{"id":1250600,"date":"2026-10-28T13:27:23","date_gmt":"2026-10-28T13:27:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1250600"},"modified":"2026-10-28T13:35:10","modified_gmt":"2026-10-28T13:35:10","slug":"67-internal-safety-versus-external-safety","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/67-internal-safety-versus-external-safety\/","title":{"rendered":"67. Internal safety versus external safety"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1250600\" class=\"elementor elementor-1250600 elementor-1067703\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ed86594 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ed86594\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6ea7bd98\" data-id=\"6ea7bd98\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d639127 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3d639127\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">Internal safety versus external safety<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-62d37295 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62d37295\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4e162bd6\" data-id=\"4e162bd6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-376509b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"376509b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This episode is part of a series of three episodes that starts from <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/66-les-actes-versus-les-paroles\/\">episode 66<\/a>. <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">episode 66<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, I was telling you about the importance of actions versus words and perhaps giving you another way to do this evaluation. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In that episode I also talked about the importance of safety in the couple and in this episode 67, I really wanted to develop this notion of safety because it is difficult to put in place if we do not always feel safe ourselves. It is the subject of my first book <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-souvrir-a-lamour-et-si-la-solution-se-trouvait-du-cote-du-nerf-vague\/\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour, et si la solution se trouvait du c\u00f4t\u00e9 du nerf vague?<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color: #eeeeee;\">\u2764\ufe0f Watch <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/registrationpastwounds\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">my webinar <\/a><\/strong>on how to finally be happy in love!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-38912f3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"38912f3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0134662 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"0134662\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/7-oDCj6PSD0?si=dPWx0oNfPWK6zo2A&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-693bb58 elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"693bb58\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<iframe name=\"Ausha Podcast Player\" frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" id=\"ausha-93ES\" height=\"220\" style=\"border: none; width:100%; height:220px\" src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/index.html?showId=bjPkYiPMPlqo&color=%23d13523&podcastId=y0OGmfkgP1Dk&v=3&playerId=ausha-93ES\"><\/iframe><script src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/ausha-player.js\"><\/script>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9a6b1ea elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"9a6b1ea\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_do_we_manage_to_create_this_safety_in_the_couple\"><\/span>How do we manage to create this safety in the couple?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-29bd2bd elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"29bd2bd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because of course, the wounds of your past have a rather strong impact on your own sense of internal safety. In this episode, I am going to talk about three aspects&nbsp;:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is the other in fact responsible for your sense of safety in the couple?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Distinction between internal safety and external safety and above all the thread off?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is the balance to find between what you want to take on yourself or what you would like to ask for in the form of a need or limits in your couple?<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first thing I would like to recall is that feeling safe or unsafe depends on your thoughts in a given situation. So theoretically, the other is not directly responsible for your sense of internal safety. I let you listen to <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/12-la-responsabilite-emotionnelle\/\">episode 12<\/a> on emotional responsibility<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> on this.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fc65e27 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"fc65e27\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What_influences_your_sense_of_safety\"><\/span>What influences your sense of safety<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6872806 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6872806\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">On the other hand, your thoughts are influenced by several factors&nbsp;:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first, and it is often the most important, if you feel you often repeat the same situations in love, is your past. If you have experienced insecure attachments or different forms of insecurity in your past, well, the slightest sign of insecurity will make you over-react. And let\u2019s say that in a phase of building a couple, there are quite a few moments when you do not know, that is, when you do not know whether the other is in love with you, when you do not know whether the other is ready to commit to you, and all these moments when you do not necessarily know create insecurity. If you have experienced insecurity in your past, it will have a snowball effect and you will over-react. If I give you my example, I had the wound of betrayal, so as soon as a partner did not answer me within 3-4 hours, even if rationally I understood that this person could be busy and have other things to do than answering me, I had a knot in my stomach, I was totally panicked, I was in a \u201cthat\u2019s it, it\u2019s the end, he is with another woman, I can already pack my bags and move on to another relationship\u201d mode. The past is one of the biggest factors that influence the scenarios you put in your head.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p>&nbsp;<\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The second factor is circumstances, that is, there can still be situations where you have good reasons to feel insecure. So for example, in the case where your partner does not see you regularly, does not tell you clearly that he wants to commit, well, at that moment, your emotion of insecurity is a good messenger. It sends you the right message because ultimately it asks you to choose whether you want to keep living in this insecurity or not.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p>&nbsp;<\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The third factor is your ease or comfort in taking risks. The situations I call gray in the couple, like how often you want to give each other news, how often you want to see each other, how fast you want to commit, are ultimately only preferences. There is no fixed rule that says you must call your sweetheart three times a day or once a day. In these cases, there is not one partner who is right and the other who is wrong. These are preferences and we have the right to have different preferences. For the person who wants more, that is, the person who wants more calls, who wants to commit faster, who wants to see the person more often, it is up to this person to assess whether they are okay with taking this risk, with temporarily living this insecurity to respect the other\u2019s rhythm. It is a subject that can be discussed with the partner who has less of this need.&nbsp;<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p>&nbsp;<\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The last factor that can influence your thoughts is your level of internal safety. There are situations where you are really aware that your feeling of insecurity is not really linked to the person\u2019s actions, but that it is more work to do on yourself, to work on your sense of safety. Because the other is not responsible for your past, the other is not responsible for your baggage. If I go back to my personal example, I could ask myself whether I wanted to make the other bear the fact that I was totally panicked if they did not answer me within the following three or 4 hours? Me personally, my answer was no. So I made sure to work on my internal safety and so, to find out which part you can work on yourself in terms of internal safety, or what you would like to ask your partner to feel safe, you can ask yourself the following two questions&nbsp;:&nbsp;<\/span><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do I want to be a partner who lets the other, for example, answer my message during the day?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Or to look at the effect it would have on you? How would I feel or react if my partner did not let me do XXX?<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><p>&nbsp;<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If I go back to the example of my text message, I wanted to be able to give my partner a day to answer even if at the time I could not yet manage it. Make this decision according to the standard in relationship that you want to cultivate, the person you want to be in relationship. And when you have defined this threshold it allows you to identify what level of internal safety you need to work on with regard to yourself.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because ultimately, a relationship is about balancing taking a certain risk, that is, going toward the other without yet having a 100&nbsp;% result, while feeling safe enough to manage to open up to the other. And in this duo, it is normal that each partner will have a risk-taking\/need-for-safety ratio that is totally different. This aspect is something that is negotiable, discussable within the couple, because the couple will ultimately be able to decide what level of safety must be managed on each partner\u2019s side and what level of safety the other is okay to give their partner so that they feel safe in the relationship.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This negotiation is particularly valid in situations of healthy dependence that are unavoidable in the couple, that is, in all the situations that we cannot resolve without the other. Typically, we cannot settle how often we give news without agreeing with our partner. We cannot decide on the frequency of visits without the other agreeing. We cannot decide to have a child if the other partner does not agree. In all these situations, it ultimately requires the couple to agree so that each partner manages to evolve in a sufficient sense of safety.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-094e9b0 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"094e9b0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Practical_cases\"><\/span>Practical cases<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-11ff6e5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"11ff6e5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I am going to give you different examples of scenarios for you to form your own opinion. These differences can be resolved through internal safety or through external safety.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first scenario is how often partners give each other news. The one who needs to receive more news can decide to work on their internal safety and fully own their insecurity without impacting the other, that is, leave the other free to answer during the day by setting an internal response deadline. When this deadline is exceeded, make a clear request by saying it is important to me that you answer me within 24 hours. And so find this balance. The other partner can also understand the other\u2019s need to be reassured and want to take this sensitivity into account and answer texts relatively quickly.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another subject is jealousy. A partner can really have difficulty feeling safe when the other partner talks to someone of the opposite sex. The first attitude is to work on your internal safety, to remind yourself for example of all the proof the partner has already given regarding the relationship and not to make the other bear this insecurity. But it can also be a subject of discussion where the other partner understands that this is something difficult for their partner and, for example, they agree that when the person feels insecure, they can make a sign or a gesture so that he includes them in the discussion.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another point is distance, it can be insecure not to live with the other or to be far from the other without knowing what the other is doing. The partner who feels this can work on their internal safety by reminding themselves that they chose a long-distance relationship and own this feeling of insecurity. Or it can be something that is discussed within the couple, the other partner can for example commit to giving regular news or to seeing each other regularly to help the other have a sufficient level of safety.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Another point is the desire for a child. I already talk about it in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/65-desir-denfant-quand-en-parler\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">episode 65<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, here too there are two aspects. There is the partner who already has this wish to have a child, they can work on their internal safety by telling themselves okay, I take the risk of waiting a certain time to let the other decide and own this share of risk. Or on the contrary the couple can decide to share this risk by saying well, we are going to have regular discussions, we are going to set ourselves a maximum deadline to see if we manage to find a common agreement on this decision. The partner who has this desire for a child can also decide for their internal safety and say no, I do not want to take the risk of waiting for nothing. Under these conditions, I prefer to end the relationship or not move forward in it as long as this desire for a child is not clarified.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I hope these examples have shown you that ultimately there is no fixed rule, that this balance between internal and external safety is something discussable, something negotiable and that it is healthy to discuss within the couple to agree on win-win solutions.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This ability to discuss is something we work on a lot in my program <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/opening-up-to-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Opening up to love<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Because for me, it allows you to stay in relationship without forgetting yourself. These negotiations are really important and essential to build a couple that thrives over the long term.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So in the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/68-empathie-et-engagement\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">next episode<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, we are going to talk about empathy and commitment.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d40088e elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"d40088e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section 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data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2e6a8292\" data-id=\"2e6a8292\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-3cfba124 elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3cfba124\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-4c62032b\" data-id=\"4c62032b\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5fc4ee93 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"5fc4ee93\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-4a4c00a4 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4a4c00a4\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-3d2d8282\" data-id=\"3d2d8282\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-52190355 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"52190355\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">For you<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1e79e02c elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1e79e02c\" 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Please read my<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/datenschutzbestimmungen\/\">privacy policy (german only)<\/a>, to see how I process the data.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-6118113e elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6118113e\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-75420a0d\" data-id=\"75420a0d\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4a74a6a elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4a74a6a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Going_further\"><\/span>Going further<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7531250b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"7531250b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to explore the topic further and identify your own love patterns, you have <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-souvrir-a-lamour-et-si-la-solution-se-trouvait-du-cote-du-nerf-vague\/\">my book <\/a><\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-souvrir-a-lamour-et-si-la-solution-se-trouvait-du-cote-du-nerf-vague\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> available in all bookstores.<\/span><\/p>\n<span style=\"font-size: 30px;\">And finally, if you are ready to open up to love and transform your love life, I invite you to join my coaching program <\/span><a style=\"font-size: 30px; background-color: #ffffff;\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/opening-up-to-love\/\">Opening up to love<\/a><span style=\"font-size: 30px;\">.&nbsp;You can take the Day of the Past option, a day of <strong>Somatic Deprogramming<\/strong>: a psycho-corporal practice to deprogram the automatic patterns of the nervous system and reprogram new relational reflexes.<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-009828d elementor-align-center 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class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2ef4008 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"2ef4008\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-8b7c18a\" data-id=\"8b7c18a\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-11352641 elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"11352641\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-76ed9f79\" data-id=\"76ed9f79\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5a0f25db elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"5a0f25db\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-3fc60ee1 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"3fc60ee1\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-343b51b1\" data-id=\"343b51b1\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-517c88e0 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"517c88e0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Sandy Kaufmann\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2501739b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2501739b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: large;\"><span style=\"caret-color: #000000;\">is a somatic therapist and coach, based in Switzerland. She is the author of two books published by \u00c9ditions Eyrolles and has accompanied more than 600 people. She is the creator of the Somatic Deprogramming method and hosts the podcast &#8220;<a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/blog\/\">S&#8217;ouvrir \u00e0 l&#8217;amour<\/a>&#8220;, ranked in the French top 50 in the relationships category.<\/span><\/span>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-1c1d67d9\" data-id=\"1c1d67d9\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2b0c4aa2 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-stretch elementor-section-content-middle elementor-section-height-default\" 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