{"id":1068214,"date":"2023-09-25T07:30:33","date_gmt":"2023-09-25T07:30:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1068214"},"modified":"2026-03-17T20:37:24","modified_gmt":"2026-03-17T20:37:24","slug":"84-le-compte-bancaire-emotionnel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/84-le-compte-bancaire-emotionnel\/","title":{"rendered":"84. Le compte bancaire \u00e9motionnel"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1068214\" class=\"elementor elementor-1068214\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ed86594 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ed86594\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6ea7bd98\" data-id=\"6ea7bd98\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d639127 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3d639127\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">Le compte bancaire \u00e9motionnel<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-62d37295 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62d37295\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4e162bd6\" data-id=\"4e162bd6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-63fd0d5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"63fd0d5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Je t\u2019entends d\u00e9j\u00e0 me dire mais \u00ab\u00a0comment cela Sandy tu penses que tenir les comptes d\u2019apothicaire dans une relation c\u2019est bien\u00a0? <\/span><b>n\u2019est-il pas mieux de donner sans attente \u00e0 la hauteur de ce que l\u2019on veut donner\u00a0?<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Quand on est ami ou partenaire avec quelqu\u2019un, on ne doit pas compter.\u00bb<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ce \u00e0 quoi je vous r\u00e9ponds : \u00ab Comment vous sentez-vous dans une relation amoureuse qui ne va que dans un sens ou quand votre copine vous demande un \u00e9ni\u00e8me service sans jamais te rendre la pareille ? \u00bb \u00c9nerv\u00e9(e), utilis\u00e9(e)peut-\u00eatre ou vous allez vous \u00e9loigner sans le r\u00e9aliser consciemment.<\/span><\/p><p><b>Ce concept de compte bancaire \u00e9motionnel je l\u2019ai utilis\u00e9 pour moi pour \u00e9valuer la satisfaction que j\u2019avais de mes relations actuelles<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> (ma perception si la relation avait plus un solde positif ou n\u00e9gatif pour moi) et de comment les changer sans pour autant seulement demander \u00e0 l\u2019autre de me donner ce que je voulais.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">J\u2019ai appris 15 ans plus tard que ce concept \u00e9tait repris dans le best seller de Stephen Covey les 7 habitudes de ceux qui r\u00e9alisent tout ce qu\u2019ils entreprennent et qu\u2019il y donnait une liste de comportements qui apportaient du \u00ab\u00a0cr\u00e9dit\u00a0\u00bb \u00e0 la relation, concept qui a \u00e9t\u00e9 pr\u00e9sent\u00e9 et \u00e9toff\u00e9 dans les \u00e9pisodes <a href=\"https:\/\/changemavie.com\/episodes\/compte-bancaire1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">153<\/a> et <a href=\"https:\/\/changemavie.com\/episodes\/compte-bancaire2\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">154<\/a> du podcast <a href=\"https:\/\/changemavie.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Change ma vie<\/a> o\u00f9 Clotilde Dusoulier te donne une grille de lecture int\u00e9ressante pour \u00e9valuer ce que tu apportes \u00e0 la relation et des biais qui peuvent biaiser la perception de ce que l\u2019autre apporte en relation.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dans cet \u00e9pisode je vais te partager l\u2019angle avec lequel j\u2019ai personnellement utilis\u00e9 ce compte bancaire \u00e9motionnel, <\/span><b>les avantages \u00e0 \u00e9valuer tes relations sous cet angle, ce qui vient au d\u00e9bit ou au cr\u00e9dit du compte bancaire<\/b> <b>et comment tu peux influencer le solde du compte bancaire \u00e9motionnel<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Je rajouterai quelques conseils de David Bradford et Carole Robin tir\u00e9s de leur livre Connect pour d\u00e9velopper des relations extraordinaires.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-693bb58 elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"693bb58\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<iframe name=\"Ausha Podcast Player\" frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" id=\"ausha-nMKj\" height=\"220\" style=\"border: none; width:100%; height:220px\" src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/index.html?showId=bjPkYiPMPlqo&color=%23d13523&podcastId=bYanKcvkgXXm&v=3&playerId=ausha-nMKj\"><\/iframe><script src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/ausha-player.js\"><\/script>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c898893 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"c898893\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/u2BLD8GjHGs&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-4b747fae elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4b747fae\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-1478e3b2\" data-id=\"1478e3b2\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4fa4c09b elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4fa4c09b\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-418898d7\" data-id=\"418898d7\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6a49aba elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"6a49aba\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Quest-ce_qui_fait_quune_relation_est_satisfaisante\"><\/span>Qu\u2019est-ce qui fait qu\u2019une relation est satisfaisante ?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-952c075 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"952c075\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Selon moi, <\/span><b>une relation harmonieuse est une relation dans laquelle \u00ab le prendre, le donner et le recevoir \u00bb sont per\u00e7us par les partis concern\u00e9s comme \u00e9quilibr\u00e9s, qu\u2019il y a une satisfaction mutuelle<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Ce qui permet de mettre en lumi\u00e8re deux crit\u00e8res importants pour une relation \u00e9quilibr\u00e9e :<\/span>\n<ul>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Un <\/span><b>besoin d\u2019\u00e9quilibre<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00ab entre le prendre, le donner et le recevoir \u00bb ce qui n\u2019est pas forc\u00e9ment un 50\/50<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La <\/span><b>perception des partis concern\u00e9s<\/b><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Voici 2 exemples pour illustrer mon propos. Si tu es une amie qui aime beaucoup aider ou rendre des services \u00e0 ta meilleure copine, tu peux percevoir la relation comme \u00e9quilibr\u00e9e si cette amie te remercie pour ce que tu as fait pour elle ou tu pourrais avoir besoin que cette derni\u00e8re te rende la pareille \u00e0 d\u2019autres occasions. Si tu es une maman, tu ne vas pas demander que ton enfant te redonne tout ce que tu fais pour lui mais le fait de le voir heureuse ou te sourire peut te suffire.<\/span>\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color: #eeeeee;\">\u2764\ufe0f Regarde <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/inscriptionblessurepasse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">mon w\u00e9binaire <\/a><\/strong>sur comment \u00eatre enfin heureux\/se en Amour!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cd9574e elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"cd9574e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Autre_facteur_important_le_facteur_temps\"><\/span>Autre facteur important : le facteur temps<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-043ac66 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"043ac66\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quand il s\u2019agit d\u2019une longue relation (amiti\u00e9s ou couples de longues dates), le <\/span><b>facteur temps<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> entre aussi en jeu.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si je reprends l\u2019exemple de cette meilleure amie qui aime rendre service, celle-ci sera encline \u00e0 donner plus sans rien attendre en retour (autrement dit \u00e0 se mettre en \u00ab n\u00e9gatif \u00bb) si son amie traverse une phase difficile par exemple.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cela explique aussi pourquoi certaines crises de couple perdurent dans la dur\u00e9e, car un partenaire s\u2019estime toujours en \u00ab n\u00e9gatif \u00bb par rapport \u00e0 l\u2019autre (ce partenaire peut n\u2019avoir pas re\u00e7u suffisamment de soutien de son partenaire dans une phase personnelle difficile ou bien il a au contraire trop donn\u00e9 pour aider son partenaire dans une phase difficile et n\u2019a pas eu la reconnaissance souhait\u00e9e).<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La d\u00e9finition de Stephen Covey dit qu\u2019une relation de qualit\u00e9 est directement li\u00e9e au niveau de confiance \/s\u00e9curit\u00e9 entre les personnes qui composent la relation et que la relation soit fructueuse c\u2019est-\u00e0-dire qu\u2019elle apporte plus de cr\u00e9dits&gt;d\u00e9bits. Il pr\u00e9cise aussi que le droit \u00e0 l\u2019erreur est possible simplement il suffit d\u2019apporte consciemment des cr\u00e9dits \u00e0 la relation.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">David Bradford et Carole Robin dans leur livre Connect disent qu\u2019une relation extraordinaire est d\u00e9finie selon eux par les 6 caract\u00e9ristiques suivantes\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><ol><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu peux \u00eatre <\/span><b>pleinement toi-m\u00eam<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">e et l&rsquo;autre personne aussi<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vous \u00eates tous deux dispos\u00e9s \u00e0 \u00eatre <\/span><b>vuln\u00e9rables<\/b><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vous avez <\/span><b>confiance<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> dans le fait que vos r\u00e9v\u00e9lations ne seront pas utilis\u00e9es contre vous<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vous pouvez \u00eatre <\/span><b>honn\u00eates<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> l&rsquo;un envers l&rsquo;autre<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vous <\/span><b>g\u00e9rez les conflits de mani\u00e8re productive<\/b><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Vous \u00eates tous deux <\/span><b>engag\u00e9s dans la croissance <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">et le d\u00e9veloppement <\/span><b>de l&rsquo;autre<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li><\/ol><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si j\u2019essaie de r\u00e9sumer ces 3 d\u00e9finitions il y a 4 crit\u00e8res majeurs qui font une relation satisfaisante<\/span><\/p><ul><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La <\/span><b>satisfaction mutuelle<\/b><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La <\/span><b>perception<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u00e9value la relation<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Investissement \/<\/span><b>engagement<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\/confiance\/s\u00e9curit\u00e9 dans la relation<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Int\u00e9grit\u00e9<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\/Honn\u00eatet\u00e9 de chacun<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4eea8d2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4eea8d2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Quels_sont_les_avantages_de_voir_vos_relations_comme_un_compte_bancaire_emotionnel\"><\/span>Quels sont les avantages de voir vos relations comme un compte bancaire \u00e9motionnel ?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7fcc279 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7fcc279\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Comprendre qu\u2019<\/span><b>une relation n\u2019est jamais acquise<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> et qu\u2019elle peut casser quand les d\u00e9bits deviennent plus grands que les cr\u00e9dits<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Comprendre qu\u2019<\/span><b>une relation peut se r\u00e9parer<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Si tu te rends compte que tu as bcp d\u00e9biter une relation tu peux le corriger consciemment.<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Se donner le droit \u00e0 l\u2019erreur<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Ce que tu fais une fois en relation ne va pas d\u00e9terminer toute la relation. C\u2019est l\u2019ensemble de tes actions qui compte.<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Comprendre la syst\u00e9mique de la relation<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, comment tes actions influencent indirectement celle de l\u2019autre (double d\u00e9bit), la qualit\u00e9 de la relation (solde n\u00e9gatif ou positif)<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Que <\/span><b>ta perception<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> du solde de la relation <\/span><b>puisse \u00eatre totalement diff\u00e9rente de celle de ton conjoint<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> qui est bas\u00e9 sur sa propre perception. Et d\u2019o\u00f9 l\u2019importance de clarifier ses attentes, la mani\u00e8re dont tu vois le couple en relation.<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">L\u2019impact du temps dans la relation. <\/span><b>L\u2019importance de la r\u00e9gularit\u00e9 des attentions et que l\u2019autre le per\u00e7oit comme des attentions<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Plus la relation dure plus les anciens soldes auront un impact sur la qualit\u00e9 de la relation actuelle.<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-034503c elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"034503c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Comment_jai_personnellement_utilise_ce_compte_bancaire_emotionnel\"><\/span>\nComment j\u2019ai personnellement utilis\u00e9 ce compte bancaire \u00e9motionnel ?\n<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ae423ec elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ae423ec\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<ol><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>J\u2019ai d\u2019abord \u00e9valu\u00e9 le solde de chacune de mes relations clefs<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0: est-ce que je per\u00e7ois cette relation comme satisfaisante\u00a0ou pas ? Si oui pourquoi et sinon pourquoi\u00a0? Qu\u2019est-ce qui devrait changer pour moi pour qu\u2019elle soit satisfaisante\u00a0? J\u2019ai pu observer les 4 tendances suivantes\u00a0:<\/span><\/li><\/ol><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><b>A. Tu donnes trop, tu cr\u00e9dites trop la relation.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Dans mes relations amoureuses, j\u2019avais la tendance \u00e0 me projeter tr\u00e8s t\u00f4t, tr\u00e8s vite faire beaucoup et donc \u00e0 tr\u00e8s vite apporter beaucoup de cr\u00e9dits \u00e0 la relation.\u00a0 Tu peux aussi ajouter des cr\u00e9dits en t\u2019oubliant pour la relation\/l\u2019autre (tu arr\u00eates de travailler pour les enfants, tu d\u00e9m\u00e9nages pour l\u2019autre). Pas de probl\u00e8me \u00e0 \u00eatre g\u00e9n\u00e9reuse tu me diras. Si tu regardes cela sous l\u2019angle du compte bancaire \u00e9motionnel en faisant ainsi tu \u00ab\u00a0forces\u00a0\u00bb l\u2019autre \u00e0 s\u2019endetter \u00e9motionnellement alors que la personne n\u2019a pas peut-\u00eatre pas encore envie de s\u2019engager ou de donner \u00e0 cette hauteur-l\u00e0. L\u2019effet pervers dans ce comportement c\u2019est ce que cela peut pousser l\u2019autre \u00e0 arr\u00eater la relation plut\u00f4t qu\u2019\u00e0 essayer de \u00ab\u00a0r\u00e9\u00e9quilibrer\u00a0\u00bb ce solde non voulu.<\/span><\/p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><b>B. Un des partenaires d\u00e9bite la relation et s\u2019excuse \u00e0 chaque fois.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0 Tu per\u00e7ois ce que fait l\u2019autre comme insatisfaisant, l\u2019autre le reconnait et s\u2019excuse mais il reproduit sans cesse le m\u00eame comportement par exemple la personne ne tient pas ses engagements envers toi, sa mani\u00e8re de parler. Le compte bancaire \u00e9motionnel te permet de comprendre que ce type de comportement n\u2019apporte rien \u00e0 la relation et peut mettre engendrer un solde de plus en plus n\u00e9gatif si l\u2019autre ne tire aucune le\u00e7on et continue son agissement.<\/span><\/p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><b>C. Tu donnes mal. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Selon l\u2019intention avec laquelle tu donnes ou pas dans la relation ou si tu manques de constance ou si ce que tu donnes n\u2019est pas per\u00e7u comme positif par l\u2019autre partenaire, le cr\u00e9dit apport\u00e9 \u00e0 la relation sera moindre et cela te permet de comprendre l\u2019\u00e9loignement de la personne.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><b>D. Tu prends dans la relation et donnes peu. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu sens que l\u2019autre s\u2019\u00e9loigne\/d\u00e9connection ou que tu re\u00e7ois beaucoup de reproches dans une relation une premi\u00e8re \u00e9valuation que tu peux faire est de voir si tu as la m\u00eame perception que l\u2019autre sur ce que tu \u00ab\u00a0donnes\u00a0\u00bb dans la relation versus ce qu\u2019elle donne en lui demandant un feedback.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2. <\/span><b>Pour les relations clefs que je percevais comme insatisfaisantes, comme ta satisfaction est bas\u00e9e sur la base de ta perception et pas forc\u00e9ment des agissements de l\u2019autre, je me suis pos\u00e9e la question de comment je pouvais r\u00e9tablir cet \u00e9quilibre par moi-m\u00eame ?<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Si je reprends les 4 tendances de tout \u00e0 l\u2019heure tu peux l\u2019appliquer de cette mani\u00e8re :<\/span><\/p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><b>A. Tu donnes trop, tu cr\u00e9dites trop la relation.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Dans ce cas tu peux apprendre \u00e0 g\u00e9rer tes attentes\/les pens\u00e9es que tu as sur la relation et tes projections et \u00e0 moins donner ou investir dans la r\u00e9ciprocit\u00e9 dans la relation. Si tu penses que l\u2019autre te donne mal comment peux-tu communiquer plus clairement ce dont tu as besoin\u00a0?<\/span><\/p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><b>B. Un des partenaires d\u00e9bite la relation et s\u2019excuse \u00e0 chaque fois.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0 Tu peux te demander si tu peux accepter ce comportement et avoir une relation satisfaisante sans essayer de changer l\u2019autre et sinon communiquer clairement que l\u2019excuse n\u2019a pas de valeur pour toi dans ce cas. Si l\u2019autre ne comprend pas tu peux essayer de faire de m\u00eame sur une autre action qu\u2019il n\u2019aime pas et t\u2019excuser \u00e0 chaque fois pour cr\u00e9er un effet miroir.<\/span>\u00a0<\/p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><b>C. Tu donnes mal. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tu peux v\u00e9rifier ton alignement\u00a0:\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">-Si tu penses que tu donnes mal, est-ce que tu donnes pour acheter l\u2019amour de l\u2019autre ou parce que tu as envie de donner, ton engagement\u00a0: est-ce que ton comportement est le m\u00eame dans la dur\u00e9e ou est-ce qu\u2019au d\u00e9but de relation tu fais plus\/donnes plus que ce que tu veux pour plaire\u00a0?<\/span><\/p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">-Si tu ne sais demandes-tu un feedback \u00e0 l\u2019autre\u00a0?<\/span><\/p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><b>D. Tu prends dans la relation et donnes peu<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Si tu es conscience qu\u2019il y a une dette relationnelle dans certaines de tes relations tu peux limiter les personnes qui en font trop, en prenant moins (en refusant son aide) ou en donnant plus (de reconnaissance par exemple) pour \u00e9quilibrer la dette relationnelle dans la relation et \u00e9viter qu\u2019elle ne casse.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3.<\/span><b> \u00c9valuer l\u2019impact du facteur temps<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0 Peut-\u00eatre que la relation actuelle est \u00e9quilibr\u00e9e mais que l\u2019historique de la relation est d\u00e9s\u00e9quilibr\u00e9(e)\/ endett\u00e9(e)<\/span><\/p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A. Par exemple si tu as travers\u00e9 une phase difficile, cette personne \u00e9tait l\u00e0 pour toi , tu peux d\u00e9cider de r\u00e9tablir l\u2019\u00e9quilibre en apportant consciemment du cr\u00e9dit \u00e0 la relation soit en reconnaissant ce que la personne a fait pour toi soit autrement.<\/span><\/p><p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">B. Si tu r\u00e9alises que tu as mis entre parenth\u00e8se ta vie pour le couple (arr\u00eater un job, d\u00e9m\u00e9nagement \u2026) pour \u00e9ponger la dette il faudrait que l\u2019autre partenaire r\u00e9alise sa \u00ab dette \u00bb relationnelle et fasse un effort suppl\u00e9mentaire par rapport \u00e0 la \u00ab dose \u00bb d\u2019attention habituelle.\u00a0 Or desfois il n\u2019a pas forc\u00e9ment demander cet endettement. Un moyen de r\u00e9\u00e9quilibrer cela c\u2019est que le partenaire \u00ab en n\u00e9gatif \u00bb demande consciemment le \u00abremboursement\u00bb de sa dette.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quand tu commences \u00e0 faire cette \u00e9valuation, il est possible que tu te poses ces questions:\u00a0<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"list-style-type: none;\"><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00ab Mais je demande peut-\u00eatre trop ? \/J\u2019ai trop d\u2019attentes \u00bb La r\u00e9ponse est simple. Si tu as r\u00e9ellement ce besoin, alors tu dois le respecter, tu ne te cr\u00e9es pas des besoins pour emb\u00eater les autres. Ce que tu peux te poser d\u2019abord comme question, c\u2019est si tu as un moyen de combler ce besoin toi-m\u00eame sans d\u00e9pendre de l\u2019autre pour ce besoin.<\/span><\/li><li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00ab L\u2019autre peut percevoir la relation totalement diff\u00e9remment\u00a0\u00bb. Oui et c\u2019est en communiquant et en s\u2019interrogeant sur vos perceptions r\u00e9ciproques que vous pouvez trouver un terrain d\u2019entente car finalement ce que l\u2019on demande en relation ce sont que des pr\u00e9f\u00e9rences.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ce qui contribue au cr\u00e9dit d\u2019une relation selon Stephen Covey<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"list-style-type: none;\"><ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Essayer de <\/span><b>comprendre l\u2019autre<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. (S\u2019int\u00e9resser \u00e0 l\u2019int\u00e9r\u00eat de l\u2019autre \u00e0 la hauteur de l\u2019importance de l\u2019autre pour nous)<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Prendre soin des petites choses<\/b><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Tenir ses promesses<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> et ses engagements (\u00eatre digne de confiance)<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Clarifier les attentes<\/b><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>Rester int\u00e8gre<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> dans la relation (\u00e0 l\u2019int\u00e9rieur comme \u00e0 l\u2019ext\u00e9rieur on est la m\u00eame personne)<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>S\u2019excuser de fa\u00e7on sinc\u00e8re<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> si on a fait un d\u00e9bit<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><br \/><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Les qualit\u00e9s relationelles qui contribuent \u00e0 une relation extraordinaire selon Davis Bradford et Carole Robin\u00a0:<\/span><\/p><ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>La vuln\u00e9rabilit\u00e9<\/b><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>L\u2019empathie<\/b><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><b>La satisfaction mutuelle<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Le <\/span><b>degr\u00e9 d\u2019influence dans la relation<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Il y a plusieurs moyens de c\u00e9der de l\u2019influence dans une relation\u00a0:<\/span><ul style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><li style=\"list-style-type: none;\"><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">en supposant que tes besoins sont secondaires par rapport \u00e0 ceux des autres<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ne pas \u00e9couter tes sentiments<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">te laisser interrompre<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">reculer lorsque quelqu&rsquo;un n&rsquo;est pas d&rsquo;accord avec vous<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00e9viter les conflits<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ne pas donner de feedback en supposant que le probl\u00e8me vient de toi<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">se pr\u00e9occuper d&rsquo;\u00eatre aim\u00e9\/approuv\u00e9 et consid\u00e9rer cela comme le plus important<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">minimiser l&rsquo;importance de tes commentaires<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ne pas s&rsquo;attribuer le m\u00e9rite de tes r\u00e9alisations<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"3\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ne pas signaler un probl\u00e8me si tu n\u2019as pas de solution.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Le <\/span><b>feedback<\/b><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">La <\/span><b>gestion des conflits<\/b><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5757862 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"5757862\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Et_si_je_continue_a_mendetter\"><\/span>Et si je continue \u00e0 m'endetter ? <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-40ec02c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"40ec02c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Une fois que tu as fait cette \u00e9valuation pour toutes tes relations, cela te\u00a0 permet aussi de voir en toi si\u00a0 tu as une tendance relationnelle\u00a0 (par ex. toujours donner trop) qui se r\u00e9p\u00e8te et s\u2019il y a un travail de r\u00e9\u00e9quilibrage plus profond \u00e0 effectuer, qui n\u00e9cessite de chercher dans ton pass\u00e9 ce qui a g\u00e9n\u00e9r\u00e9 ce m\u00e9canisme relationnel d\u00e9s\u00e9quilibr\u00e9 et corriger cet automatisme.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">C\u2019est ce que l\u2019on fait dans <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvrir-a-lamour\/\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3aa08e02 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3aa08e02\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-df49b91\" data-id=\"df49b91\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-20ad4 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-global elementor-global-38034 elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"20ad4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvrir-a-lamour\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">S'ouvrir \u00e0 l'amour<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2a0e9257 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"2a0e9257\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4205148d\" data-id=\"4205148d\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-3cc28f48 elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3cc28f48\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-5be2c048\" data-id=\"5be2c048\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2ba6e478 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"2ba6e478\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-30234291 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"30234291\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-6c51434f\" data-id=\"6c51434f\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-40131e83 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"40131e83\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Pour toi<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7b85b76 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"7b85b76\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"LE_WEBINAIRE_gratuit\"><\/span><span>LE W\u00c9BINAIRE gratuit<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-39af2fbe elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"39af2fbe\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"%22Comment_se_liberer_des_schemas_qui_nous_empechent_detre_heureuses_en_amour_%22\"><\/span><span><strong><em>\"Comment se lib\u00e9rer des sch\u00e9mas qui nous emp\u00eachent d'\u00eatre heureuses en amour ?\"<\/em><\/strong><span> <\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-50e7895c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"50e7895c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: 18px; letter-spacing: 1.1px;\">Enregistre-toi d\u00e8s maintenant \u00e0 ma newsletter et re\u00e7ois le replay du w\u00e9binaire.<span lang=\"FR-CH\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-18193af4\" data-id=\"18193af4\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div 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Tu peux te d\u00e9sabonner \u00e0 tout moment. Merci de lire ma <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/politique-de-confidentialite\/\"> Politique de confidentialit\u00e9 <\/a> pour voir comment je traite les donn\u00e9es.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3aaae118 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3aaae118\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-5f7d0b2f\" data-id=\"5f7d0b2f\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-38f36c39 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"38f36c39\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Pour_aller_plus_loin\"><\/span>Pour aller plus loin<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-46880a8e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"46880a8e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Si tu as envie d\u2019approfondir le sujet et de comprendre pourquoi vos discussions tournent en rond, tu as mon livre <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-les-couples-heureux-osent-aborder-les-sujets-qui-fachent\/\">Les couples 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fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1771\" height=\"1535\" src=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1.png\" class=\"attachment-2048x2048 size-2048x2048 wp-image-1081511\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1.png 1771w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-300x260.png 300w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-1024x888.png 1024w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-768x666.png 768w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-1536x1331.png 1536w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-600x520.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1771px) 100vw, 1771px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-6c516124\" data-id=\"6c516124\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2e117814 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"2e117814\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Contrairement aux id\u00e9es re\u00e7ues, les couples qui durent ne sont pas ceux qui \u00e9vitent les conflits mais qui savent les traverser.\nLe livre <i><b>Les couples heureux..osent aborder les sujets qui f\u00e2chent<\/b><\/i> t'explique comment transformer vos tensions en connexion en 5 \u00e9tapes!<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4850fa86 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4850fa86\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-bdb52ae\" data-id=\"bdb52ae\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ba5c947 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"ba5c947\" 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class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fr.fnac.be\/a22412708\/Sandy-Kaufmann-Les-couples-heureux-osent-aborder-les-sujets-qui-fachent\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">j'ach\u00e8te le livre depuis la belgique<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d9a118f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3d9a118f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>\ud83c\udf3f\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/cultiver-lamour\/\"><strong>CULTIVER L\u2019AMOUR<\/strong><\/a><strong>\u00a0\u2014 si tu es en couple<\/strong><\/p><p>Un\u00a0<strong>accompagnement de 5 mois<\/strong>\u00a0pour\u00a0<strong>transformer votre relation<\/strong>, retrouver la complicit\u00e9, la communication et\u00a0<strong>la joie d\u2019\u00eatre ensemble<\/strong> au quotidien.<\/p><p>Il inclut des modules \u00e0 faire \u00e0 votre rythme en duo ou en solo, la possibilit\u00e9 de te faire coacher par \u00e9mail en toute confidentialit\u00e9, la possibilit\u00e9 d&rsquo;ajouter des s\u00e9ances de coaching individuel ainsi que l\u2019option <em>Journ\u00e9e Pass\u00e9 <\/em>pour d\u00e9programmer les sch\u00e9mas amoureux par le corps si vous sentez que vos enfants bless\u00e9s prennent beaucoup de place dans vos conflits<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-341ed942 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"341ed942\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" 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