{"id":1113153,"date":"2026-07-15T06:10:38","date_gmt":"2026-07-15T06:10:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1113153"},"modified":"2026-07-15T06:51:42","modified_gmt":"2026-07-15T06:51:42","slug":"199-the-5-nervous-system-response-mechanisms-in-love-the-freeze-response-shutdown","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/199-the-5-nervous-system-response-mechanisms-in-love-the-freeze-response-shutdown\/","title":{"rendered":"199. The 5 Nervous System Response Mechanisms in Love: The Freeze Response (Shutdown)"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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The 5 Nervous System Response Mechanisms in Love: The Freeze Response (Shutdown)<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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This episode is part of a series of 5 episodes on the 5 nervous system response mechanisms and how they impact your relationship \u2014 starting at episode 195 and ending here at episode 199.\u00a0<\/span>If you are new to the podcast and unfamiliar with the influence of the nervous system on relationships, I invite you to listen to episodes 152<\/a>, 153<\/a> and 154<\/a> first. You can also read my book S’ouvrir a l’amour<\/em><\/a> (Editions Eyrolles) to identify your own mechanisms and patterns.<\/span>
In my eight years of practice, the \u201cshutdown\u201d response has been one of the most common mechanisms and is often mistaken for a state of emotional control.<\/span>
This episode is for you if you have the feeling of facing a mountain, that it is beyond your capacity (too hard), or the sense that you cannot change the situation, and you feel without energy or in depression.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>

\"\u2764\ufe0f\" Watch my webinar<\/a><\/strong> on how to finally be happy in love<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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  • Deep detachment, emptiness, often depression<\/li>
  • Long-term singlehood, extreme isolation<\/li>
  • Being there without really being present in a relationship \u2014 distracted, unfocused<\/li>
  • Unable to defend yourself or say what is wrong in a relationship<\/li>
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