{"id":27027,"date":"2026-10-25T18:00:54","date_gmt":"2026-10-25T18:00:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/the-secret-of-couples-that-last\/"},"modified":"2026-10-28T12:31:14","modified_gmt":"2026-10-28T12:31:14","slug":"71-the-secret-of-couples-who-last","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/71-the-secret-of-couples-who-last\/","title":{"rendered":"71. The secret of couples who last"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"27027\" class=\"elementor elementor-27027 elementor-15220\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-525528d6 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"525528d6\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-3dd73755\" data-id=\"3dd73755\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2cf677de elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"2cf677de\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">The secret of couples who last<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-35bdebd7 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"35bdebd7\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-29baab3d\" data-id=\"29baab3d\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-35eb504d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"35eb504d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_secret_of_couples_who_last\"><\/span>The secret of couples who last<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\nWhat makes some couples last, with partners who stay close and keep thriving together?\nIs there a secret that makes these couples last?\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The answer to this question is not so obvious, because in my opinion, after 8 years of practice, every couple builds its own secret that makes things work well between them. More in episode 71 of S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour.<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-ed73939 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"ed73939\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-99c6580\" data-id=\"99c6580\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-503e20a elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"503e20a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/9wexQ3bisr8?si=c8UEY0SG0QfDL-No&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fbe07bc elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"fbe07bc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<iframe name=\"Ausha Podcast Player\" frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" id=\"ausha-UxnP\" height=\"220\" style=\"border: none; width:100%; height:220px\" src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/index.html?showId=bjPkYiPMPlqo&color=%23d13523&podcastId=oma5EcAL942Z&v=3&playerId=ausha-UxnP\"><\/iframe><script src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/ausha-player.js\"><\/script>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-8df0783 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"8df0783\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-3da4968\" data-id=\"3da4968\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6e07664 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6e07664\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_secret_of_couples_who_last-2\"><\/span>The secret of couples who last<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\nWhat makes some couples last, with partners who stay close and keep thriving together?\nIs there a secret that makes these couples last?\nThe answer to this question is not so obvious, because in my opinion every couple builds its own secret that makes things work well between them. And it even changes over the course of their relationship.(see <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/les-stades-dune-relation-amoureuse\/\">this article<\/a> if you want to know more about the stages of a relationship.)\nEven I, after 9 years in a relationship and as a love coach, do not have this certainty at 100%, because it is a balance that, in my view, is constantly being redefined as each partner and the couple evolve.\nImagine how much you have changed in 10 years of life. That will not change when you get into a relationship.\nInstead of a miracle recipe valid for everyone, there are, in my view, 3 aspects to consider to help each couple find its secret:\n<ol><li>Understand the physiological evolution of romantic feelings after several years of living together<\/li><li>Be clear about the role of the couple and the expectations toward it<\/li><li>Cultivate the ingredients needed for a successful life as a pair<\/li><\/ol>\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color: #eeeeee;\">\u2764\ufe0f Watch <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/registrationpastwounds\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">my webinar <\/a><\/strong>on how to finally be happy in love!<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Understanding_how_romantic_feelings_evolve_after_several_years_together\"><\/span>Understanding how romantic feelings evolve after several years together<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>This part follows the <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/comment-un-homme-tombe-amoureux\/\">article on how a man falls in love<\/a> where I summarize Dawn Maslar\u2019s research on the physiological mechanisms that take place when we fall in love and how different they are between a man and a woman.<\/p><p>In this same research Dawn Maslar finds that after falling in love, hormones return roughly to their original level, that is, to the level before the meeting, and that couples who continue to stay together do so by conscious choice.<\/p><p>At this point in the relationship, it is no longer the reptilian brain that drives the relationship, but the rational brain, more specifically the cortex, the same area of the brain that connects us to our values, to our desire to be the best version of ourselves by developing qualities such as compassion and unconditional love. It is typically the area of the brain that is activated when you do personal development.<\/p><p>In other words <strong>love starts as a feeling and ends up being a choice.&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p><p>It is therefore normal to see a change in the couple\u2019s passion after several years together, because the hormones return to normal.<\/p><p><a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/eyq2Wo4eUDg\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Dawn Maslar<\/a> nevertheless describes two phenomena that occur in parallel with this change of brain:<\/p><ul><li>Using the prefrontal cortex will reduce our feeling of attraction toward other people.<\/li><li>Mirror neurons allow us to benefit even more quickly from our partner\u2019s experience, in the sense that we learn faster what they know how to do, because they have already acquired that skill and we are often in contact with them.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Being_clear_about_the_role_of_the_couple\"><\/span>Being clear about the role of the couple<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>I hope the description of the physiological evolution of romantic feelings will give you a more realistic expectation of the role of the couple in your life.<\/p><p>For me the couple remains and will remain only one part of your life, in the sense that for me the couple is two independent individuals, fulfilled in their respective lives, who decide to share the bonus of the couple, that is, this cherry on the cake (sharing your life with someone you love) and not the whole cake.&nbsp;<\/p><p>And so that means two things: first, that your first mission is to keep thriving personally, independently of your couple life.<\/p><p>And second, that you can take advantage of this cherry on the cake, which is the couple, for your own personal development.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p><p>Once the couple commits for the long term, it becomes for me a personal development tool, in the sense that it is within the couple, in this zone of safety and love, that each partner\u2019s wounds from the past will resurface. The couple becomes the unique opportunity to settle what was not resolved in the first home where we experienced this safety (or not), our parents.<\/p><p>Crises often occur when there is a change in the degree of dependence on the other partner at the structural level (for example with the arrival of children), at the financial level (for example when the spouse loses their job), at the emotional level (for example if one of the spouses loses a loved one), at the physical level (for example if one of the spouses falls ill).<\/p><p>And so staying together finally becomes a choice to go all the way with your personal development, because changing partners will not necessarily help you solve the problem, you will simply live the same problem with another person.<\/p><p>Of course up to a certain point. For some couples, separating will be the best solution.<\/p><p>In my program <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/cultivating-love\/\">Cultivating Love<\/a> I offer different tools for reflection to understand what is hiding behind a relationship crisis, that is, which wounds resurface for each partner, what the couple can do to soften and manage the conflict, how each partner can help the other in their process and which questions to consider to decide whether or not it is worth continuing.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_ingredients_for_a_successful_life_as_a_pair\"><\/span>The ingredients for a successful life as a pair&nbsp;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>I hope that at this stage of the article you are clear that <strong>staying fulfilled in a relationship takes work.<\/strong><\/p><p>Which means you must devote to it:<\/p><ul><li><strong>Time, and above all quality time<\/strong>. Here quality prevails over quantity. How much time do you dedicate to your partner to spend a pleasant, quality moment and not only to divide up the tasks?<\/li><li><strong>Give your couple priority<\/strong>. When the couple is going through a bad patch, it is a natural reaction to keep busy otherwise, with other activities (outings, sports, seeing friends) to escape the crisis. But when you want to get through this crisis, you also have to invest time in it and sometimes reduce your investment in certain personal activities to dedicate more time to your couple.<\/li><li><strong>Nurture the relationship<\/strong> with gestures of attention and love.<\/li><li><strong>Accept that the other has a different pace of evolution<\/strong> from yours, which may mean that the crisis lasts longer and that you therefore have to find a way to \u201cwait\u201d until the other person does their part of personal development.<\/li><li><strong>Stay positive<\/strong> about the relationship<\/li><li><strong>Keep having projects together<\/strong><\/li><li><strong>Consciously decide to admire your partner<\/strong> by focusing on what they do well. Not easy when you are in the middle of a crisis.<\/li><li><strong>Keep fulfilling yourself outside your relationship<\/strong><\/li><\/ul><p>At this level of the relationship, each partner becomes the expert of their couple, because you are best placed to understand what you need to thrive. I personally find it beautiful to see the couple become the greatest tool for personal development and a way of experiencing unconditional love.<\/p><p>Believe me, it is worth it.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-412c3e1a elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"412c3e1a\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-805616e\" data-id=\"805616e\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap 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Please read my<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/datenschutzbestimmungen\/\">privacy policy (german only)<\/a>, to see how I process the data.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-6287af78 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6287af78\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-44d8edff\" data-id=\"44d8edff\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5e92e392 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"5e92e392\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Going_further\"><\/span>Going further<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1e2d28eb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1e2d28eb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your couple needs care.\u00a0<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To maintain the connection, spending good times together is not enough. It is important to resolve the underlying conflicts to avoid accumulating too much dust under the rug, which makes the couple disconnect and each partner feel misunderstood by the other.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is what you learn in my program <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/cultivating-love\/\">Cultivating Love<\/a>.<\/span>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7d3ed8b7 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"7d3ed8b7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/cultivating-love\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">CULTIVATING LOVE<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-bc0606c elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"bc0606c\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-7a18728\" data-id=\"7a18728\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5ef88840 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"5ef88840\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Une_premiere_etape_mon_livre\"><\/span>Une premi\u00e8re \u00e9tape: mon livre<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1dbcab6a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1dbcab6a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Si tu as envie d\u2019approfondir le sujet et de comprendre comment construire une belle dynamique, tu as mon livre <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-les-couples-heureux-osent-aborder-les-sujets-qui-fachent\/\">Les couples heureux&#8230;osent aborder les sujets qui f\u00e2chent<\/a> disponible dans toutes les librairies.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-5cfe6c50 elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-content-middle elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-items-middle\" data-id=\"5cfe6c50\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-7999a06\" data-id=\"7999a06\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-6ee1d50d elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6ee1d50d\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-2fa8970e\" data-id=\"2fa8970e\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-33a652f6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"33a652f6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1771\" height=\"1535\" src=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1.png\" class=\"attachment-2048x2048 size-2048x2048 wp-image-1081512\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1.png 1771w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-300x260.png 300w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-1024x888.png 1024w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-768x666.png 768w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-1536x1331.png 1536w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-600x520.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1771px) 100vw, 1771px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-32e2464d\" data-id=\"32e2464d\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8550ff0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"8550ff0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Contrairement aux id\u00e9es re\u00e7ues, les couples qui durent ne sont pas ceux qui \u00e9vitent les conflits mais qui savent les traverser.\nLe livre <i><b>Les couples heureux..osent aborder les sujets qui f\u00e2chent<\/b><\/i> t'explique comment transformer vos tensions en connexion en 5 \u00e9tapes!<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-36979aa8 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"36979aa8\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-203279c1\" data-id=\"203279c1\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-75119a6c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"75119a6c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>\n<div id=\"sb_instagram\"  class=\"sbi sbi_mob_col_1 sbi_tab_col_2 sbi_col_6\" style=\"padding-bottom: 10px; background-color: rgb(255,255,255); width: 100%;\"\t data-feedid=\"sbi_17841411036917986#6\"  data-res=\"thumb\" data-cols=\"6\" data-colsmobile=\"1\" data-colstablet=\"2\" data-num=\"6\" data-nummobile=\"\" data-item-padding=\"5\"\t data-shortcode-atts=\"{}\"  data-postid=\"27027\" data-locatornonce=\"4d9007a474\" data-imageaspectratio=\"1:1\" data-sbi-flags=\"favorLocal,ajaxPostLoad,gdpr\">\n\t\n\t<div id=\"sbi_images\"  style=\"gap: 10px;\">\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t<div id=\"sbi_load\" >\n\n\t\n\t\n<\/div>\n\t\t<span class=\"sbi_resized_image_data\" data-feed-id=\"sbi_17841411036917986#6\"\n\t\t  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class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-6fe14e14 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6fe14e14\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-505612b4\" data-id=\"505612b4\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-131682f9 elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"131682f9\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-7b6b6ad4\" data-id=\"7b6b6ad4\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-47b1e24c elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"47b1e24c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-2e86331d elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"2e86331d\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-4bcc7128\" data-id=\"4bcc7128\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4f19086d elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4f19086d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Sandy Kaufmann\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2564033e elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2564033e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: large;\"><span style=\"caret-color: #000000;\">is a somatic therapist and coach, based in Switzerland. She is the author of two books published by \u00c9ditions Eyrolles and has accompanied more than 600 people. She is the creator of the Somatic Deprogramming method and hosts the podcast &#8220;<a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/blog\/\">S&#8217;ouvrir \u00e0 l&#8217;amour<\/a>&#8220;, ranked in the French top 50 in the relationships category.<\/span><\/span>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-353b2621\" data-id=\"353b2621\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-c5d0c86 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-stretch elementor-section-content-middle elementor-section-height-default\" 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