{"id":27109,"date":"2020-07-24T18:28:33","date_gmt":"2020-07-24T18:28:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/the-impact-of-rape-and-touching-on-relationships\/"},"modified":"2025-10-05T03:19:21","modified_gmt":"2025-10-05T03:19:21","slug":"the-impact-of-rape-and-sexual-touching-on-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/the-impact-of-rape-and-sexual-touching-on-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"The Impact of Rape and sexual touching on Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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When I became a coach, I didn’t expect to have so many women raped, touched, or had experiences where they were considered as sexual objects.<\/p>\n

This subject is still taboo and often those who suffer from it keep silent, either to preserve “family harmony”, or to forget, or because they feel partially responsible (they all had no reason to “tease”) or because they didn’t realise that what happened was not normal.<\/p>\n

In this article I have tried to list the different impacts that these aggressions can have in the love life of a woman based on my observations during the support I gave them.<\/p>\n

Lack of trust in men\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is the most obvious impact, yet it is not necessarily the one I have observed the most.<\/p>\n

If the rape or the touching happened with family members, there is also a fundamental lack of safety, because the person who is supposed to protect you is abusing you.<\/p>\n

Lack of orgasm<\/strong><\/p>\n

Following rape or touching, sexuality can be seen as dirty and pleasure can be seen as bad. The woman may have difficulty letting go to reach orgasm.<\/p>\n

Using Sexuality as a Means of Controlling Men<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sexuality becomes a way of controlling men, or even “monetizing” their attention. There may be a need for love to be transactional, i.e. there may be an exchange of love for gifts or money.<\/p>\n

Being cut off from your feelings\/body<\/strong><\/p>\n

In order to survive this situation, the person has cut themselves off from their body so that they no longer “feel” the event.<\/p>\n

Alternating friendly or passionate in relationships<\/strong><\/p>\n

A person who has experienced this kind of trauma can alternate between fulfilling relationships that are still friendly and passionate and sexually fulfilling but without a future.<\/p>\n

A strong woman who struggles to show her vulnerability<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes the counter-reaction is to become a strong woman who hides her vulnerability, who has almost a rather masculine, and dominant side, a bit like taking over what has just happened.<\/p>\n

Ultra-strong woman<\/strong><\/p>\n

This kind of trauma can cause the woman to inscribe that love as necessarily linked to sexuality and therefore she becomes ultra seductive in order to receive love.<\/p>\n

Difficulty seducing<\/strong><\/p>\n

The opposite effect also occurs. Here the woman has recorded that seduction can be dangerous for her.<\/p>\n

Self sabotage<\/strong><\/p>\n

If the woman thinks its her fault and she’s guilty, she can totally sabotage herself in terms of love, as she believes that she is not worthy of being loved.<\/p>\n

Somatisation<\/strong><\/p>\n

It is very common for people who have suffered from this kind of trauma to develop diseases of the female organs such as the uterus, ovaries or breasts.<\/p>\n

The body is even more pronounced\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you havent noticed yet, I’m deprogramming the love patterns on a body level.<\/p>\n

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