{"id":27181,"date":"2020-07-26T17:21:52","date_gmt":"2020-07-26T17:21:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/he-doesnt-answer-me-and-im-anxious-what-can-i-do\/"},"modified":"2025-10-07T08:36:09","modified_gmt":"2025-10-07T08:36:09","slug":"he-doesnt-answer-me-and-im-anxious-what-can-i-do","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/he-doesnt-answer-me-and-im-anxious-what-can-i-do\/","title":{"rendered":"He doesn’t answer me and I’m anxious, what can I do?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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You have just sent him a text message and you are submerged by a thousand thoughts: why isn’t he answering, am I asking too much from him?<\/p>

Or do you wish as the relationship moves forward, that he would act differently and as soon as you’d ask him, you’d be afraid of his reaction or regret asking by fear of ruining everything.<\/p>

This infernal spiral turns you upside down and you don’t even enjoy being in a relationship anymore, because you feel like you are constantly in an inner struggle with yourself, wondering what you are doing right or wrong.<\/p>

You’re tired of worrying about what you’re doing either if its right or wrong.<\/p>

What can you do to stop the mental cycle or the obsessive thoughts?<\/p>

PS If you’d like to stop thinking about your ex read the following article on how to grieve from a relationship<\/a>.<\/p>

Calm your mental bike<\/strong><\/p>

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You can practice this breathing by whistling to calm your anxiety.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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It’s the brain gym method of cooling down and reconnecting with yourself again.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Try these different methods and pick the one that fits your special needs.<\/p>\n

If you often have obsessive thoughts, you can also practice this Kundalini Yoga exercise for 40 days in a row to lose this particular habit. If you’ve felt this way for many years, you may need to push it up to 120 days.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t

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Understand what generates this mental bicycle<\/strong><\/p>\n

There is often one thought that has been the trigger for this chain of dark thoughts. In the psycho-corporal approach that I practice, the seat of the mental bicycle is the gallbladder.<\/p>\n

The mental cycle begins when you have judged yourself so much, when you have felt so much guilt or anxiety (liver dysfunction) that these inner judgments are starting to loop around in your head and you’re having trouble telling the difference between right and wrong.<\/p>\n

To stop the mental cycle before it starts, try to spot the first self-judgment, the first thought, and give yourself the right to choose a new, more positive thought that allows you to avoid this toxic negative spiral. It’s the famous \u201cChoose again\u201d Gabby Bernstein’s method<\/a> or the model of Brooke Castillo that Clotilde Dusoulier talks about in her podcast Change ma vie<\/a> (in french only).<\/p>\n

For example, if your boyfriend doesn’t answer straight away,  <\/p>\n

Instead of thinking he doesn’t like me, you can think he’s busy.<\/p>\n

Instead of thinking I’ve been too demanding, you may think I’ve expressed my need of the moment.<\/p>\n

Change your pattern of self-judgment<\/strong><\/p>\n

This reflexion of judging and questioning all the time did not happen by chance. Maybe you’ve learned from past experiences that you have to be perfect to be loved or you can’t make mistakes.<\/p>\n

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