{"id":28155,"date":"2020-07-29T15:02:28","date_gmt":"2020-07-29T15:02:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/why-do-we-mourn-our-ex-even-though-we-know-he-doesnt-deserve-us\/"},"modified":"2025-10-05T03:00:37","modified_gmt":"2025-10-05T03:00:37","slug":"why-do-we-mourn-our-ex-even-though-we-know-he-doesnt-deserve-us","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/why-do-we-mourn-our-ex-even-though-we-know-he-doesnt-deserve-us\/","title":{"rendered":"Why do we mourn our ex when we know he doesn&#8217;t deserve us?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"28155\" class=\"elementor elementor-28155 elementor-6871\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-6e16d5cb elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6e16d5cb\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-27e78e59\" data-id=\"27e78e59\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7188bcfc elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"7188bcfc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h1 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why_do_we_mourn_our_ex_when_we_know_he_doesnt_deserve_us\"><\/span> Why do we mourn our ex when we know he doesn't deserve us?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h1>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3f9668a5 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3f9668a5\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-3064d356\" data-id=\"3064d356\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fddda1b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"fddda1b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>\nfont-size: 34px;}<br \/>\n  <\/style><\/div>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>Grieving your ex, even a disastrous one, is the result of an emotional shock with your reason. You&#8217;ve just split up and you still mourn your ex even though deep down you know he didn&#8217;t treat you well or that your relationship was doomed to failure and you&#8217;d like to understand why you have these contradictory feelings?<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s quite simple.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s what we call a<strong> conflict between two minds.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-9348\" src=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pleurer-son-ex-300x200.jpg\" alt=\"pleurer son ex\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pleurer-son-ex-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pleurer-son-ex-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pleurer-son-ex-600x400.jpg 600w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/pleurer-son-ex.jpg 1000w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Crying_over_your_ex_a_conflict_of_the_two_brains\"><\/span>Crying over your ex: a conflict of the two brains<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>On one hand there is your rational brain, able to analyze the situation, in this case your love relationship and understand why this particular person was not a good match for you. Unfortunately the rational brain does not manage your emotional state, nor your love patterns.<\/p>\n<p>Your emotional reactions and love patterns are managed by your reptilian brain and this programming eventually ends up being recorded in your body.<\/p>\n<p>This is why, even if you understand that the relationship had no future, and the break up is best for you, you may continue to suffer from anxiety attacks, or even feel attached to the person you are breaking up with.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_solution_act_first_on_your_reptilian_brain\"><\/span>The solution: act first on your reptilian brain<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>You&#8217;ve figured out that  the act of thinking (your rational brain) isn&#8217;t going to help you get over your ex.<\/p>\n<p>There are 3 things you can do to affect your reptilian brain:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The first is to calm your reptilian brain by getting it out of its stressful situation which can be achieved through body movements, breathing exercises that will allow you to calm down the emotion you are experiencing. Here is a simple exercise that will help you calm down quickly your emotions.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-e3a1b42 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"e3a1b42\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-ece2161\" data-id=\"ece2161\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ec02fdc elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"ec02fdc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/ZSlBFCPauDs&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-e725b7f elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"e725b7f\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-a834f86\" data-id=\"a834f86\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1219deb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1219deb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Then, once you&#8217;re out of the breakdown mode, it&#8217;s important to understand what love pattern your reptilian brain has recorded. To do this, you will receive 4 free questions from me that will allow you to identify one of your love patterns. Send me an email at info@sandykaufmann.ch.<\/li>\n<li>Finally, it is important to deprogram these patterns so that you don&#8217;t reproduce this emotional reaction and it goes through your body. Watch my free webinar that includes a full explanation on how to create a love pattern and why it is important to use your body to deprogram it.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-b4ae1e7 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"b4ae1e7\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-36da164\" data-id=\"36da164\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-b90d76b elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"b90d76b\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-e6009eb\" data-id=\"e6009eb\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-624339b elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"624339b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-b18c7ea elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"b18c7ea\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-2862289\" data-id=\"2862289\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a3413ff elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"a3413ff\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">For you\u200b<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ad6160a elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"ad6160a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Webinar_How_a_wound_from_the_past_is_created\"><\/span><span>Webinar How a wound from the past is created? 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