{"id":1114349,"date":"2026-07-16T06:13:23","date_gmt":"2026-07-16T06:13:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1114349"},"modified":"2026-07-16T07:08:31","modified_gmt":"2026-07-16T07:08:31","slug":"198-the-5-nervous-system-response-mechanisms-in-love-the-freeze-response-immobilisation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/198-the-5-nervous-system-response-mechanisms-in-love-the-freeze-response-immobilisation\/","title":{"rendered":"198. The 5 Nervous System Response Mechanisms in Love: The Freeze Response (Immobilisation)"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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The 5 Nervous System Response Mechanisms in Love: The Freeze Response (Immobilisation)<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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The 5 nervous system response mechanisms in love: the freeze response (immobilisation)<\/span>
This episode is part of a series of 5 episodes on the 5 nervous system response mechanisms and how they impact your relationship, starting at episode 195 and ending at episode 199. If you are new to the podcast and unfamiliar with the influence of the nervous system on your relationships, I invite you to listen to episodes 152 The impact of the nervous system on your relationships<\/a>, 153 The 4 categories of love patterns<\/a> and 154 The 3 states of your nervous system and the polyvagal scale<\/a>. You can also read my book S’ouvrir a l’amour, and if the solution lay on the side of the vagus nerve?<\/em><\/a> if you want to identify your own mechanisms and patterns.<\/span>
This episode is for you if you have the feeling of being blocked on the outside and hyperactive on the inside (thoughts, agitation), of being a “head on legs” (lots of thoughts but little body awareness), you want to act but have no energy, or if you use addictions a lot to avoid feeling uncomfortable emotions. <\/strong>In my eight years of practice, the freeze response has been one of the most common and most underestimated mechanisms I\u2019ve encountered in body-oriented therapy and relationship coaching.<\/p>

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  • Procrastination, feeling stuck<\/li>
  • Despair or helplessness<\/li>
  • Disconnection from what you feel, as if cut off from reality<\/li>
  • Indecision, confusion, overanalysis, lots of thoughts, harsh inner dialogue<\/li>
  • Staying in a relationship where you are not happy<\/li>
  • Numbing yourself with addictions: alcohol, food, porn, compulsive shopping…<\/li>
  • Seeking extreme sensations: chaos, conflictual relationships, extreme sex<\/li>
  • Relationships exhaust you, feeling powerless to change the situation in your relationships<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t
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    <\/span>If your partner is in this state, you may feel<\/span><\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t
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    • That they are distant, not very involved, seem to be “missing out” rather than being with you<\/li>
    • That they have no understanding or empathy for what you are going through \u2014 indifference<\/li>
    • That nothing changes despite your discussions, that you go round in circles<\/li>
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