{"id":1067217,"date":"2023-01-20T07:16:31","date_gmt":"2023-01-20T07:16:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1067217"},"modified":"2023-01-25T19:37:32","modified_gmt":"2023-01-25T19:37:32","slug":"recovering-from-ghosting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/recovering-from-ghosting\/","title":{"rendered":"Recovering from ghosting"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1067217\" class=\"elementor elementor-1067217 elementor-440745\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7ed86594 elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-min-height elementor-section-items-bottom elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7ed86594\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6ea7bd98\" data-id=\"6ea7bd98\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3d639127 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"3d639127\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-xl\">Recovering from ghosting<\/p>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-62d37295 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"62d37295\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-4e162bd6\" data-id=\"4e162bd6\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-376509b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"376509b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>    h3 {color: #7A7A7A;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"4stdk\" data-offset-key=\"pcs6-0-0\"><div class=\"public-DraftStyleDefault-block public-DraftStyleDefault-ltr\" data-offset-key=\"pcs6-0-0\"><p>You&#8217;ve been on several dates with someone and they suddenly disappear from circulation or worse, you&#8217;ve started a relationship, their behaviour didn&#8217;t suggest anything negative and suddenly the person doesn&#8217;t show any signs of life.<\/p><p>You ask yourself what you did that could have caused this behaviour?<\/p><p>Why is this hard?<\/p><p>Not knowing why the other person stopped contacting you gives you that feeling of being on pause, can lead to deep inner questioning and prevent you from starting to grieve.<\/p><p>What did you do to generate this behaviour? The longer the relationship before the ghosting lasted, the more you will feel that it is what you did or did not do that is responsible for the ghosting.<\/p><\/div><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1cec2f6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"1cec2f6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>    h3 {color: #7A7A7A;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"4stdk\" data-offset-key=\"pcs6-0-0\"><div class=\"public-DraftStyleDefault-block public-DraftStyleDefault-ltr\" data-offset-key=\"pcs6-0-0\"><p><span style=\"color: #d13523; font-size: 34px; font-weight: 600;\">No answer is also an answer<\/span><\/p><p>I know it can hurt, but a non-answer is also an answer.<\/p><p>What is difficult is the interpretation of this non-answer, i.e. what the person is saying no to:<br \/>\u2022 Is the person saying no because they can&#8217;t get into a relationship?<br \/>\u2022 Are they saying no because they don&#8217;t want a relationship?<br \/>\u2022 Or are they saying no because you are not what they are looking for?<\/p><p>In short, this non-response is simply telling you that they are saying no, but not to what.<\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Understanding_the_no\"><\/span>Understanding the no<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>Ghosting does not necessarily mean the same thing depending on the stage of the relationship.<br \/>1. No news after a few chats<br \/>On dating apps, the involvement of a person is less and the use of dating sites can be used as a hobby. So as long as there are no encounters, it means nothing.<br \/>2. No news after a few dates<br \/>At this stage, there is already more investment on the part of each partner and it is normal to experience it more difficult. However, the phase of the first 3-4 dates is also a phase of choice (read <a href=\"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/stages-of-a-love-relationship\/\">The 6 stages of a love relationship<\/a>) where you start to know the person. At this point, ghosting can mean several things:<br \/>\u2022 The person does not\/can not actually be in a relationship<br \/>\u2022 The person has chosen someone else<br \/>\u2022 You are not a good fit and the person can&#8217;t express this<\/p><p>3. No more news after starting a relationship<br \/>When ghosting occurs at this stage of the relationship, it may signal fears that are rearing their ugly heads in the other partner in relation to attachment, or that the person is aware of an incompatibility and is unable to communicate this.<\/p><p>You can see that having a response from him\/her or not doesn&#8217;t change the interpretation of the no&#8217;s. In any case, it means that the person doesn&#8217;t want to or didn&#8217;t feel ready to enter into a relationship or didn&#8217;t see a compatibility between you.<\/p><p>And you can ask yourself if you want to be with someone who can&#8217;t or doesn&#8217;t want to be in a relationship or who doesn&#8217;t see themselves as compatible with you, and then you have your answer.<\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Welcome_your_emotions_and_calm_your_monkey_mind\"><\/span>Welcome your emotions and calm your monkey mind<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>Being ghosted is never pleasant.<br \/>The first step is to welcome your emotions.<br \/>You can practice this Kundalini Yoga meditation to get out of the sadness and negative circle.<\/p><\/div><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e49abd1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"e49abd1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/R4z5JbuDaSw&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a408d2c elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"a408d2c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>    h3 {color: #7A7A7A;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"4stdk\" data-offset-key=\"pcs6-0-0\"><div class=\"public-DraftStyleDefault-block public-DraftStyleDefault-ltr\" data-offset-key=\"pcs6-0-0\"><p>Or this exercise for anger<\/p><\/div><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8be7b8b elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"8be7b8b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/N6-bWcacnDw&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9672229 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9672229\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>    h3 {color: #7A7A7A;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"4stdk\" data-offset-key=\"pcs6-0-0\"><div class=\"public-DraftStyleDefault-block public-DraftStyleDefault-ltr\" data-offset-key=\"pcs6-0-0\"><p>If you feel that you can&#8217;t think of anything else, you can also do this Kundalini Yoga exercise for 40 days in a row to calm the obsessive thoughts. If you have been doing this for many years, you may need to go to 120 days.<\/p><\/div><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f8f5736 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"f8f5736\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/youtu.be\\\/T5Lfd2O1ynE&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5508061 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"5508061\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div><style>\n    h2 {color: #d13523;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>    h3 {color: #7A7A7A;<br \/>font-size: 34px;}<br \/>  <\/style><\/div><div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"4stdk\" data-offset-key=\"pcs6-0-0\"><div class=\"public-DraftStyleDefault-block public-DraftStyleDefault-ltr\" data-offset-key=\"pcs6-0-0\"><p>Try these different methods and find the method that works best for you.<\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Understand_what_generates_this_%E2%80%9Cmonkey_mind%E2%80%9D\"><\/span>Understand what generates this &#8220;monkey mind&#8221;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>It&#8217;s not the fact that the person stops checking in that makes you sad and prevents you from recovering, it&#8217;s the meaning you give to that ghosting.<\/p><p>And the good news is that you can consciously choose the meaning you give to it.<\/p><p>No one can make you feel bad.<\/p><p>To stop the monkey mind, every time you think about ghosting, try to spot the first judgment, the first thought, and allow yourself to choose a new, more positive thought that allows you to avoid this toxic thought spiral. This is Gabby Bernstein&#8217;s famous &#8220;Choose again&#8221; method.<\/p><p>For example, if you think, &#8220;He ghosted me because I must have done something wrong\/I&#8217;m not good enough.<br \/>You might think &#8220;The fact that he ghosted me says more about him than it does about me.&#8221;<br \/>Or &#8220;Every ghosting saves me from wasting my time and brings me closer to the right partner for me&#8221;.<\/p><p>And if you don&#8217;t believe me, ask yourself &#8220;How come other people don&#8217;t feel anything about ghosting? It&#8217;s simply that they don&#8217;t take ghosting personally but take it more as information about the person who is behaving like this.<\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Take_your_power_back\"><\/span>Take your power back<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>If they don&#8217;t give you an answer, you can also give your own answer in response to the ghosting.<\/p><p>Do you want to be with someone who does this?<\/p><p>If not, express it:<br \/>\u2022 By sending a message, if you can and feel the need<br \/>\u2022 By saying it out loud or by writing a letter if you can&#8217;t do otherwise or don&#8217;t feel like writing to the person<\/p><p>By doing so, you symbolically take back your power over the situation and can begin your grieving process.<\/p><p>You can&#8217;t control whether someone ghosts you, but you can control<br \/>\u2022 How you want to react to ghosting<br \/>\u2022 Not to let ghosting impact your search for a partner.<\/p><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"This_overreaction_does_not_happen_by_accident\"><\/span>This overreaction does not happen by accident<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2><p>If you feel that every ghosting or simply the fact that your partner is slow to respond to you makes you overreact, it simply means that this event reactivates a wound from the past related to the unknown or the uncontrolled.<\/p><p>In my experience with the people I have accompanied, people who are particularly sensitive to ghosting have experienced insecure situations in their past or have felt in danger when faced with the unknown (accident, shock), death (sudden death, a difficult birth) or illness (your illnesses or those of loved ones), so that they have developed a mistrust of what they cannot control and feel constantly threatened by life.<\/p><p>The body is in constant alarm and cannot really relax.<\/p><p>To free yourself from this feeling of insecurity, there are 3 steps:<br \/>\u2022 Understand 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