0<\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Tu peux avoir du mal \u00e0 revenir dans un \u00e9tat o\u00f9 tu te sens en s\u00e9curit\u00e9<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Si l\u2019enfant a v\u00e9cu beaucoup de stress \u00e9motionnels et qu\u2019il n\u2019a pas re\u00e7u la co-r\u00e9gulation de ses parents face \u00e0 ses stress (un enfant en jeune \u00e2ge n\u2019est pas capable d\u2019y arriver par lui-m\u00eame), son syst\u00e8me nerveux peut avoir beaucoup de difficult\u00e9 \u00e0 revenir dans son \u00e9tat de s\u00e9curit\u00e9. \u00c0 l\u2019\u00e2ge adulte, tu peux le ressentir par de la difficult\u00e9 \u00e0 te remettre d\u2019une rupture, de la difficult\u00e9 \u00e0 pardonner apr\u00e8s une dispute, le fait de ruminer pendant longtemps apr\u00e8s un \u00e9v\u00e9nement, \u00e0 avoir l\u2019impression de te remettre difficilement des \u00e9preuves (\u00ab\u00a0tu en prends un coup\u00a0\u00bb).<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p>\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pour conclure j\u2019esp\u00e8re que ces explications t\u2019aident \u00e0 comprendre que si tu te sens en ins\u00e9curit\u00e9 en relations\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Ce n\u2019est pas un manque de volont\u00e9<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ou ta faute, c\u2019est un automatisme de survie de ton syst\u00e8me nerveux.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Il y a une vraie logique \u00e0 ta r\u00e9action<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. La perception de tes exp\u00e9riences pass\u00e9es a fait que tu as d\u00e9velopp\u00e9 certains automatismes de survie et ces exp\u00e9riences ont eu suffisamment d\u2019influence pour d\u00e9r\u00e9guler ton syst\u00e8me nerveux et impacter ton sentiment actuel de s\u00e9curit\u00e9 en relation.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Essayer de r\u00e9soudre ton ins\u00e9curit\u00e9 par ta t\u00eate ne sert \u00e0 rien<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> car dans ces moments c\u2019est ton syst\u00e8me nerveux qui prend le relai et donc que <\/span><b>tu as besoin de passer par ton corps<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> pour sortir de cet \u00e9tat de survie.<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-831cf2a elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"831cf2a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Comment_se_cree_un_schema_amoureux_dans_le_sens_du_systeme_nerveux\"><\/span>Comment se cr\u00e9e un sch\u00e9ma amoureux dans le sens du syst\u00e8me nerveux ? <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e33e903 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e33e903\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ce sont simplement <\/span><b>toutes tes exp\u00e9riences pass\u00e9es qui t\u2019ont submerg\u00e9e \u00e9motionnellement (parce que c\u2019\u00e9tait trop, trop t\u00f4t, trop fort, trop peu ou trop longtemps) ET o\u00f9 tu n\u2019as pas eu la possibilit\u00e9 de te r\u00e9guler par toi-m\u00eame ou par une aide externe <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(notamment via la co-r\u00e9gulation).\u00a0 Ces \u00e9v\u00e9nements ont ainsi d\u00e9r\u00e9gul\u00e9 ton syst\u00e8me nerveux.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ce que cette d\u00e9finition implique\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"list-style-type: none;\"><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Que nous avons tous potentiellement des \u00ab\u00a0traumas\u00a0\u00bb dans le sens du syst\u00e8me nerveux.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Que le trauma ce n\u2019est pas l\u2019\u00e9v\u00e9nement en soi mais <\/span><b>l\u2019empreinte qu\u2019il a laiss\u00e9e dans ton syst\u00e8me nerveux<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> qui explique tes m\u00e9canismes de r\u00e9actions et aussi les \u00ab\u00a0lunettes\u00a0\u00bb par lesquelles tu interpr\u00e8tes tes relations actuelles<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">12<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Que <\/span><b>ce n\u2019est pas parce que tu as v\u00e9cu un \u00e9v\u00e9nement difficile que tu as forc\u00e9ment un sch\u00e9ma amoureux<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Par exemple, si tu as \u00e9t\u00e9 victime d\u2019une agression, mais que tu as obtenu du soutien rapidement ou que tu es arriv\u00e9 \u00e0 te d\u00e9fendre, il est possible que cet \u00e9v\u00e9nement n\u2019ait pas laiss\u00e9 d\u2019empreinte dans ton syst\u00e8me nerveux et donc n\u2019a pas d\u2019impact sur ta mani\u00e8re de relationner.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Que ce sont principalement <\/span><b>les \u00e9v\u00e9nements o\u00f9 tu t\u2019es senti vuln\u00e9rable et impuissant sans soutien des autres<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> qui t\u2019ont cr\u00e9\u00e9 un sch\u00e9ma amoureux. Tu as, par exemple, plus de chance qu\u2019un sch\u00e9ma amoureux se cr\u00e9e si dans l\u2019enfance on a souvent ni\u00e9 tes \u00e9motions quand tu les avais (\u00ab\u00a0arr\u00eate de pleurer\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0mais non tu n\u2019as pas mal\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0arr\u00eate de faire le b\u00e9b\u00e9 ce n\u2019est pas si grave\u00a0\u00bb) que si tu as v\u00e9cu beaucoup d\u2019\u00e9v\u00e9nements qui t\u2019ont challeng\u00e9 \u00e9motionnellement mais que tu as ressenti que tes parents accueillaient tes \u00e9motions et \u00e9taient l\u00e0 pour toi.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Que <\/span><b>pas tous les \u00e9v\u00e9nements vont avoir le m\u00eame impact sur toi<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Ton syst\u00e8me nerveux a pour r\u00f4le d\u2019assurer ta survie et donc plus un \u00e9v\u00e9nement va potentiellement te mettre en danger plus son impact sera important. Si cela peut para\u00eetre \u00e9vident de le comprendre pour des cas graves comme une guerre, des accidents, des chocs que tu as v\u00e9cus ou le lien avec tes parents, il est peut-\u00eatre plus difficile de le comprendre pour des \u00e9v\u00e9nements plus b\u00e9nins qui ont impliqu\u00e9s ton corps comme par exemple si tu as port\u00e9 un appareil dentaire ou si tu as \u00e9t\u00e9 forc\u00e9 de manger certains aliments.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Que <\/span><b>ta r\u00e9action \u00e9motionnelle d\u00e9pend de ta perception de l\u2019\u00e9v\u00e9nement<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Un enfant n\u2019a pas un cerveau rationnel mature (il atteint un premier stade vers 5 ans et ce processus se finit vers l\u2019\u00e2ge adulte<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">13<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">) pour arriver \u00e0 prendre du recul par rapport \u00e0 ce qui se passe, ce qui explique qu\u2019avec tes yeux d\u2019adulte tu peux estimer avoir eu une enfance heureuse et tout de m\u00eame avoir des sch\u00e9mas amoureux qui impactent n\u00e9gativement ta vie amoureuse.\u00a0 Il est aussi possible que tu aies id\u00e9alis\u00e9 ton enfance pour y survivre. Je parle de cela plus en d\u00e9tail dans <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/147-notre-corps-ne-ment-jamais\/\">l\u2019\u00e9pisode 147<\/a> Notre corps ment jamais.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Qu\u2019<\/span><b>il n\u2019y a pas que tes exp\u00e9riences relationnelles qui peuvent te cr\u00e9er un sch\u00e9ma amoureux<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. D\u2019autres exp\u00e9riences comme une naissance difficile, un accident, des interventions m\u00e9dicales \u00e9prouvantes, un stress prolong\u00e9 (physique ou psychique) peuvent aussi impacter ta vie amoureuse.<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pour <\/span><b>les sch\u00e9mas amoureux qui se sont cr\u00e9\u00e9s dans le lien, c\u2019est la r\u00e9p\u00e9tition de ces exp\u00e9riences<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> qui cr\u00e9e un sch\u00e9ma amoureux. Ce n\u2019est pas parce que tes parents ont manqu\u00e9 de te soutenir quelques fois, qu\u2019un sch\u00e9ma amoureux va se cr\u00e9er. C\u2019est la r\u00e9p\u00e9tition qui va faire que cela va d\u00e9velopper certains m\u00e9canismes chez toi car ces r\u00e9p\u00e9titions t\u2019ont fait comprendre que c\u2019\u00e9tait la seule mani\u00e8re de faire pour maintenir le lien avec tes parents.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ce qui est aussi important de comprendre c\u2019est que tu ne peux pas juste faire la liste des choses qui t\u2019ont marqu\u00e9e, o\u00f9 tu as eu l\u2019impression de te sentir vuln\u00e9rable et impuissant pour identifier tes sch\u00e9mas amoureux. Tes souvenirs sont log\u00e9s dans ta m\u00e9moire explicite alors que <\/span><b>ce qui t\u2019a traumatis\u00e9 est log\u00e9 dans la m\u00e9moire implicite et le corps<\/b> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ce qui explique que juste prendre conscience de tes sch\u00e9mas ne suffit pas, il faut travailler sur les automatismes de ton syst\u00e8me nerveux sauvegard\u00e9s dans la m\u00e9moire implicite et dans le corps.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ce n\u2019est pas juste apprendre \u00e0 soutenir ton syst\u00e8me nerveux dans sa r\u00e9gulation mais un travail de d\u00e9programmation de l\u2019empreinte de tes \u00e9v\u00e9nements pass\u00e9s. J\u2019en parle plus en d\u00e9tail dans <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/121-deprogrammer-versus-reguler-ton-systeme-nerveux\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">l\u2019\u00e9pisode 121 D\u00e9programmer versus r\u00e9guler ton syst\u00e8me nerveux<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e006512 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"e006512\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Pour_aller_plus_loin\"><\/span>Pour aller plus loin <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-d37da43 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"d37da43\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4550e5e\" data-id=\"4550e5e\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-daaa252 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"daaa252\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu as envie d\u2019approfondir le sujet et d\u2019identifier tes propres 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data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/www.payot.ch\/Detail\/souvrir_a_lamour-sandy_kaufmann-9782416018374?cId=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">j'ach\u00e8te le livre en suisse<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-757339e9 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"757339e9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div 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elementor-element elementor-element-0c9be29 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"0c9be29\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-f835e44\" data-id=\"f835e44\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b40909c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b40909c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Et si tu souhaites faire le travail de tes sch\u00e9mas amoureux par le corps et transformer ta vie amoureuse tu as le programme <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvrir-a-lamour\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ee96686 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-global elementor-global-38034 elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"ee96686\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvrir-a-lamour\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">S'ouvrir \u00e0 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