{"id":1069146,"date":"2023-11-27T07:30:01","date_gmt":"2023-11-27T07:30:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1069146"},"modified":"2025-10-14T13:32:57","modified_gmt":"2025-10-14T13:32:57","slug":"93-et-si-cetait-toi-le-red-flag","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/93-et-si-cetait-toi-le-red-flag\/","title":{"rendered":"93. Et si c&rsquo;\u00e9tait toi le red flag ?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1069146\" class=\"elementor elementor-1069146\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ed86594 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ed86594\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6ea7bd98\" data-id=\"6ea7bd98\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d639127 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3d639127\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">Et si c'\u00e9tait toi le red flag ? <\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-62d37295 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62d37295\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4e162bd6\" data-id=\"4e162bd6\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-376509b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"376509b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu penses souvent que c\u2019est la faute de ton partenaire, que tu veux \u00ab juste \u00bb \u00eatre avec lui car tu l\u2019aimes ?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tes partenaires comblent rarement tes besoins en relations et tu te demandes pourquoi\u00a0?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu as l\u2019impression d\u2019\u00eatre victime dans tes relations et tu en souffres\u00a0?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu rencontres des <\/span><b>hommes qui ont tendance \u00e0 te fuir et tu ne sais pas pourquoi<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cet \u00e9pisode 93 ne va pas te plaire.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Et si c\u2019\u00e9tait toi le red Flag\u00a0?<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-693bb58 elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"693bb58\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<iframe name=\"Ausha Podcast Player\" frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" id=\"ausha-LP3m\" height=\"220\" style=\"border: none; width:100%; height:220px\" src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/?showId=bjPkYiPMPlqo&color=%23d13523&podcastId=ygaWkcv63L8g&v=3&playerId=ausha-LP3m\"><\/iframe><script 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data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-1478e3b2\" data-id=\"1478e3b2\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4fa4c09b elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4fa4c09b\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-418898d7\" data-id=\"418898d7\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6a49aba elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"6a49aba\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Definition_dun_red_flag\"><\/span>D\u00e9finition d\u2019un red flag\n<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-633dc5e6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"633dc5e6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Il existe plusieurs d\u00e9finitions de red flag.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pour moi un <\/span><b>red flag est quand la personne n\u2019est pas capable de se mettre en relation saine<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, ce ne sont pas juste les crit\u00e8res que tu ne souhaites pas avoir chez un partenaire mais plus des signes que la personne a un comportement toxique ou est toxique et n\u2019est pas capable de <\/span><b>relationner sans faire un travail sur soi<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Il y a pour moi 6 crit\u00e8res qui fait qu\u2019une personne est un red flag\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">C\u2019est la faute de ses exs si ses anciennes relations n\u2019ont pas march\u00e9.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Elle impose ses choix\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Elle te rabaisse ou te critique m\u00eame sur le ton de la taquinerie<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Elle essaie de te changer<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ses actes ne sont pas align\u00e9s avec ses paroles (mensonges)<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu dois justifier tes comportements ou bien tu es restreinte dans ta libert\u00e9 d\u2019actions<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b3e7f26 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"b3e7f26\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Exemples_concrets_de_comportement_qui_sont_red_flags_pour_moi\"><\/span>Exemples concrets de comportement qui sont red flags pour moi\n<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-63fd0d5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"63fd0d5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu racontes que tu as \u00e9t\u00e9 victime d\u2019irrespect de tes partenaires <\/span><b>sans parler de ta part de tort.\u00a0<\/b><\/li><\/ul><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu <\/span><b>d\u00e9barques chez lui sans rendez-vous pour lui<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00ab\u00a0faire\u00a0\u00bb une surprise ou parce que tu as \u00ab\u00a0envie de lui\u00a0\u00bb. Sauf que la surprise se r\u00e9p\u00e8te un peu trop et empi\u00e8te sur sa vie priv\u00e9e.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu voudrais qu\u2019il fasse des efforts dans la relation et <\/span><b>commente de mani\u00e8re passive-agressive quand il manque d\u2019en faire<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, \u00ab\u00a0non je ne suis pas en col\u00e8re\u00a0\u00bb ou \u00ab\u00a0c\u2019est juste le minimum \u00e0 attendre en relation, je pensais que tu savais\u00a0\u00bb.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Il a clairement dit qu\u2019il veut un plan cul et tu <\/span><b>continues d\u2019essayer de le convaincre<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> du contraire.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u2019il ne peut pas te voir un soir, tu lui demandes de se justifier pourquoi il ne peut pas.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ici tu te rends compte que cela arrive facilement \u00e0 tout le monde d\u2019\u00eatre un red flag ou d\u2019avoir des comportements toxiques.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><b>Ce qui va faire que tu es un vrai red flag c\u2019est l\u2019accumulation, la r\u00e9p\u00e9tition de ces comportements.<\/b><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a25a7d0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a25a7d0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color: #eeeeee;\">\u2764\ufe0f Regarde <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/inscriptionblessurepasse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">mon w\u00e9binaire <\/a><\/strong>sur comment \u00eatre enfin heureux\/se en Amour!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4eea8d2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4eea8d2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Utilise_tes_comportements_red_flags_pour_grandir_en_capacite_relationnelle\"><\/span>Utilise tes comportements red flags pour grandir en capacit\u00e9 relationnelle<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7fcc279 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7fcc279\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu te sens victime dans tes anciennes relations<\/span><b>, comprend<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ce que tu r\u00e9p\u00e8tes et <\/span><b>comment tu as pu contribuer \u00e0 ce r\u00e9sultat<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> (ton 50%)\u00a0: est-ce en ne disant rien, est-ce en acceptant le comportement de l\u2019autre, est-ce en n\u2019agissant pas s\u2019il continuait\u00a0?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Tu ne peux pas imposer en relations<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> mais tu peux avoir une influence indirecte en agissant en alignement avec ce que tu veux vraiment par exemple en ayant une discussion de fond sur le status de la relation, la fr\u00e9quence \u00e0 laquelle tu aimerais voir l\u2019autre etc\u2026. J\u2019en parle plus en d\u00e9tail dans <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/5-pourquoi-tu-nobtiens-pas-ce-que-tu-veux-en-amour\/\">l\u2019\u00e9pisode 5 Pourquoi tu n\u2019obtiens pas ce que tu veux en relation<\/a>.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>L\u2019autre n\u2019est pas responsable de comment tu te sens<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, si tu ressens de la frustration de la col\u00e8re parce que l\u2019autre n\u2019en fait pas assez, r\u00e9agir \u00e0 ta col\u00e8re en communiquant de mani\u00e8re agressive ne va pas t\u2019aider. Accueille cette col\u00e8re soit curieuse de son message et r\u00e9ponds au besoin derri\u00e8re. Desfois cela te demandera simplement un travail int\u00e9rieur pour changer ta perspective sur la situation et desfois cela te demandera de communiquer tes besoins plus directement avant que tu rentres dans cet \u00e9tat de col\u00e8re ou frustration. J\u2019en parle plus en d\u00e9tail dans <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/12-la-responsabilite-emotionnelle\/\">l\u2019\u00e9pisode 12 La responsabilit\u00e9 \u00e9motionnelle<\/a>.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Tu n\u2019as pas ce pouvoir de changer l\u2019autre. C\u2019est<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ta responsabilit\u00e9 de te demander ce que tu souhaites en relation et comme partenaire et de choisir un partenaire qui a naturellement ce que tu recherches.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">En changeant tes mani\u00e8res de faire tu vas changer tes r\u00e9sultats en Amour. C\u2019est ce que l\u2019on fait dans <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvrir-a-lamour\/\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019Amour<\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b20c7cd elementor-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"b20c7cd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-sm\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvrir-a-lamour\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">S'ouvrir \u00e0 l'amour<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-675c365 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"675c365\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-197d3cc elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"197d3cc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"On_a_tous_des_comportements_toxiques\"><\/span>On a tous des comportements toxiques<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-25f4908 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"25f4908\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Comme j\u2019en parlais avec Catherine la Psy dans <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">l\u2019\u00e9pisode 13<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> c\u2019est presque in\u00e9vitable d\u2019avoir aucuns comportements toxiques en relation. \u00c0 un moment donn\u00e9 tu vas forc\u00e9ment te positionner en bourreau victime ou sauveur ou tout simplement \u00eatre plus un poids qu\u2019un bonus pour une relation.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">C\u2019est normal parce que le couple c\u2019est un espace de gu\u00e9rison.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-44ed8f1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"44ed8f1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Lidee_est_de_prendre_conscience_quand_cela_tarrive_de_rechoisir_et_de_reparer\"><\/span>L\u2019id\u00e9e est de prendre conscience quand cela t\u2019arrive, de rechoisir et de r\u00e9parer. <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ddc6485 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ddc6485\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dans ce sens le feedback de l\u2019autre peut \u00eatre une p\u00e9pite pour en prendre conscience. Et en plus cela te permet d\u2019exp\u00e9rimenter que tu n\u2019as pas besoin d\u2019\u00eatre parfaite pour \u00eatre aim\u00e9e, que tu peux grandir et gu\u00e9rir par la relation.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ebc8c22 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"ebc8c22\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Pose-toi_la_question_de_ce_que_tu_apportes_en_relation\"><\/span>Pose-toi la question de ce que tu apportes en relation<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c2c2e4a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"c2c2e4a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quel type de partenaire es-tu\u00a0? Est-ce que cela correspond aux standards que tu veux en relation\u00a0?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Voici 5 aspects pour t\u2019aider \u00e0 t\u2019introspecter\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Prends-tu la responsabilit\u00e9 de ton jardin\/g\u00e2teau\u00a0?<\/span><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As-tu pris la responsabilit\u00e9 de ton bonheur, besoins ou attends-tu que l\u2019autre comble ces manques pour toi\u00a0?\u00a0 En d\u2019autres termes tu n\u2019attends pas que l\u2019autre r\u00e9ponde \u00e0 tous tes besoins. Tu prends soin de tes besoins toi-m\u00eame tel un g\u00e2teau en bonne sant\u00e9.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Es-tu responsable \u00e9motionnellement et arrives-tu \u00e0 ne pas prendre personnellement tout ce que l\u2019autre dit ou fait \/dit pas ou fait pas personnellement\u00a0?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Communiques-tu tes besoins ou attends-tu que l\u2019autre les devine\u00a0?<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Embellis-tu la vie de l\u2019autre avec des attentions, la reconnaissance de ce qu\u2019il fait pour toi, des compliments\u00a0? Le but du couple c\u2019est d\u2019\u00eatre une cerise sur un g\u00e2teau un bonus.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Comment accueilles-tu l\u2019autre\u00a0?<\/span><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cr\u00e9es-tu un environnement d\u2019amour et de s\u00e9curit\u00e9 o\u00f9 l\u2019autre peut se confier\u00a0sans avoir peur d\u2019\u00eatre jug\u00e9\u00a0? Es-tu capable d\u2019accueillir\/comprendre la perspective\/les \u00e9motions de l\u2019autre m\u00eame si tu n\u2019es pas d\u2019accord\u00a0?\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Es-tu pr\u00eate \u00e0 pleinement \u00e9couter l\u2019autre et de le d\u00e9couvrir avec curiosit\u00e9\u00a0?<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Est-ce que tu cultives l\u2019amour ou la peur dans ton couple ? (<a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/7-cultives-tu-lamour-ou-la-peur-dans-ton-couple\/\">\u00c9pisode<\/a><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a07 pour plus de d\u00e9tails)<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Est-ce que tu es pr\u00eate \u00e0 grandir via la relation\u00a0?<\/span><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Es-tu pr\u00eate \u00e0 recevoir ses feedbacks sur toi ou ton comportement\u00a0?\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vois-tu les conflits dans la relation comme une opportunit\u00e9 de grandir personnellement\u00a0?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Accorde-lui le b\u00e9n\u00e9fice du doute sur ses intentions et clarifie au besoin ? As-tu l\u2019esprit d\u2019\u00e9quipe avec ton partenaire ou es-tu en comp\u00e9tition ?<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ici je t\u2019invite \u00e0 regarder ce que tu fais actuellement et o\u00f9 tu as envie d\u2019aller pour voir o\u00f9 tu peux faire <strong>grandir tes capacit\u00e9s relationnelles<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4a698b60 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4a698b60\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-10b23a91\" data-id=\"10b23a91\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-1ab75f0a elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"1ab75f0a\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-35c23fca\" data-id=\"35c23fca\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7c3c22b5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"7c3c22b5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-62da5237 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62da5237\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-5326e2b8\" data-id=\"5326e2b8\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2a5b29db elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"2a5b29db\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Pour toi<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-69f5b5f3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"69f5b5f3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"LE_WEBINAIRE_gratuit\"><\/span><span>LE W\u00c9BINAIRE gratuit<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4bdaca6e elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4bdaca6e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"%22Comment_se_liberer_des_schemas_qui_nous_empechent_detre_heureuses_en_amour_%22\"><\/span><span><strong><em>\"Comment se lib\u00e9rer des sch\u00e9mas qui nous emp\u00eachent d'\u00eatre heureuses en amour ?\"<\/em><\/strong><span> <\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-69025546 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"69025546\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #000000; 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Tu peux te d\u00e9sabonner \u00e0 tout moment. Merci de lire ma <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/politique-de-confidentialite\/\"> Politique de confidentialit\u00e9 <\/a> pour voir comment je traite les donn\u00e9es.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-45d5c907 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"45d5c907\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-1644292d\" data-id=\"1644292d\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1603b93d elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1603b93d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Pour_aller_plus_loin\"><\/span>Pour aller plus loin<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1ba05ec3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1ba05ec3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu as envie d\u2019approfondir le sujet et d\u2019identifier tes propres sch\u00e9mas amoureux tu as <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-souvrir-a-lamour-et-si-la-solution-se-trouvait-du-cote-du-nerf-vague\/\">mon livre <\/a><\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-souvrir-a-lamour-et-si-la-solution-se-trouvait-du-cote-du-nerf-vague\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> disponible dans toutes les librairies.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-24ca42ad elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"24ca42ad\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-194adc0d\" data-id=\"194adc0d\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-386e7761 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"386e7761\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Et si tu souhaites faire le travail de tes sch\u00e9mas amoureux par le corps et transformer ta vie amoureuse tu as le programme <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvrir-a-lamour\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-72f415ab elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-global elementor-global-38034 elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"72f415ab\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div 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