{"id":1194516,"date":"2026-09-21T18:54:28","date_gmt":"2026-09-21T18:54:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1194516"},"modified":"2026-09-21T19:14:20","modified_gmt":"2026-09-21T19:14:20","slug":"157-the-mother-wound-and-the-father-wound-their-impact-on-your-love-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/157-the-mother-wound-and-the-father-wound-their-impact-on-your-love-life\/","title":{"rendered":"157. The Mother Wound and the Father Wound: Their Impact on Your Love Life"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1194516\" class=\"elementor elementor-1194516 elementor-1075074\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ed86594 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ed86594\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6ea7bd98\" data-id=\"6ea7bd98\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d639127 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3d639127\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">The Mother Wound and the Father Wound: Their Impact on Your Love Life<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-c616a8a elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"c616a8a\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6995962\" data-id=\"6995962\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-376509b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"376509b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You\u2019ve had <strong>a difficult relationship with your father or your mother<\/strong>, and you\u2019re wondering exactly what impact that has on your romantic relationships?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You\u2019ve heard about the <strong>Mother Wound<\/strong> or the <strong>Father Wound<\/strong>, and you\u2019d like to know more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/156-limpact-du-couple-de-tes-parents-dans-tes-amours\/\">episode 156<\/a> I talk about the influence of your parents\u2019 relationship on your love life, and in <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/fr\/89-modeles-d-attachement-et-systeme-nerveux\/\">episode 89<\/a> about attachment styles.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this episode I\u2019m going to describe <strong>the typical mechanisms<\/strong> I\u2019ve been able to observe in more than <strong>600 people<\/strong> I\u2019ve accompanied <strong>with their parents<\/strong>, and the influence this has on their romantic relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2ce14935 elementor-section-full_width 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Please read my<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/datenschutzbestimmungen\/\">privacy policy (german only)<\/a>, to see how I process the data.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-62d37295 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62d37295\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4e162bd6\" data-id=\"4e162bd6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a620e1c elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-widget elementor-widget-shortcode\" data-id=\"a620e1c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"shortcode.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-shortcode\"><iframe name=\"Ausha Podcast Player\" frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" id=\"ausha-4vUu\" height=\"220\" style=\"border: none; width:100%; height:220px\" src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/?showId=bjPkYiPMPlqo&color=%23d13523&podcastId=B44OPh2rVLEq&v=3&playerId=ausha-4vUu\"><\/iframe><script src=\"https:\/\/player.ausha.co\/ausha-player.js\"><\/script>\n<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b8d8830 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"b8d8830\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/leNT7OhctWA&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4dc2b12 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4dc2b12\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Parent-Child_Dynamic\"><\/span>The Parent-Child Dynamic<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3574bfe elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3574bfe\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The parent-child dynamic doesn\u2019t only shape how you believe a relationship should work \u2014 it also shapes the construction of your identity.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why?<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because a child tends not to question their parents\u2019 behavior, and instead attributes the fault to the dynamic that formed between them and their parent.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are the 8 most common dynamics I\u2019ve been able to observe \u2014 again, these are your perceptions as a child, not necessarily your parents\u2019 intentions:<\/span>\n<strong>The comparing\/critical parent<\/strong>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The impact in your love life of a comparing parent:<\/span>\n<ul>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You find there\u2019s always someone better than you, and feel threatened quickly<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel under pressure to be perfect<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don\u2019t find enough in yourself to be loved<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You compensate through achievement and over-adapt<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<strong>The busy parent<\/strong>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The impact in your love life of a parent who was too busy:<\/span>\n<ul>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have the feeling you can\u2019t count on your partners<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel like the last priority<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don\u2019t take up space in relationships and ask for little<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have difficulty expressing your needs and boundaries<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<strong>The moody parent<\/strong>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The impact in your love life of a moody parent:<\/span>\n<ul>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel like you\u2019re walking on eggshells<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You\u2019re hyper-vigilant about your partner\u2019s actions<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You quickly enter into power struggles<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel either blocked in conflict, or you explode<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_parentified_child\"><\/span><strong>The parentified child<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The impact in your love life when you were the parent of your own parent:<\/span>\n<ul>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel 100% responsible for the success of the relationship<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You mother your partners<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can\u2019t rely on your partner<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have difficulty receiving<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<strong>The idealized parent<\/strong>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The impact in your love life of an idealized parent:<\/span>\n<ul>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You project yourself quickly onto others<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don\u2019t see the red flags<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can\u2019t properly evaluate your partner<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You automatically think it\u2019s your fault<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_helicoptercontrolling_parent\"><\/span><strong>The helicopter\/controlling parent<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The impact in your love life when you had a controlling parent:<\/span>\n<ul>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You no longer trust your own judgment<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Others\u2019 opinions matter more to you than your own<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don\u2019t notice when your boundaries are crossed<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You see control as proof of love<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<strong>The parent without boundaries<\/strong>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The impact in your love life when you had a parent who set no limits:<\/span>\n<ul>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have difficulty setting your own boundaries<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You feel quickly suffocated by your partner<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have trouble respecting your partners\u2019 boundaries<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have difficulty managing uncomfortable emotions, especially frustration<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<strong>The disconnected parent (there, but not really there)<\/strong>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The impact in your love life when you had a disconnected parent:<\/span>\n<ul>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You have difficulty knowing whether you please the other person<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You disconnect from your emotions<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You avoid intimacy in relationships<\/span><\/li>\n \t<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You settle for crumbs<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f6b1f5c elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"f6b1f5c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_%E2%80%9CGood%E2%80%9D_Parent_and_the_%E2%80%9CBad%E2%80%9D_Parent\"><\/span>The \u201cGood\u201d Parent and the \u201cBad\u201d Parent<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8a0530c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"8a0530c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A child will naturally tend to classify one parent as \u201cgood\u201d and the other as \u201cbad\u201d:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If one parent was stricter and set more boundaries<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If one parent behaved meanly toward the child (physical or verbal violence, power games, manipulation)<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If one parent was more absent than the other because of work, hobbies, or social life<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If a parent was emotionally unavailable despite being physically present<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the child had the impression that one parent was mean to the other. They somewhat took the side of one of the two parents.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">By adulthood, it becomes obvious that you need to work on your relationship with the \u201cbad\u201d parent.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What\u2019s harder to realize is that you often need to do the same work with the \u201cgood\u201d parent, and to recognize that they may not have been as good as you thought, that this parent also helped create the situation, and that ultimately things weren\u2019t black and white, but rather grey on both sides.<\/span><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-138b849 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"138b849\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What_If_Your_Mother_Was_the_Problem\"><\/span>What If Your Mother Was the Problem?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ff4318f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ff4318f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the title of a book that illustrates well how deeply these dynamics can be buried, only becoming conscious when we run into problems in our romantic relationships.<\/span>\n\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are the most common mother-child dynamics I\u2019ve observed, and their impact on the construction of your identity or your way of relating:<\/span>\n<strong>The narcissistic mother<\/strong>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is a mother who gives her attention to the child who reflects well on her, and rejects the child who doesn\u2019t \u2014 either because that child lacks achievement or because they push back against her expectations. She may create a form of competition among siblings, dividing the \u201cgood child\u201d from the \u201cblack sheep.\u201d This mother often abuses the authority she holds over her child, using guilt or belittling to steer them in the direction she wants. This can be very confusing for a child who receives praise outside the home and is constantly criticized at home (the feeling of never doing enough). The narcissistic mother prioritizes her own needs over her child\u2019s and has a strong need for control in order to protect her reputation. In adulthood, this can lead you to adopt narcissistic patterns yourself, or to fall easily into dependent or abusive relationships. For a daughter who has suffered greatly under this model, this can even lead to rejecting her own feminine energy, and so rejecting herself. For a son, this can create the feeling of repeatedly meeting women who are critical and belittling, or who place great importance on how the relationship looks from the outside.<\/span>\n<strong>The fragile mother<\/strong>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If as a child you perceived your mother as fragile \u2014 whether because she had a physical or mental illness, was depressed, or simply struggled to assert her own needs and boundaries \u2014 you may have taken on the role of the Rescuer, becoming the parent of your own parent. In adulthood, this can lead you to keep playing that rescuer role, or, on the contrary, to swing toward extreme independence, because for you a relationship implies too much responsibility. For a daughter who had a fragile mother, this can make it hard to connect with her own vulnerability, preventing intimacy from forming in a relationship for fear of being as fragile as her mother. For a son with a fragile mother, this can create the feeling of meeting partners who can\u2019t manage their own lives.<\/span>\n<strong>The overprotective mother<\/strong>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you felt that your mother overprotected you \u2014 whether out of her own fears or because she wanted to spare you from suffering \u2014 in adulthood this can lead you to limit yourself, avoid taking risks, doubt your own abilities, and believe others know what\u2019s best for you. For a daughter, this can lead you to adopt a maternal role in adulthood, or your partners may accuse you of trying to control them too much, while you see it more as a sign of love and care. You may also take on your mother\u2019s fears about men as your own (\u201call men are\u2026\u201d). For a son, this can lead you to take on the \u201cman-child\u201d role, or, conversely, to avoid commitment as soon as you feel you have to answer to someone.<\/span>\n<strong>The rival, jealous mother<\/strong>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As a daughter, you may have had the impression that your mother was jealous of your looks, your love life, or your achievements in general. As an adult, this can create a form of fear toward other women (\u201cI need to be careful\u201d), or toward your own success and happiness in general (\u201cmy happiness has a negative impact on others\u201d). If you felt in competition with, or inferior to, your mother, this can even shape your idea of what a woman needs to be or do in order to attract someone \u2014 so if you felt your mother was prettier than you, this can leave you with the sense that you need a certain look to be liked. For a son, this could show up as no girlfriend ever being good enough, or your mother reproaching you for abandoning her as soon as you had a girlfriend. In adulthood, this can create a certain loyalty toward your mother, in the sense that you never really make room for a woman in your life \u2014 she will always remain second priority.<\/span>\n<strong>The mother who makes you her partner<\/strong>\n<span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your mother didn\u2019t feel fulfilled in her relationship, she may have had you take on the role of her partner \u2014 sharing her troubles with you, asking your opinion, and even talking to you about her relational difficulties with your father, in a way that is inappropriate for your age. You end up in a kind of triangle between your mother and your father, serving as the crutch that keeps that relationship functioning. In adulthood, you repeat this romantic triangle by piling up stories where the other person is already in a relationship, is coming out of a breakup but hasn\u2019t finished grieving it, or has you take on responsibilities that aren\u2019t yours, such as caring for their children or managing their divorce\u2026<\/span>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dd8d8bd elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"dd8d8bd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"The_Father_Wound\"><\/span>The Father Wound<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a00d79c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a00d79c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I could certainly take all the dynamics I\u2019ve identified with mothers and apply them to fathers as well, but I\u2019ve observed them less often, empirically, in the people I\u2019ve accompanied. I think the influence of gendered roles in child-rearing still plays a part here.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I\u2019ve also come across exceptions where the wounds are, in a sense, reversed \u2014 so feel free to make the connection with whatever resonates with your own case.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are the father-child dynamics I\u2019ve observed most often:<\/span><\/p>\n<strong>The checked-out father<\/strong>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the dad who has no say in raising the children, sets no boundaries, and leaves the mother to hold that role. He\u2019s the \u201ccool dad\u201d because there are no rules; he doesn\u2019t really play his role as a parent, more the role of a buddy you have fun with. In adulthood, this can make it hard for you to take your share of responsibility in a relationship, or draw you toward people who don\u2019t take their share of responsibility in building the relationship. For a daughter, this can create the feeling, in adulthood, of having partners where you have to handle everything, do everything, and that you\u2019re alone in the couple, unable to rely on the masculine. For a son, this can make you reject your father\u2019s model, and your own masculine energy, because you don\u2019t want to be like him.<\/span><\/p>\n<strong>The absent father<\/strong>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the father who works a great deal, or is physically present but absorbed in his phone, a hobby, or DIY projects, and doesn\u2019t really have time for his children. In adulthood, this can lead you to meet people who are not very available for a relationship, whether in terms of time or emotionally. You may also tend to idealize the other person quickly. For a daughter, this can create the feeling that you shouldn\u2019t ask for too much in a relationship, or that you don\u2019t even expect more from one. For a son, this can create the impression that you need to succeed, to bring home the results, in order to be loved as a partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<strong>The authoritarian father<\/strong>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the father who could be physically or psychologically violent, who criticized a lot, around whom you may have felt you were never enough, and whom you feared when he got angry. In adulthood, this can make it hard to access your own healthy anger and your own authority \u2014 both essential and healthy for communicating your needs and boundaries. You may also easily fall into relationships marked by power struggles and conflict. For a daughter, you may repeat a pattern of submission, in the sense that your partner dominates you and you see this as proof of love. For a son, you may reject your father\u2019s model outright and still repeat it, or, conversely, end up in relationships with authoritarian partners.<\/span><\/p>\n<strong>The demanding father<\/strong>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This isn\u2019t necessarily the father who gets angry if you don\u2019t succeed, but rather the father who values performance \u2014 what his children achieve in life \u2014 over developing an intimate relationship with them. In adulthood, this can lead you to feel that you must be perfect to be loved, that you must succeed to be worthy of love, that what you do for the relationship matters more than who you are within it. You may feel you attract partners who are demanding and don\u2019t allow you the right to make mistakes. You may also be quite exacting with your own partners, because you hold yourself to a high standard of perfectionism. For a daughter, this can influence your choice of partner \u2014 choosing someone for their status rather than for what you actually want to experience in a relationship. For a son, this can shape what you believe you must have in order to please your partner: the job, the car, the apartment, the money, the status, the clothes\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-eb57063 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"eb57063\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Moving_Beyond_Your_Parental_Dynamic\"><\/span>Moving Beyond Your Parental Dynamic<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a5be454 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a5be454\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color: #eeeeee;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>From what I\u2019ve seen with my clients, these dynamics are often left unconscious because they\u2019re too difficult to admit, or because the \u201cbad parent\u201d has been identified while the work with the \u201cgood parent\u201d remains entirely unconscious.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In that case, becoming aware of these dynamics is an important first step to identify whether, and when, you replay this dynamic in a relationship. The second step consists of deprogramming this dynamic that the body has learned \u2014 because these automatic patterns are recorded in the nervous system, not just in your thoughts \u2014 and then choosing a more suitable dynamic in your relationships. This is the work you do in the <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/opening-up-to-love\/\">Opening up to Love<\/a> program.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019d like to learn more about how your past shapes your relationships, and why this healing work needs to go through the body, I invite you to watch my free webinar, \u201cHow to Free Yourself From the Patterns That Keep You From Being Happy in Love?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-fe491e elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"fe491e\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container 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class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dc80399 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"dc80399\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Pour_aller_plus_loin\"><\/span>Pour aller plus loin<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-442fc70 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"442fc70\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Si tu as envie d\u2019approfondir le sujet et d\u2019identifier tes propres sch\u00e9mas amoureux tu as mon livre <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> disponible dans toutes les librairies.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-4b747fae elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4b747fae\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-1478e3b2\" data-id=\"1478e3b2\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-ce0ba5b elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-content-middle elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-items-middle\" data-id=\"ce0ba5b\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-56e29f51\" data-id=\"56e29f51\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-8ffca38 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"8ffca38\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-7094a65a\" data-id=\"7094a65a\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2a65ac9d elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"2a65ac9d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1771\" height=\"1535\" src=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1.png\" class=\"attachment-2048x2048 size-2048x2048 wp-image-1075258\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1.png 1771w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-300x260.png 300w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-1024x888.png 1024w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-768x666.png 768w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-1536x1331.png 1536w, https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/12\/Untitled-design-1-600x520.png 600w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1771px) 100vw, 1771px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-7592af99\" data-id=\"7592af99\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4a54c8c2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4a54c8c2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-medium\">S'ouvrir \u00e0 l'Amour<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6efc4feb elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"6efc4feb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Le livre qui va te permettre d'identifier tes sch\u00e9mas amoureux et te permettre d'apprendre les clefs pour construire une relation saine<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-72cd0249 elementor-hidden-desktop elementor-hidden-tablet elementor-hidden-mobile elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"72cd0249\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-59b0ffdc\" data-id=\"59b0ffdc\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-59230662 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"59230662\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/www.payot.ch\/Detail\/souvrir_a_lamour-sandy_kaufmann-9782416018374?cId=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">j'ach\u00e8te le livre en suisse<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-74650d41 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"74650d41\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/www.fr.fnac.be\/a20905116\/Sandy-Kaufmann-S-ouvrir-a-l-amour\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">j'ach\u00e8te le livre en belgique<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1f0ae259 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"1f0ae259\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.fr\/Souvrir-lamour-solution-trouvait-vague\/dp\/241601837X\/ref=sr_1_1?__mk_fr_FR=%C3%85M%C3%85%C5%BD%C3%95%C3%91&#038;crid=34X1WHY4F6R6M&#038;dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.P4fazNelf0Y7l5P-HwksxYB_HgxSzDkpdR-VBfQ4UgqWCf1MmoNsqYJeTp_u-aqgaQ1HvDh0iUVWxP1Vgjz-SRlpEONGz0jUsSQ8pNN7dlmcvrAJy99RkQt_lBV3PiDXVjrULzVYSBoOjMX5UOeRlPhTONtPPoIZb0kjw8FdLhA.MsZ1YqqGMK9exw4XUlICPV1qKS3NeiEjEzvog0HYqHE&#038;dib_tag=se&#038;keywords=sandy+kaufmann&#038;nsdOptOutParam=true&#038;qid=1734445940&#038;sprefix=sandy+kaufmann%2Caps%2C138&#038;sr=8-1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">j'ach\u00e8te le livre en france<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-cfd341f elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"cfd341f\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2ff59f5\" data-id=\"2ff59f5\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-53ce84f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"53ce84f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Going_further\"><\/span>Going further<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b40909c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"b40909c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And if you\u2019d like to work on your love patterns through the body and transform your love life, there\u2019s the <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/opening-up-to-love\/\">Opening up to Love<\/a> program.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ade9535 elementor-align-center elementor-mobile-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"ade9535\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-md\" href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/opening-up-to-love\/\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">Opening up to Love<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-211fd92 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"211fd92\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-17b29c08 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"17b29c08\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-46ec8087\" data-id=\"46ec8087\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-50d427bc elementor-section-content-bottom elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"50d427bc\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-170c8819\" data-id=\"170c8819\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-571bc4e1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"571bc4e1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-4c115eaf elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4c115eaf\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-5e450da\" data-id=\"5e450da\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4c384a88 elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"4c384a88\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeInLeft&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large\">Sandy Kaufmann\n<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-281c080c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"281c080c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><span style=\"color: #000000; font-size: large;\"><span style=\"caret-color: #000000;\">is a somatic therapist and coach, based in Switzerland. She is the author of two books published by \u00c9ditions Eyrolles and has accompanied more than 600 people. She is the creator of the Somatic Deprogramming method and hosts the podcast \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/podcast\/\">S\u2019ouvrir \u00e0 l\u2019amour<\/a>\u201d, ranked in the French top 50 in the relationships category.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-6bc84ebd\" data-id=\"6bc84ebd\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-2b0c4aa2 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-stretch elementor-section-content-middle elementor-section-height-default\" 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