{"id":1241025,"date":"2026-10-21T15:14:23","date_gmt":"2026-10-21T15:14:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1241025"},"modified":"2026-10-21T15:20:32","modified_gmt":"2026-10-21T15:20:32","slug":"82-communication-in-the-couple-is-it-a-problem-of-substance-or-of-form","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/82-communication-in-the-couple-is-it-a-problem-of-substance-or-of-form\/","title":{"rendered":"82. Communication in the couple: is it a problem of substance or of form?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1241025\" class=\"elementor elementor-1241025 elementor-36347\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ed86594 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ed86594\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6ea7bd98\" data-id=\"6ea7bd98\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d639127 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3d639127\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">Communication in the couple: is it a problem of substance or of form?<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-62d37295 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62d37295\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4e162bd6\" data-id=\"4e162bd6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-376509b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"376509b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Do you feel you have a justified request and that <b>your partner accuses you of exaggerating<\/b>?<\/p><p>Or do you feel <b>you are not being heard by your partner<\/b>?<\/p><p>Or do your words go beyond your thoughts every time you talk about a sensitive subject, such as <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/desir-denfant-quand-en-parler\/\">wanting a child<\/a>&nbsp;(EP 65) with your partner?<\/p><p>Then perhaps you have a problem of form and not of substance.<\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Episode 82 of S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019Amour aims to give you ideas for working on the form in which you communicate. And if you want to go deeper into the subject you have my book <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-les-couples-heureux-osent-aborder-les-sujets-qui-fachent\/\">les couples heureux osent aborder les sujets qui f\u00e2chent<\/a>.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color: #eeeeee;\">\u2764\ufe0f Watch <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/registrationpastwounds\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">my webinar <\/a><\/strong>on how to finally be happy in love!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b5b34f9 elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-html\" data-id=\"b5b34f9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"html.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<iframe name=\"Ausha Podcast Player\" frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" id=\"ausha-XBGw\" height=\"220\" style=\"border: none; width:100%; height:220px\" src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/index.html?showId=bjPkYiPMPlqo&color=%23d13523&podcastId=yA4qGhp1NVen&v=3&playerId=ausha-XBGw\"><\/iframe><script src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/ausha-player.js\"><\/script>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e2689d6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"e2689d6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/fFyTh1FL3p0?si=zKy-apCNEQD6aj5X&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-751a1b2b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"751a1b2b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Problem_of_form\"><\/span><strong>Problem of form<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>If you are in the habit of waiting a long time before talking about a problem, <b>you naturally accumulate frustration<\/b> and this frustration can:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Make you <b>explode disproportionately<\/b> as soon as the problem happens again. (See episode 12 on <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/responsabilite-emotionnelle\/\">emotional responsibility<\/a>.)<\/li>\n<li>Make you <b>act curtly<\/b> when nothing special is happening. (See my article on the <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/comment-arreter-de-castrer-un-homme\/\">different forms of castration.<\/a>)<\/li>\n<li>Make you take a form of <b>revenge<\/b> when the other expresses a need toward you<\/li>\n<li>Make the <b>conflict escalate<\/b>, for example by involving third parties in the conflict.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>This way of functioning not only has the effect of poisoning the relationship, but it is also counterproductive for the underlying problem that you want to address.<\/p>\n<p>By doing this, the other feels attacked and you lose legitimacy on your underlying problem.<\/p>\n<p>To manage to set up a communication that conveys your message effectively, it is important to take responsibility for your emotions by working on your emotional independence (episode 12). These qualities are essential for a <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/le-secret-des-couples-qui-durent\/\">fulfilling relationship<\/a> and this is why I devote an entire module to it in my program <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/opening-up-to-love\/\">Opening up to love<\/a>&nbsp;if you are single and <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/cultivating-love\/\">Cultivating Love<\/a>&nbsp;if you are in an established couple.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-a36d6db elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"a36d6db\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-8822784\" data-id=\"8822784\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-eed5178 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"eed5178\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>A first reflex you can put in place right now is to <b>welcome your anger\/frustration BEFORE speaking<\/b> to your partner by doing this Kundalini Yoga exercise:<\/p> \t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ac753fd elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"ac753fd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/JuEjnvrW7sg&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-b0f216f elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"b0f216f\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-29e6d57\" data-id=\"29e6d57\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9764a42 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9764a42\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"font-size: 30px;\">A second reflex is to <b>understand your dynamic in the conflict (specific to each conflict and system)<\/b> and to see the effect of your actions\/inactions on the dynamic or on the other, for example:<\/span><ul><li style=\"font-size: 30px;\"><b>Verbal<\/b>. What is the tone of your voice? Do you use the \u201cyou\u201d that kills? Do you state what you want or reproaches without a solution? Do you communicate your feelings or your share of the blame?<\/li><li style=\"font-size: 30px;\"><b>Non-Verbal<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. What is your body position? What is the expression on your face? Do you seek contact or avoid the other\u2019s contact? What is the effect of your posture on the other?&nbsp;<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-size: 30px;\"><b>Structural<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Are you both ready to discuss the conflict or are you running after him\/her? Do you need to leave when the conflict arrives?<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-size: 30px;\"><b>Social<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Do you talk about your conflict to people other than the person involved? How does the other person feel about this? Or on the contrary do you avoid talking about the subject by avoiding being alone with the other, for example by doing more activities with friends\u2026<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-size: 30px;\"><b>Dynamic<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Are you in a boiling hot dynamic (the problem must be solved now), lukewarm (it bothers me but I am giving it time) or cold (I do not see the problem, the other is the problem).<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\nThe idea is that there is not necessarily a right or a wrong way of doing things but rather a way that helps or hinders resolving the conflict. \n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-749e97a elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"749e97a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"i\"><\/span>&nbsp;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Dont_forget_to_address_the_substance\"><\/span><strong>Don\u2019t forget to address the substance<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>Because in the end it is the substance that generates this permanent frustration.<\/p><p>This is why it is important to address the substance by having a difficult conversation.<\/p><p>To carry out this discussion well, <b>remember to prepare<\/b>: make a list of facts rather than of your personal opinion, list the arguments you have, imagining the other\u2019s possible counter-arguments and how you wish to respond to them. Finally, say clearly what is non-negotiable for you and what is open to discussion. You can also have this discussion in front of a mirror to find the right words and calm your anxiety about this discussion. You will see, it will then be easier in front of the person.<\/p><p>Knowing how to make your requests and to manage conflict in a caring way are other essential qualities for being happy in a relationship without forgetting yourself and are an integral part of the program <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/opening-up-to-love\/\">Opening up to love<\/a>.<\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"i-2\"><\/span>&nbsp;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"If_you_stay_stuck\"><\/span><strong>If you stay stuck<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>If you feel that communication remains a difficult subject for you, it would be interesting to see which <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/cultiver-amour-couple\/\">communication models<\/a> or conflict management models you learned in your childhood, notably with your parents.<\/p><p>Watch my free webinar to find out how you can change this to finally be 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src=https:\/\/sandy-kaufmann.mykajabi.com\/forms\/2149274867\/embed.js><\/script><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-27943dff elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"27943dff\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>* Mandatory fields<\/p><p>If you register for this webinar, you will be subscribed to my newsletter and you will be able to receive offers from me. 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Please read my<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/datenschutzbestimmungen\/\">privacy policy (german only)<\/a>, to see how I process the data.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4c581baf elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4c581baf\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-7cc2e579\" data-id=\"7cc2e579\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3ab43cf8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3ab43cf8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Going_further\"><\/span>Going further<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5893c663 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5893c663\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your relationship needs care.&nbsp;<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To maintain the connection, spending good moments together is not enough. It is important to resolve the underlying conflicts to avoid sweeping too much dust under the rug, which causes the couple to disconnect and each partner to feel misunderstood by the other.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is what you learn in my program <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/cultivating-love\/\">Cultivating Love<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/span>You can take the Day of the Past option, a day of <strong>Somatic Deprogramming<\/strong>: a psycho-corporal practice to deprogram the automatic patterns of the nervous system and reprogram new relational reflexes<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6f4b871e elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"6f4b871e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/cultivating-love\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">CULTIVATING LOVE<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-208ef9bd elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"208ef9bd\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-5f910f11\" data-id=\"5f910f11\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-51519e76 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"51519e76\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Une_premiere_etape_mon_livre\"><\/span>Une premi\u00e8re \u00e9tape : mon livre<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-21b9777c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"21b9777c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Si tu veux apprendre \u00e0 transformer vos tensions en connexion, tu as mon livre <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/livre-les-couples-heureux-osent-aborder-les-sujets-qui-fachent\/\">Les couples heureux&#8230;osent aborder les sujets qui f\u00e2chent<\/a> disponible dans toutes les librairies.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3ee2bac9 elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-content-middle elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-items-middle\" data-id=\"3ee2bac9\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div 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class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-11b5a445 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"11b5a445\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1771\" height=\"1535\" src=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1.png\" class=\"attachment-2048x2048 size-2048x2048 wp-image-1081512\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1.png 1771w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-300x260.png 300w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-1024x888.png 1024w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-768x666.png 768w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-1536x1331.png 1536w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/03\/Mockup_livre-1-600x520.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1771px) 100vw, 1771px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-5f715106\" data-id=\"5f715106\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-12736faa elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"12736faa\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Contrairement aux id\u00e9es re\u00e7ues, les couples qui durent ne sont pas ceux qui \u00e9vitent les conflits mais qui savent les traverser.\nLe livre <i><b>Les couples heureux..osent aborder les sujets qui f\u00e2chent<\/b><\/i> t'explique comment transformer vos tensions en connexion en 5 \u00e9tapes!<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-1efee2fa elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"1efee2fa\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-11565105\" data-id=\"11565105\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div 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class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-6d5c5eef elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"6d5c5eef\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6d520fc3\" data-id=\"6d520fc3\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-7d1dcd50 elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7d1dcd50\" data-element_type=\"section\" 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elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-f16c5ae elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"f16c5ae\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-209a2785\" data-id=\"209a2785\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-76b386b4 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"76b386b4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Sandy Kaufmann\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e5df85f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e5df85f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: large;\"><span style=\"caret-color: #000000;\">is a somatic therapist and coach, based in Switzerland. She is the author of two books published by \u00c9ditions Eyrolles and has accompanied more than 600 people. She is the creator of the Somatic Deprogramming method and hosts the podcast &#8220;<a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/blog\/\">S&#8217;ouvrir \u00e0 l&#8217;amour<\/a>&#8220;, ranked in the French top 50 in the relationships category.<\/span><\/span>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-19812d1a\" data-id=\"19812d1a\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-ab8a476 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-stretch elementor-section-content-middle elementor-section-height-default\" 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