{"id":1067714,"date":"2023-05-21T07:30:11","date_gmt":"2023-05-21T07:30:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1067714"},"modified":"2025-10-14T15:12:58","modified_gmt":"2025-10-14T15:12:58","slug":"68-empathie-et-engagement","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/68-empathie-et-engagement\/","title":{"rendered":"68. Empathie et engagement"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1067714\" class=\"elementor elementor-1067714\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ed86594 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ed86594\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6ea7bd98\" data-id=\"6ea7bd98\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d639127 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3d639127\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">Empathie et engagement<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-62d37295 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62d37295\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4e162bd6\" data-id=\"4e162bd6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-376509b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"376509b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cet \u00e9pisode est le dernier \u00e9pisode d&rsquo;une s\u00e9rie qui commence \u00e0 l&rsquo;\u00e9pisode 66 qui a pour but de t&rsquo;aider \u00e0 distinguer quelle est ta part de responsabilit\u00e9 versus la part de l&rsquo;autre. <\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Cet \u00e9pisode est particuli\u00e8rement consacr\u00e9 \u00e0 toutes les personnes qui ont la tendance \u00e0 faire passer les besoins des autres avant les leurs ou d\u00e8s qu&rsquo;elles font une demande par rapport \u00e0 leurs besoins et leurs limites, elles ont l&rsquo;impression de forcer, de contraindre l&rsquo;autre partenaire, voire de le manipuler.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ou bien toutes les personnes qui ont cette impression de ne pas \u00eatre assez compr\u00e9hensive, assez empathique envers l&rsquo;autre parce que justement elles imposent leurs besoins, ou bien parce qu\u2019elles ont l&rsquo;impression de \u00ab\u00a0menacer\u00a0\u00bb l&rsquo;autre de partir si leurs besoins ne sont pas \u00e9cout\u00e9s, menac\u00e9s bien s\u00fbr, au sens figur\u00e9 pas au sens propre.\u00a0<\/span>\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color: #eeeeee;\">\u2764\ufe0f Regarde <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/inscriptionblessurepasse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">mon w\u00e9binaire <\/a><\/strong>sur comment \u00eatre enfin heureux\/se en Amour!<\/p>\n \n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div 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class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-693bb58 elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"693bb58\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<iframe name=\"Ausha Podcast Player\" frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" id=\"ausha-nZd1\" height=\"220\" style=\"border: none; width:100%; height:220px\" src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/index.html?showId=bjPkYiPMPlqo&color=%23d13523&podcastId=oL4lxhgR8awR&v=3&playerId=ausha-nZd1\"><\/iframe><script src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/ausha-player.js\"><\/script>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-4b747fae elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4b747fae\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-1478e3b2\" data-id=\"1478e3b2\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-33dd5be elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"33dd5be\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-5146847\" data-id=\"5146847\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b782b9f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"b782b9f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Certains_de_tes_besoins_ont_un_impact_negatif_sur_ton_partenaire\"><\/span>Certains de tes besoins ont un impact n\u00e9gatif sur ton partenaire<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-102de07 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"102de07\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Il y a certains de tes besoins, il y a certaines de tes limites qui vont avoir un impact forc\u00e9ment direct sur l&rsquo;autre. Typiquement, si toi tu veux l&rsquo;exclusivit\u00e9 d&rsquo;une relation et que l&rsquo;autre est plut\u00f4t dans une optique de relation ouverte, et bien ton besoin d&rsquo;exclusivit\u00e9 va limiter \u00e0 l&rsquo;autre son besoin d&rsquo;ouverture dans la relation.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Comment arriver \u00e0 naviguer dans cet \u00e9quilibre finalement o\u00f9 tu as envie de respecter tes propres besoins, mais tu as aussi envie de respecter l&rsquo;autre\u00a0?<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9eb44d7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"9eb44d7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Le_principe_qui_te_permet_de_faire_ca_cest_de_tinclure_dans_lequation\"><\/span>Le principe qui te permet de faire \u00e7a, c'est de t'inclure dans l'\u00e9quation.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e1a1345 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e1a1345\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Je peux te donner le premier exemple si tu veux \u00eatre empathique envers l&rsquo;autre c&rsquo;est d\u2019appliquer le principe d&#8217;empathie envers l&rsquo;autre, mais \u00e9galement envers toi-m\u00eame. C&rsquo;est \u00e0 dire qu&rsquo;il n&rsquo;y a pas une hi\u00e9rarchie de l&rsquo;autre par rapport \u00e0 toi. Tu es vraiment \u00e9gal \u00e0 \u00e9gal et donc que tu fais autant preuve d&#8217;empathie envers toi qu\u2019envers l&rsquo;autre.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">M\u00eame chose pour l&rsquo;engagement. Si tu t\u2019inclus dans l&rsquo;\u00e9quation, et bien tu peux dire que tu t&rsquo;engages autant envers toi m\u00eame qu\u2019envers l&rsquo;autre, c&rsquo;est \u00e0 dire que tu vas avoir \u00e0 nouveau pas cette hi\u00e9rarchie en termes d&rsquo;engagement et tu peux finalement appliquer ce principe l\u00e0 avec le respect, avec toutes les autres valeurs qui te sont ch\u00e8res.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On dit bien charit\u00e9 bien ordonn\u00e9e commence par soi-m\u00eame. C&rsquo;est bien ce principe-l\u00e0. <\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-587ea50 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"587ea50\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Applications_dans_differents_cas_concrets_de_la_vie_amoureuse\"><\/span>Applications dans diff\u00e9rents cas concrets de la vie amoureuse.<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a588c6d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a588c6d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Comment tu peux appliquer ce principe finalement, d&rsquo;\u00e9galit\u00e9 de traitement ?\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Prenons l&rsquo;exemple tu es en couple avec quelqu&rsquo;un qui sort d&rsquo;une rupture et qui n\u2019est donc pas encore totalement pr\u00eat pour une relation. Tu sens que la personne est encore dans son deuil et qu&rsquo;elle a du mal encore \u00e0 tourner la page. Alors faire preuve d&#8217;empathie envers cette personne, \u00e7a voudrait dire que tu comprends sa situation, tu comprends sa difficult\u00e9, tu comprends le besoin de cette personne d&rsquo;aller doucement. Tu respectes les moments qui sont les vagues \u00e9motionnelles in\u00e9vitables dans une rupture. Et surtout, tu lui laisses le temps en fait de faire son deuil. L&rsquo;auto-empathie donc dans ce cas serait de te poser la question ok, jusqu&rsquo;\u00e0 quand ? Je suis capable de laisser ce temps \u00e0 l&rsquo;autre de rester dans une phase d\u2019incertitude sans me faire du mal.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Le but est d&rsquo;avoir une r\u00e9ponse assez honn\u00eate envers toi et de v\u00e9rifier si la r\u00e9ponse que tu t&rsquo;es donn\u00e9, le timing que tu t&rsquo;es donn\u00e9, c&rsquo;est vraiment ton vrai timing, \u00e7a, tu peux le voir souvent avec l&rsquo;ampleur de tes vagues \u00e9motionnelles face \u00e0 l\u2019indisponibilit\u00e9 \u00e9motionnelle de l\u2019autre. Si par exemple tu te dis je me sens tout \u00e0 fait capable de lui donner six mois. Mais si \u00e0 chaque fois que tu sens qu&rsquo;il se retire, \u00e0 chaque fois que tu sens qu&rsquo;il prend de la distance, tu es en mode panique, \u00e7a veut dire que clairement, le d\u00e9lai que tu t&rsquo;es donn\u00e9 th\u00e9oriquement dans la t\u00eate, c&rsquo;est quelque chose de th\u00e9orique et ce n&rsquo;est pas un d\u00e9lai effectif que tu peux tenir r\u00e9ellement vis \u00e0 vis de toi m\u00eame parce que tu es d\u00e9j\u00e0 en train de payer les pots cass\u00e9s \u00e9motionnellement.\u00a0<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Un deuxi\u00e8me cas de figure pour l\u2019engagement serait par exemple ton partenaire traverse une p\u00e9riode difficile, il peut avoir, je ne sais pas, perdu son travail, \u00eatre dans un deuil du d\u00e9c\u00e8s de quelqu&rsquo;un, il peut avoir un probl\u00e8me en termes de sant\u00e9 mentale, d\u00e9pression, burn out etc\u2026 \u00c0 cause de cette difficult\u00e9 de vie, il est dans l&rsquo;incapacit\u00e9 d&rsquo;investir de l&rsquo;\u00e9nergie et du temps dans la relation. Donc dans cet aspect-l\u00e0, tu peux te dire j&rsquo;ai envie de m&rsquo;engager envers mon partenaire. On s\u2019est mari\u00e9 pour le meilleur mais aussi pour le pire. J&rsquo;ai envie d&rsquo;\u00eatre pr\u00e9sent pour mon partenaire, d&rsquo;\u00eatre l\u00e0 et de l&rsquo;\u00e9pauler \u00e0 travers cette \u00e9preuve qu&rsquo;il vit et qui est difficile. Donc \u00e7a serait l&rsquo;engagement que tu as envie de montrer vis \u00e0 vis de ton partenaire. Pratiquer la m\u00eame chose envers toi serait de te poser la question\u00a0: \u00ab\u00a0\u00c0 partir de quand je sens que je te donne trop pour la relation, que je donne trop pour mon partenaire et que j&rsquo;oublie mon propre \u00e9quilibre personnel\u00a0?\u00a0\u00bb\u00a0 Parce qu&rsquo;au final, quand quelqu&rsquo;un traverse une difficult\u00e9 comme \u00e7a, le pire qui pourrait arriver, c&rsquo;est que toi aussi tu te sentes mal et donc tu ne sois m\u00eame plus dans cette capacit\u00e9 d&rsquo;\u00e9pauler la personne etc&#8230; L\u2019application de cet engagement envers soi dans ce cas de figure c&rsquo;est d&rsquo;avoir un peu une attitude de pr\u00e9vention et de te dire ok \u00e0 quelle hauteur je suis capable de donner, \u00e0 quelle hauteur je suis capable d&rsquo;\u00e9pauler mon partenaire et de le faire de bon c\u0153ur, dans l&rsquo;\u00e9nergie d\u2019abondance sans que \u00e7a ne devienne pas au d\u00e9triment de mon propre \u00e9quilibre, au d\u00e9triment de ma propre force, au d\u00e9triment de ma propre \u00e9nergie et de ma propre stabilit\u00e9.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Un autre exemple serait s\u2019il y a un projet d&rsquo;expatriation et que le couple se met d&rsquo;accord que la personne qui a le contrat d&rsquo;expatriation va travailler pendant que l&rsquo;autre partenaire va principalement s&rsquo;occuper des enfants. \u00c7a peut \u00eatre un engagement que le couple a d\u00e9cid\u00e9 ensemble. Prenons le cas de la personne qui reste \u00e0 la maison regrette sa d\u00e9cision. L\u2019application de l&rsquo;engagement envers soi serait de se dire ok, mais est ce que cette d\u00e9cision que j&rsquo;ai pris finalement en amont, que je n\u2019ai jamais exp\u00e9riment\u00e9e avant, est ce que cet engagement que j&rsquo;ai fait vis \u00e0 vis de mon couple, vis \u00e0 vis de mon mari est ce que \u00e7a me rend heureux ou pas ? Est-ce que \u00e7a va dans le sens de mon d\u00e9veloppement et mes projets de vie perso ou pas ? Jusqu&rsquo;\u00e0 quand j&rsquo;ai envie de sacrifier mes d\u00e9sirs profonds de r\u00e9alisation pour respecter un engagement que j&rsquo;ai convenu avant de vivre finalement l\u2019exp\u00e9rience. Et l\u00e0 de s&rsquo;engager vis \u00e0 vis de soi serait de se dire ok, j&rsquo;accepte que \u00e0 priori j&rsquo;ai pris un engagement et que j&rsquo;ai fait une erreur, que je me suis rendu compte finalement que cet engagement n&rsquo;\u00e9tait pas exactement ce que je voulais et d&rsquo;affronter en fait de rediscuter les termes de l\u2019engagement, d\u2019oser avoir une discussion difficile pour retrouver un meilleur \u00e9quilibre. Soit dit en passant le fait de ne pas totalement s&rsquo;oublier pour une relation, \u00e7a peut para\u00eetre \u00e9go\u00efste des fois sur le court terme mais personnellement si tu t&rsquo;oublie totalement dans une relation tu risques d\u2019accumuler beaucoup de frustration. Et cette frustration se fait ressentir indirectement dans le couple et explose souvent plus tard sous forme de crise donc ce n&rsquo;est pas forc\u00e9ment non plus une solution. Je ferais un \u00e9pisode de podcast o\u00f9 je parlerai de ce compte bancaire \u00e9motionnel.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">J&rsquo;aimerais donner un autre exemple d&#8217;empathie. Si les partenaires ont des rythmes diff\u00e9rents, par exemple un partenaire aimerait d\u00e9j\u00e0 emm\u00e9nager avec l&rsquo;autre, l&rsquo;autre n\u2019est pas trop press\u00e9, ou un partenaire aimerait d\u00e9j\u00e0 se marier, mais l&rsquo;autre trouve que c&rsquo;est encore un petit peu trop t\u00f4t. Dans ce cas faire preuve d&#8217;empathie serait de dire j&rsquo;ai envie de respecter le rythme de l&rsquo;autre, j&rsquo;ai envie de que \u00e7a vienne de lui, qu&rsquo;il en ait vraiment envie, que ce soit un d\u00e9roulement naturel de sa part. Et l&rsquo;auto-empathie serait de se dire mais jusqu&rsquo;\u00e0 quel point j&rsquo;oublie mon timing et \u00e0 partir de quand je suis oblig\u00e9e de respecter mon besoin d&rsquo;avancer et finalement de mettre en fait cette envie de respecter le timing de l&rsquo;autre \u00e0 la m\u00eame hauteur que de respecter son propre timing.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alors dernier exemple \u00e7a serait de dire bah voil\u00e0, au moment o\u00f9 on est, on s&rsquo;est mis en couple. En fait, j&rsquo;avais un travail en tant qu\u2019employ\u00e9, un travail stable, une r\u00e9mun\u00e9ration stable qui cr\u00e9ait un certain niveau de s\u00e9curit\u00e9 dans le couple. Et puis \u00e0 un moment donn\u00e9, le besoin ou l&rsquo;envie de cr\u00e9er une activit\u00e9, de lancer son business, de devenir entrepreneur vient. L\u2019engagement envers soi serait de respecter cette envie de cr\u00e9ation, ce besoin de r\u00e9aliser ton r\u00eave pro versus et de ne pas laisser tomber ton r\u00eave, en ne lan\u00e7ant pas ce que tu as vraiment envie de lancer, juste par peur de la r\u00e9action de l&rsquo;autre ou de l&rsquo;inqui\u00e9tude de l&rsquo;autre, ou de l&rsquo;aversion \u00e0 la prise de risque que peut avoir l&rsquo;autre. L\u2019engagement envers l\u2019autre serait de t&rsquo;engager sur un certain niveau de s\u00e9curit\u00e9 pour le couple, par exemple en fixant un d\u00e9lai clair d&rsquo;essai, en ayant suffisamment d\u2019\u00e9conomies pour participer \u00e0 ta part du budget dans le couple.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alors j&rsquo;esp\u00e8re en fait que cet \u00e9pisode t&rsquo;aura donn\u00e9 des cl\u00e9s pour arriver justement \u00e0 faire ce thread off. Finalement, entre comment j&rsquo;ai envie d&rsquo;\u00eatre avec l&rsquo;autre et comment j&rsquo;ai aussi envie de m&rsquo;inclure dans l&rsquo;\u00e9quation.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-649cd322 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"649cd322\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-5c0ec4e7\" data-id=\"5c0ec4e7\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-6794121c elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6794121c\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-6073b58b\" data-id=\"6073b58b\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4152bba elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"4152bba\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-40e3f265 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"40e3f265\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-475d3833\" data-id=\"475d3833\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4ba71d27 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4ba71d27\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Pour toi<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1265cbe1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1265cbe1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"LE_WEBINAIRE_gratuit\"><\/span><span>LE W\u00c9BINAIRE gratuit<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-52f23284 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"52f23284\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"%22Comment_se_liberer_des_schemas_qui_nous_empechent_detre_heureuses_en_amour_%22\"><\/span><span><strong><em>\"Comment se lib\u00e9rer des sch\u00e9mas qui nous emp\u00eachent d'\u00eatre heureuses en amour ?\"<\/em><\/strong><span> <\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1eef7e2a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1eef7e2a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #000000; 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Tu peux te d\u00e9sabonner \u00e0 tout moment. Merci de lire ma <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/politique-de-confidentialite\/\"> Politique de confidentialit\u00e9 <\/a> pour voir comment je traite les donn\u00e9es.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7d615e63 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7d615e63\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2c391e1f\" data-id=\"2c391e1f\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-15b29f02 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"15b29f02\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Pour_aller_plus_loin\"><\/span>Pour aller plus loin<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-657bb80c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"657bb80c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu as envie d\u2019approfondir le sujet et d\u2019identifier tes propres sch\u00e9mas amoureux tu as <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-souvrir-a-lamour-et-si-la-solution-se-trouvait-du-cote-du-nerf-vague\/\">mon livre <\/a><\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-souvrir-a-lamour-et-si-la-solution-se-trouvait-du-cote-du-nerf-vague\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> disponible dans toutes les librairies.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3aa08e02 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3aa08e02\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-df49b91\" data-id=\"df49b91\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-24e0b9f0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"24e0b9f0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><p><span style=\"font-size: 30px;\">Et enfin si tu es pr\u00eate \u00e0 t\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour et \u00e0 transformer ta vie amoureuse je t\u2019invite \u00e0 rejoindre mon programme de coaching <\/span><a style=\"font-size: 30px; background-color: #ffffff;\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvrir-a-lamour\/\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour<\/a><span style=\"font-size: 30px;\">.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-20ad4 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-global elementor-global-38034 elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"20ad4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/souvrir-a-lamour\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">S'ouvrir \u00e0 l'amour<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section 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