{"id":1197109,"date":"2026-09-23T08:18:44","date_gmt":"2026-09-23T08:18:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/152-the-impact-of-the-nervous-system-on-your-relationships\/"},"modified":"2026-09-23T11:31:25","modified_gmt":"2026-09-23T11:31:25","slug":"152-the-impact-of-the-nervous-system-on-your-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/152-the-impact-of-the-nervous-system-on-your-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"152. The impact of the nervous system on your relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1197109\" class=\"elementor elementor-1197109 elementor-1075021\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ed86594 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ed86594\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6ea7bd98\" data-id=\"6ea7bd98\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d639127 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3d639127\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">The impact of the nervous system on your relationships <\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-62d37295 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62d37295\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4e162bd6\" data-id=\"4e162bd6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-376509b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"376509b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This episode is the first of a trio of episodes designed to introduce you to my approach to relationship coaching.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this episode, I explain why your nervous system impacts the way you relate to others. <\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/153-les-4-categories-de-schemas-amoureux\/\">episode 153<\/a><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, I will describe the 4 main categories of patterns based on my empirical observations of the people I&#8217;ve worked with.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/154-the-3-states-of-your-nervous-system-and-the-polyvagal-scale\/\">episode 154<\/a><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, I will go into more detail about the 3 states of your nervous system and the polyvagal ladder.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to dive deeper into the subject, I invite you to get my book, <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour (Opening Up to Love).<\/span>\n\n<b> <\/b>\n\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color: #eeeeee;\">\u2764\ufe0f Watch <strong><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/inscriptionblessurepasse\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">my webinar<\/a><\/strong> on how to finally be happy in Love!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a620e1c elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-shortcode\" data-id=\"a620e1c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"shortcode.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-shortcode\"><iframe name=\"Ausha Podcast Player\" frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" id=\"ausha-9WxC\" height=\"220\" style=\"border: none; width:100%; height:220px\" src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/?showId=bjPkYiPMPlqo&color=%23d13523&podcastId=ypE2JTAYed2M&v=3&playerId=ausha-9WxC\"><\/iframe><script src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/ausha-player.js\"><\/script>\n<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b8d8830 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"b8d8830\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/GPfmws5AJ7k&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4dc2b12 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4dc2b12\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Polyvagal_theory_or_why_your_ability_to_relate_to_others_is_defined_in_your_nervous_system\"><\/span>Polyvagal theory, or why your ability to relate to others is defined in your nervous system <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3574bfe elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3574bfe\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Polyvagal theory, developed by Stephen Porges,<\/span> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">explains that <\/span><b>our autonomous nervous system constantly scans our interactions with the environment <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">and others to ensure our survival. This scan happens automatically without the intervention of the rational brain, based on our perceptions of the environment.<\/span> <\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Stephen Porges also explains in this theory that attachment is so essential to our survival that <\/span><b>the quality of this attachment will influence our capacity for social engagement by directly influencing the development of the myelinated branch of our vagus nerve<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2014namely, the ventral vagal branch that allows for this social engagement.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How is this possible?<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When a baby is born, the sympathetic branch and the dorsal vagal branch already exist so the baby can cry if they need to eat or freeze in case of great danger. The ventral vagal branch of their vagus nerve, which allows for social engagement, is not yet developed. This will develop through interaction with their environment, particularly in interaction with parents or primary attachment figures<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">7<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> (through co-regulation). <\/span><b>It is based on the perceptions of these interactions <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(people&#8217;s facial expressions, their tone of voice, their behaviors&#8230;) <\/span><b>that a database of perceptions will be created in the child to help them identify what represents safety or insecurity<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Because as human beings, and especially for a child, our survival depends on others.<\/span><\/p><p><b>This survival database will then help them qualify the perceptions felt through new life experiences<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to ensure, if necessary, a survival response.<\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This survival mechanism happens in automatic mode without the intervention of the rational brain. This mechanism is useful and healthy when there is a real danger. Who would want to take the time to think about how best to act if a bear were charging at you?  <\/span><\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A regulated autonomic nervous system is a system that easily moves through the different states of the nervous system to deal with life&#8217;s stresses and then naturally returns to the ventral vagal state (vagal brake). The ventral vagal state is not a permanent refuge; the goal is to return there often enough for the body to regenerate and be able to face the next stresses. In other words, it&#8217;s normal and useful to change states throughout the day.  <\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f6b1f5c elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"f6b1f5c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"When_your_nervous_system_becomes_a_hindrance_to_your_relationships\"><\/span>When your nervous system becomes a hindrance to your relationships<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8a0530c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8a0530c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Your nervous system can become a hindrance in your social interactions <\/span><b>if this survival database has recorded past experiences that overwhelmed your nervous system and dysregulated it. <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> This explains all the times you overreact, where you feel insecure even though rationally there is no reason, and also all the times you have that feeling of not being able to break out of a pattern you repeat despite yourself.<\/span><\/p><p> <\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The nervous system can become dysregulated in 3 ways:<\/span><\/p><p> <\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>You may have a dominant state that is a state of insecurity <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(dorsal vagal or sympathetic). There are often 2 possible causes: <\/span> <ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><b>At birth, you inherit the influence of the nervous system of your attachment figures (often your parents), transmitting to you either a dominant state of security if co-regulation took place, or insecurity if it was lacking.<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> This has 2 consequences for the child-turned-adult: they will have a dominant state that represents insecurity, and they will naturally enter into relationships with people who also have a dominant insecure state because this state represents &#8220;the reference they know.&#8221; The known, even if insecure, is always better than the unknown.  <\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"2\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A person can also experience <\/span><b>significant shocks or chronic stress (physical or psychological) that can modify their dominant state<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: a traumatic birth, exposure to death, war, an accident, abuse, parental neglect, a prolonged phase of stress, burnout, depression. Thus, even if the threat has disappeared, defenses remain engaged and the body still perceives danger. In adulthood, you may feel this through a constant state of mistrust, hypervigilance, or an exacerbated need for control. This category also includes all people suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">9<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> whose main symptoms are flashbacks of their traumatic experiences, avoidance strategies, alterations in mood, cognition, arousal, and reactivity. <\/span> <\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><p> <\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>You may feel insecure more quickly<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> because the experience you are going through is felt as similar to certain experiences from your past and automatically reactivates protection responses recorded in your survival database. In adulthood, this explains all the times you have overreactions or insecurities when rationally there is no reason. An illustration of this situation would be my personal example.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p> <\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>You may have trouble returning to a state where you feel safe<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. If the child experienced a lot of emotional stress and did not receive co-regulation from their parents in the face of these stresses (a young child is not capable of doing it on their own), their nervous system may have great difficulty returning to its state of security. In adulthood, you may feel this through difficulty recovering from a breakup, difficulty forgiving after an argument, ruminating for a long time after an event, or feeling like you struggle to recover from hardships (&#8220;it takes a toll on you&#8221;).<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p> <\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To conclude, I hope these explanations help you understand that if you feel insecure in relationships:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>It&#8217;s not a lack of willpower<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or your fault; it&#8217;s a survival mechanism of your nervous system.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>There is a real logic to your reaction<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. The perception of your past experiences meant that you developed certain survival mechanisms, and these experiences had enough influence to dysregulate your nervous system and impact your current sense of security in relationships.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><b>Trying to resolve your insecurity with your head is useless<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> because in those moments it&#8217;s your nervous system that takes over, and therefore <\/span><b>you need to go through your body<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> to get out of this survival state.<\/span><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-831cf2a elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"831cf2a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_is_a_relationship_pattern_created_from_a_nervous_system_perspective\"><\/span>How is a relationship pattern created from a nervous system perspective? <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e33e903 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e33e903\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is simply <\/span><b>all your past experiences that overwhelmed you emotionally (because it was too much, too soon, too strong, too little, or for too long) AND where you didn&#8217;t have the possibility to regulate yourself or get external help <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(notably via co-regulation). These events thus dysregulated your nervous system. <\/span> <\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What this definition implies:<\/span><\/p><ul><li style=\"list-style-type: none;\"><ul><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That we all potentially have &#8220;traumas&#8221; in the sense of the nervous system. <\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That trauma is not the event itself but <\/span><b>the imprint it left in your nervous system<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> which explains your reaction mechanisms and also the &#8220;lenses&#8221; through which you interpret your current relationships<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">12<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That <\/span><b>just because you experienced a difficult event doesn&#8217;t mean you necessarily have a relationship pattern<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. For example, if you were the victim of an assault but you received support quickly or you managed to defend yourself, it&#8217;s possible that this event didn&#8217;t leave an imprint in your nervous system and therefore has no impact on the way you relate.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That it is mainly <\/span><b>events where you felt vulnerable and helpless without support from others<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that created a relationship pattern for you. For example, you are more likely to develop a relationship pattern if, in childhood, your emotions were often denied (&#8220;stop crying,&#8221; &#8220;no, it doesn&#8217;t hurt,&#8221; &#8220;stop being a baby, it&#8217;s not that bad&#8221;) than if you experienced many emotionally challenging events but felt that your parents welcomed your emotions and were there for you.<\/span><\/li><li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That <\/span><b>not all events will have the same impact on you<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Your nervous system&#8217;s role is to ensure your survival, so the more an event potentially puts you in danger, the greater its impact will be. While this may seem obvious for serious cases like war, accidents, shocks you&#8217;ve experienced, or the bond with your parents, it may be harder to understand for more benign events involving your body, such as if you wore braces or were forced to eat certain foods.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That <\/span><b>your emotional reaction depends on your perception of the event<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. A child does not have a mature rational brain (it reaches a first stage around age 5 and this process finishes in adulthood<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">13<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">) to be able to step back from what is happening, which explains why through your adult eyes you may feel you had a happy childhood and yet still have relationship patterns that negatively impact your love life. It&#8217;s also possible that you idealized your childhood to survive it. I talk about this in more detail in <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/147-notre-corps-ne-ment-jamais\/\">episode 147<\/a> Our body never lies.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><ul><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That <\/span><b>it&#8217;s not just your relationship experiences that can create a relationship pattern<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Other experiences like a difficult birth, an accident, grueling medical interventions, or prolonged stress (physical or psychological) can also impact your love life.<\/span><\/li><li aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For <\/span><b>relationship patterns created within a bond, it&#8217;s the repetition of these experiences<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that creates a pattern. It&#8217;s not because your parents failed to support you a few times that a relationship pattern will form. It&#8217;s the repetition that will cause you to develop certain mechanisms because these repetitions made you understand that it was the only way to maintain the bond with your parents.<\/span><\/li><\/ul><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What is also important to understand is that you can&#8217;t just make a list of things that marked you, where you felt vulnerable and helpless, to identify your relationship patterns. Your memories are stored in explicit memory, whereas <\/span><b>what traumatized you is stored in implicit memory and the body,<\/b> <span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">which explains why just being aware of your patterns isn&#8217;t enough; you have to work on the automatisms of your nervous system saved in implicit memory and in the body. <\/span> <\/p><p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s not just learning to support your nervous system in its regulation, but a work of deprogramming the imprint of your past events. I talk about this in more detail in <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/121-deprogrammer-versus-reguler-ton-systeme-nerveux\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">episode 121 Deprogramming versus regulating your nervous system<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-d37da43 elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"d37da43\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4550e5e\" data-id=\"4550e5e\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e006512 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"e006512\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"To_go_further\"><\/span>To go further <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-daaa252 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"daaa252\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to dive deeper into the subject and identify your own relationship patterns, my book <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> is available in all bookstores.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-4b747fae elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4b747fae\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-1478e3b2\" data-id=\"1478e3b2\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-3c928ec7 elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-content-middle elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-items-middle\" data-id=\"3c928ec7\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-18ae445\" data-id=\"18ae445\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-113648ce elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"113648ce\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-1cd98f5e\" data-id=\"1cd98f5e\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-673ca722 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"673ca722\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1771\" height=\"1535\" src=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1.png\" class=\"attachment-2048x2048 size-2048x2048 wp-image-1075258\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1.png 1771w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-300x260.png 300w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-1024x888.png 1024w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-768x666.png 768w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-1536x1331.png 1536w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-600x520.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1771px) 100vw, 1771px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-18ae68c2\" data-id=\"18ae68c2\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-643decb8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"643decb8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-medium\">Opening Up to Love<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-49b3976f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"49b3976f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">The book that will allow you to identify your relationship patterns and learn the keys to building a healthy relationship<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-5c55104 elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"5c55104\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4feeefe1\" data-id=\"4feeefe1\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2b5323ee elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"2b5323ee\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/www.payot.ch\/Detail\/souvrir_a_lamour-sandy_kaufmann-9782416018374?cId=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">buy the book in Switzerland<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-757339e9 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"757339e9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fr.fnac.be\/a20905116\/Sandy-Kaufmann-S-ouvrir-a-l-amour\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">buy the book in Belgium<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1025ee90 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"1025ee90\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.fr\/Souvrir-lamour-solution-trouvait-vague\/dp\/241601837X\/ref=sr_1_1?__mk_fr_FR=%C3%85M%C3%85%C5%BD%C3%95%C3%91&#038;crid=34X1WHY4F6R6M&#038;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.P4fazNelf0Y7l5P-HwksxYB_HgxSzDkpdR-VBfQ4UgqWCf1MmoNsqYJeTp_u-aqgaQ1HvDh0iUVWxP1Vgjz-SRlpEONGz0jUsSQ8pNN7dlmcvrAJy99RkQt_lBV3PiDXVjrULzVYSBoOjMX5UOeRlPhTONtPPoIZb0kjw8FdLhA.MsZ1YqqGMK9exw4XUlICPV1qKS3NeiEjEzvog0HYqHE&#038;dib_tag=se&#038;keywords=sandy+kaufmann&#038;nsdOptOutParam=true&#038;qid=1734445940&#038;sprefix=sandy+kaufmann%2Caps%2C138&#038;sr=8-1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">buy the book in France<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-0c9be29 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"0c9be29\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-f835e44\" data-id=\"f835e44\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4b530ff elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4b530ff\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Going_further\"><\/span>Going further <span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b40909c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b40909c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And if you wish to work on your relationship patterns through the body and transform your love life, there is the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/opening-up-to-love\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour<\/span><\/a> program, which includes the <strong>Past Day<\/strong> option, a day of <strong>Somatic Deprogramming<\/strong>: psycho-body approach to deprogram your relationship automatisms.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0bec0f3 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"0bec0f3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/opening-up-to-love\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">Opening up to love<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-211fd92 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"211fd92\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-5ed5dc63 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"5ed5dc63\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-196ba72\" data-id=\"196ba72\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-78b72cfa elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"78b72cfa\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-107d7885\" data-id=\"107d7885\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2b5c41de elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"2b5c41de\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-2a65075d elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"2a65075d\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-7f5fd508\" data-id=\"7f5fd508\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-77d2462c elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"77d2462c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Sandy Kaufmann\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-37c82a1f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"37c82a1f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: large;\"><span style=\"caret-color: #000000;\">is a somatic therapist and coach, based in Switzerland. She is the author of two books published by \u00c9ditions Eyrolles and has accompanied more than 600 people. She is the creator of the Somatic Deprogramming method and hosts the podcast &#8221; <a href=\"&quot;https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/blog\/\"> S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l&#8217;amour<\/a>&#8220;, ranked in the French top 50 in the relationships category.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-42a5ae\" data-id=\"42a5ae\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2b0c4aa2 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-stretch elementor-section-content-middle elementor-section-height-default\" 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