{"id":1115870,"date":"2026-07-17T05:15:38","date_gmt":"2026-07-17T05:15:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1115870"},"modified":"2026-07-17T05:46:42","modified_gmt":"2026-07-17T05:46:42","slug":"197-the-5-nervous-system-response-mechanisms-in-love-the-fawning-response-submission","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/197-the-5-nervous-system-response-mechanisms-in-love-the-fawning-response-submission\/","title":{"rendered":"197. The 5 Nervous System Response Mechanisms in Love: The Fawning Response (Submission)"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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The 5 Nervous System Response Mechanisms in Love: The Fawning Response (Submission)<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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The 5 nervous system response mechanisms in love: the fawning response (submission)<\/span>
This episode is part of a series of 5 episodes on the 5 nervous system response mechanisms and how they impact your relationship, starting at episode 195 and ending at episode 199. If you are new to the podcast and unfamiliar with the influence of the nervous system on your relationships, I invite you to listen to episodes 152 The impact of the nervous system on your relationships<\/a>, 153 The 4 categories of love patterns<\/a> and 154 The 3 states of your nervous system and the polyvagal scale<\/a>.\u00a0<\/span>
This episode is for you if you have the feeling of being a people-pleaser, of anticipating the needs of others a lot, of feeling like you have to wear many masks to be socially accepted.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

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<\/span>The mechanisms of the fawning response (submission)\n\n<\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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  • Over-adapting out of fear (to reduce or charm the threat)<\/li>
  • Anticipating the other person’s needs, being like an emotional sponge<\/li>
  • The image of “the cool girl\/guy with no problems” (poker face)<\/li>
  • Replaying on loop what you said to the other person and fearing the consequences of your actions on them, constantly justifying yourself or apologising<\/li>
  • Fear of conflict, panic on board if you feel you have irritated or hurt someone<\/li>
  • Making excuses, struggling to judge the other person or the relationship objectively<\/li>
  • At the extreme: no longer knowing what you want, your needs, your limits (no longer feeling them) or who you really are (loss of identity)<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t
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    <\/span>If your partner is in this state, you may feel<\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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    • That they are constantly trying to please you, erasing themselves or making compromises<\/li>
    • That they are dependent on you and struggle to assert themselves<\/li>
    • Like you have difficulty knowing what they think or want<\/li>
    • That they don’t tell you when something is wrong, that you constantly have to guess<\/li>
    • Like you are being put on a pedestal<\/li>
    • That the relationship lacks clarity and deep meaning because the other person doesn’t dare show who they truly are<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t
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