{"id":1072209,"date":"2024-05-13T07:01:47","date_gmt":"2024-05-13T07:01:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1072209"},"modified":"2025-10-14T13:07:39","modified_gmt":"2025-10-14T13:07:39","slug":"116-sadapter-versus-se-suradapter-en-relation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/116-sadapter-versus-se-suradapter-en-relation\/","title":{"rendered":"116.  S\u2019adapter versus se suradapter en relation"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1072209\" class=\"elementor elementor-1072209\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ed86594 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ed86594\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6ea7bd98\" data-id=\"6ea7bd98\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d639127 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3d639127\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">S\u2019adapter versus se suradapter\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-62d37295 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62d37295\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4e162bd6\" data-id=\"4e162bd6\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-376509b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"376509b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu te demandes quel est le<\/span><b> bon \u00e9quilibre<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> entre \u00eatre tol\u00e9rante, <\/span><b>s&rsquo;adapter \u00e0 l&rsquo;autre et se suradapter<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ou bien quelle est la diff\u00e9rence entre faire des concessions et <\/span><b>la suradaptation amoureuse <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ou tu t&rsquo;es d\u00e9j\u00e0 pos\u00e9e la question <\/span><b>si c&rsquo;est bon de changer pour l&rsquo;autre <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ou la relation ?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">En r\u00e9sum\u00e9, tu te demandes quel niveau d&rsquo;indulgence est sain pour le couple ?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cette diff\u00e9rence peut \u00eatre particuli\u00e8rement difficile \u00e0 identifier si tu souffres de d\u00e9pendance affective.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dans cet \u00e9pisode je vais essayer de te donner les clefs pour savoir si tu t\u2019adaptes ou te suradaptes en relation.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-693bb58 elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"693bb58\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<iframe name=\"Ausha Podcast Player\" frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" id=\"ausha-UcPh\" height=\"220\" style=\"border: none; width:100%; height:220px\" src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/?showId=bjPkYiPMPlqo&color=%23d13523&podcastId=bzk15fl25DmR&v=3&playerId=ausha-UcPh\"><\/iframe><script src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/ausha-player.js\"><\/script>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b8d8830 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"b8d8830\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/RbSu0R2yfaI&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4dc2b12 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4dc2b12\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Sadapter_taide_a_developper_ton_esprit_dequipe\"><\/span>S'adapter t\u2019aide \u00e0 d\u00e9velopper ton esprit d\u2019\u00e9quipe<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3574bfe elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3574bfe\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu pars du principe que tu fais \u00e9quipe avec ton partenaire pour une vision commune tu peux comprendre qu&rsquo;avoir une certaine tol\u00e9rance, une certaine flexibilit\u00e9 peut aider au but commun de construire une belle relation \u00e9panouissante.\u00a0<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dans ce premier cas, s\u2019adapter est positif pour le couple et une opportunit\u00e9 de d\u00e9velopper ton esprit d\u2019\u00e9quipe.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Par exemple:<\/span>\n<ul>\n \t<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si ton partenaire est toujours en retard, est-ce que faire un scandale syst\u00e9matiquement \u00e0 chacun de ces retards aide \u00e0 la construction de votre relation ou bien est-ce que lui donner un rendez-vous 15 minutes \u00e0 l&rsquo;avance en tenant compte de son retard habituel et une adaptation plus constructive pour le couple?<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Est-ce qu\u2019adapter ton timing pour te marier ou avoir des enfants \u00e0 celui de ton partenaire est un meilleur choix que de passer en force au risque que ton partenaire le regrette apr\u00e8s coup?<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Est-ce que quitter ton lieu d&rsquo;habitation pour emm\u00e9nager dans la ville de ton partenaire c&rsquo;est trop de sacrifice?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La r\u00e9ponse ne peut pas \u00eatre g\u00e9n\u00e9raliste, <\/span><b>\u00e7a d\u00e9pend de l&rsquo;historique de la relation, de la r\u00e9ciprocit\u00e9 dans l&rsquo;investissement de la relation, de l&rsquo;\u00e9quilibre de l&rsquo;adaptation au niveau de chaque partenaire.<\/b>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pour cela voici trois questions qui te permettent de d\u00e9cider si cette adaptation est b\u00e9n\u00e9fique pour toi et la relation:<\/span>\n<ol>\n \t<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Est-ce que cette adaptation est une invitation \u00e0 te comporter de mani\u00e8re diff\u00e9rente de ton biais habituel ou d\u00e9velopper mon esprit d\u2019\u00e9quipe ?<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0 Par exemple, si tu sais que tu as du mal \u00e0 \u00eatre tol\u00e9rante envers toi ou envers les autres, d\u00e9velopper de la tol\u00e9rance envers ton partenaire t\u2019aide \u00e0 d\u00e9velopper une qualit\u00e9 importance pour former une bonne \u00e9quipe.<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Est-ce que tu es capable d&rsquo;accepter les cons\u00e9quences de cette adaptation sans ressentiment et est-ce que c\u2019est une aide pour le but commun ?<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0 Par exemple si tu es ok de repousser le projet b\u00e9b\u00e9 de 6 mois parce que tu as envie d&rsquo;\u00eatre une personne compr\u00e9hensive et tu veux laisser ton partenaire suivre son rythme pour se d\u00e9cider de lui-m\u00eame de devenir parent, est-ce que tu acceptes pleinement la cons\u00e9quence d\u2019attendre ces 6 mois de plus.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<b>Est-ce que tu vois un \u00e9quilibre dans la prise de risque et de l&rsquo;adaptation au sein de ton couple ?<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0 <\/span><b>Sinon quel impact peut avoir ce d\u00e9s\u00e9quilibre \u00e0 long terme dans la relation ?<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0 Je parle de ce point plus en d\u00e9tail dans l&rsquo;\u00e9pisode 84 sur <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/84-le-compte-bancaire-emotionnel\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">le compte bancaire \u00e9motionnel<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Par exemple si tu d\u00e9cides de quitter ta ville pour retrouver ton partenaire tu vas renoncer un job, \u00e0 ton cercle d&rsquo;amis, est-ce que ton partenaire prend aussi des risques pour que la relation marche par exemple fait l\u2019effort de d\u00e9m\u00e9nager de son appartement pour que vous emm\u00e9nagiez ensemble ou est-ce qu\u2019il s&rsquo;est aussi adapt\u00e9 pour votre relation dans le pass\u00e9\u00a0?<\/span>\n\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color: #eeeeee;\">\u2764\ufe0f Regarde <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/inscriptionblessurepasse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">mon w\u00e9binaire <\/a><\/strong>sur comment \u00eatre enfin heureux\/se en Amour!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4fa4c09b elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4fa4c09b\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-418898d7\" data-id=\"418898d7\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ba04d3b elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"ba04d3b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Tu_changes_et_grandis_grace_a_la_relation\"><\/span>Tu changes et grandis gr\u00e2ce \u00e0 la relation\n<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-633dc5e6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"633dc5e6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Je dis souvent que le couple est le meilleur outil de d\u00e9veloppement personnel car il va venir exactement appuyer l\u00e0 o\u00f9 tu as besoin de travailler, par exemple\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si ton partenaire te demande de s&rsquo;engager et que tu as peur de perdre ta libert\u00e9.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si ton partenaire te reproche de pas \u00eatre clair avec tes amis et que tu te sens contr\u00f4l\u00e9.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu flippes d\u00e8s que ton partenaire sort car tu as peur qu&rsquo;il te quitte.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0Dans ce cas-l\u00e0 s&rsquo;adapter peut \u00eatre aussi positif car c\u2019est une opportunit\u00e9 de grandir.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-052acf8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"052acf8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Alors_comment_savoir_si_ces_adaptations-la_taident_vraiment_a_grandir_ou_si_tu_te_suradaptes_et_acceptes_quelque_chose_que_tu_ne_veux_pas\"><\/span>Alors comment savoir si ces adaptations-l\u00e0 t'aident vraiment \u00e0 grandir ou si tu te suradaptes et acceptes quelque chose que tu ne veux pas ?\n\n<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e73cc0b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e73cc0b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Voici une s\u00e9rie de questions qui peut t&rsquo;aider \u00e0 trouver ta r\u00e9ponse :<\/span><\/p><ol><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quel est <\/span><b>l&rsquo;impact de mon comportement sur l&rsquo;autre<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quel serait <\/span><b>l&rsquo;impact sur moi si mon partenaire faisait exactement la m\u00eame chose<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Est-ce que <\/span><b>c&rsquo;est un reproche que l&rsquo;on m&rsquo;a d\u00e9j\u00e0 fait dans mes relations pass\u00e9es amoureuses ou amicales<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Est-ce que <\/span><b>j&rsquo;ai envie d&rsquo;\u00e9voluer dans ce domaine<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Si c&rsquo;est une ins\u00e9curit\u00e9 de l&rsquo;autre<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> comment pourrai-je grandir ici, quel niveau d&rsquo;adaptation refl\u00e9terait mon envie d&rsquo;\u00eatre un partenaire indulgent\/soutenant ?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Si c&rsquo;est ton ins\u00e9curit\u00e9,<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> qu&rsquo;est-ce que tu peux faire pour la d\u00e9passer et en quoi partager avec ton partenaire ce qui te fait peur, ce qui se passe en toi, ton intention peut t&rsquo;aider dans ce changement ?\u00a0<\/span><\/li><\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Je vais reprendre les 3 exemples que j\u2019ai mentionn\u00e9s plus t\u00f4t pour illustrer ce raisonnement.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Commen\u00e7ons avec l&rsquo;exemple de l&rsquo;engagement et la peur de perdre ta libert\u00e9 pour r\u00e9pondre \u00e0 ces questions :\u00a0<\/span><\/p><ol><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu r\u00e9alises que \u00e7a cr\u00e9e de l&rsquo;ins\u00e9curit\u00e9 chez ton partenaire,\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si ton partenaire avait la m\u00eame attitude que toi tu douterais de son amour envers toi<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu sais que c&rsquo;est en r\u00e9alit\u00e9 des reproches qu&rsquo;on t&rsquo;a d\u00e9j\u00e0 fait par le pass\u00e9\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu as envie d&rsquo;\u00e9voluer dans ce domaine<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu remarques que c&rsquo;est ton ins\u00e9curit\u00e9 personnelle car dans les faits ton partenaire ne te prive pas de ta libert\u00e9 dans ce cas-l\u00e0 changer pour la relation c&rsquo;est une opportunit\u00e9 de grandir et tu peux alors r\u00e9fl\u00e9chir sur ce qui va t\u2019aider dans ce changement: comprendre tes peurs, les partager \u00e0 ton partenaire, lui demander de la compr\u00e9hension.<\/span><\/li><\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu prends le cas o\u00f9 ton partenaire te reproche de ne pas \u00eatre clair avec tes amis :\u00a0<\/span><\/p><ol><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu r\u00e9alises que \u00e7a cr\u00e9e de la panique chez ton partenaire<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si ton partenaire avait la m\u00eame attitude ce serait totalement ok pour toi<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu n&rsquo;as pas vraiment eu ce genre de reproche dans le pass\u00e9<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu n\u2019\u00e9prouves pas le besoin d&rsquo;\u00e9voluer parce que tu ne vois pas le probl\u00e8me\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu remarques que c&rsquo;est plus une ins\u00e9curit\u00e9 de ton partenaire car dans les faits tu n\u2019es pas ambigu avec tes amis et ton engagement est clair, arr\u00eater de voir tes amis pour rassurer ton partenaire serait dans ce cas te suradapter. Le niveau d\u2019adaptation qui serait ok pour \u00eatre une partenaire indulgent\/soutenant ce serait de la rassurer et\/ou de l&rsquo;int\u00e9grer avec tes amis.<\/span><\/li><\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Et enfin le cas o\u00f9 tu flippes quand ton partenaire sort :\u00a0<\/span><\/p><ol><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu r\u00e9alises que ton partenaire se sent \u00e9touff\u00e9<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si ton partenaire avait la m\u00eame attitude tu te sentirais aussi \u00e9touff\u00e9<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu sais que c&rsquo;est des reproches qu&rsquo;on t&rsquo;a d\u00e9j\u00e0 fait dans le pass\u00e9<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu as envie d&rsquo;\u00e9voluer dans ce domaine<\/span><\/li><\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu sais que c&rsquo;est ton ins\u00e9curit\u00e9 personnelle car l&rsquo;engagement de ton partenaire est clair.\u00a0 dans ce cas changer pour la relation c&rsquo;est une opportunit\u00e9 de grandir et tu peux r\u00e9fl\u00e9chir sur ce qui va t&rsquo;aider dans ce changement :\u00a0 travailler sur tes sch\u00e9mas du pass\u00e9, parler de cette ins\u00e9curit\u00e9 \u00e0 ton partenaire par exemple dans l&rsquo;\u00e9pisode 67 <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/67-securite-interne-versus-securite-externe\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u00e9curit\u00e9 interne versus s\u00e9curit\u00e9 externe<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> je parle de comment tu peux cultiver plus de s\u00e9curit\u00e9 interne et comment ton partenaire peut aussi t&rsquo;aider en te donnant une s\u00e9curit\u00e9 externe.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b3e7f26 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"b3e7f26\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Quand_est-ce_que_tu_te_suradaptes\"><\/span>Quand est-ce que tu te suradaptes?\n<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-257e850 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"257e850\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pour moi il y a plusieurs crit\u00e8res qui font que tu es dans la suradaptation amoureuse :<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Tu ne prends pas le temps de te poser la question de ce que tu en penses des cons\u00e9quences de l&rsquo;adaptation sur toi<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, ton bien-\u00eatre, tes besoins, tes limites, sur l&rsquo;\u00e9quilibre dans la relation.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Tu n&rsquo;oses pas communiquer<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> un avis qui est diff\u00e9rent de l&rsquo;autre par peur de le braquer <\/span><b>par peur de le perdre<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> et c&rsquo;est-\u00e0-dire que ton adaptation a pour seul but le maintien de la relation et que ce n&rsquo;est pas en soi un moyen de grandir ou de d\u00e9velopper ton esprit d&rsquo;\u00e9quipe.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si cette <\/span><b>adaptation va \u00e0 l&rsquo;encontre de tes valeurs<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> et des projets que tu as envie pour le couple.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si cette adaptation est \u00e0 <\/span><b>sens unique, non r\u00e9ciproque<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si c&rsquo;est adaptation est synonyme de <\/span><b>souffrance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. C&rsquo;est souvent le cas de la d\u00e9pendance affective j\u2019en parle dans les \u00e9pisodes 74 <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/74-se-liberer-de-la-dependance-affective\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Se lib\u00e9rer de la d\u00e9pendance affective<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> et 73 <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/73-les-differents-types-de-dependance-en-amour\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">les diff\u00e9rents types de d\u00e9pendance en amour<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-4b747fae elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4b747fae\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-1478e3b2\" data-id=\"1478e3b2\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-49027bcc elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"49027bcc\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-51c1dfc0\" data-id=\"51c1dfc0\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6af9e0a elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"6af9e0a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Trouve_lorigine_de_ton_besoin_de_te_suradapter\"><\/span>Trouve l'origine de ton besoin de te suradapter\n<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f6098dc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"f6098dc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu as tendance \u00e0 te suradapter c&rsquo;est qu&rsquo;il y a une raison. Cette raison vient de tes exp\u00e9riences pass\u00e9es o\u00f9 tu as per\u00e7u que <\/span><b>pour \u00eatre aim\u00e9 il faut renoncer \u00e0 \u00eatre toi, que l&rsquo;amour est conditionn\u00e9 et que cela passe forc\u00e9ment par un sacrifice de toi.<\/b><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Regarde mon w\u00e9binaire sur \u00ab\u00a0comment te lib\u00e9rer des sch\u00e9mas amoureux qui t&#8217;emp\u00eache d&rsquo;\u00eatre heureux en amour\u00a0\u00bb: <\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-13936e2d elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"13936e2d\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-12faf4f4\" data-id=\"12faf4f4\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-47631f22 elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"47631f22\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-3170f222\" data-id=\"3170f222\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-32efa95d elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"32efa95d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-47b1f163 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"47b1f163\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-35167d1f\" data-id=\"35167d1f\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-58f025a3 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"58f025a3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Pour toi<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-21ac95ed elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"21ac95ed\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"LE_WEBINAIRE_gratuit\"><\/span><span>LE 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data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 18px; letter-spacing: 1.1px;\">Enregistre-toi d\u00e8s maintenant \u00e0 ma newsletter et re\u00e7ois le replay du w\u00e9binaire.<span lang=\"FR-CH\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-1d4e0f38\" data-id=\"1d4e0f38\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-1d0dd41f elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"1d0dd41f\" 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data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>* Champs obligatoires<\/p><p>Si tu t&rsquo;abonnes \u00e0 ma newsletter, tu recevras \u00e9galement des offres. Tu peux te d\u00e9sabonner \u00e0 tout moment. Merci de lire ma <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/politique-de-confidentialite\/\"> Politique de confidentialit\u00e9 <\/a> pour voir comment je traite les donn\u00e9es.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-54de8b7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"54de8b7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Sortir_de_la_suradaptation_amoureuse\"><\/span>Sortir de la suradaptation amoureuse<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bdfdfe6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"bdfdfe6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sortir de la suradaptation amoureuse est un r\u00e9apprentissage qui <\/span><b>va au d\u00e9part te demander d&rsquo;aller \u00e0 l&rsquo;encontre de ton r\u00e9flexe naturel :<\/b><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La premi\u00e8re \u00e9tape consiste \u00e0 <\/span><b>prendre l&rsquo;habitude de t&rsquo;inclure dans l&rsquo;\u00e9quation de la relation<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> (j\u2019en parle plus dans l\u2019\u00e9pisode <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/68-empathie-et-engagement\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">68 Empathie et engagement<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ) et de te demander ce que tu veux dans cette relation, tes besoins, tes limites, tes pr\u00e9f\u00e9rences.\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La deuxi\u00e8me \u00e9tape va te demander d&rsquo;<\/span><b>apprendre \u00e0 communiquer \u00e0 l&rsquo;autre tes besoins<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, tes limites, tes pr\u00e9f\u00e9rences pour que la relation soit satisfaisante pour toi et \u00e0 veiller qu&rsquo;il y ait un \u00e9quilibre en termes d&rsquo;adaptation.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Et enfin une fois que tu sens que ces deux premi\u00e8res \u00e9tapes sont totalement acquises et qu&rsquo;il y a une base suffisamment solide et saine dans la relation, regarde les adaptations qui peuvent \u00eatre une opportunit\u00e9 pour toi de grandir ou de d\u00e9velopper ton esprit d\u2019\u00e9quipe.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Et si tu as besoin d&rsquo;aide pour ces \u00e9tapes c&rsquo;est ce que tu apprends dans le programme <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvrir-a-lamour\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s&rsquo;ouvrir \u00e0 l&rsquo;amour<\/span><\/a><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-494c350d elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"494c350d\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-34cd103b\" data-id=\"34cd103b\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6d264564 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-global elementor-global-38034 elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"6d264564\" 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Ou bien quelle est la diff\u00e9rence entre faire des concessions et la suradaptation amoureuse ? Ou tu t&rsquo;es d\u00e9j\u00e0 pos\u00e9e la question si c&rsquo;est bon de changer pour l&rsquo;autre ou la relation ? 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