{"id":1066989,"date":"2023-01-16T04:14:38","date_gmt":"2023-01-16T04:14:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/?p=1066989"},"modified":"2025-10-05T02:47:13","modified_gmt":"2025-10-05T02:47:13","slug":"the-disney-syndrome","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sandykaufmann.ch\/en\/the-disney-syndrome\/","title":{"rendered":"The Disney syndrome"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Do you feel like you get carried away very quickly on the first date? Or do you feel that love makes you “blind” and you idealise the other person or your relationship very quickly.<\/p>

Or on the other hand, you anticipate the worst and always imagine evil everywhere, so you may have what I call the Disney syndrome, which I will explain in this article.<\/p>

I call this phenomenon the Disney syndrome. It’s not a psychological diagnosis, it’s really my interpretation of a recurrent behaviour that I have observed in several people I have accompanied.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Definition of the Disney syndrome<\/h2>

For me, Disney syndrome is when you have a distorted image of the other person’s reality in the relationship and base your assessment on your projections and not on the facts.<\/p>

It’s like your inner judge getting confused as soon as you fall in love.<\/p>

The problem with the Disney syndrome is that it prevents you from making a conscious choice about your partner and tends to self-sabotage the relationship because either you come down from your cloud after a few months in the relationship and see the person as them or you will have pushed the other person away with your insecurity.<\/p>

The same cause: apprehension of non-control<\/b><\/p>

From the experience I’ve made with the people I accompany, I’ve noticed that this phenomenon happens mainly at the beginning of a relationship when you don’t know the other person yet and you don’t really know how much attention they pay to you and if they want to start a relationship, and that this beginning phase often implies a certain amount of risk-taking, because basically you launch yourself into the relationship without knowing 100% if it’s going to work or not.<\/span><\/p>

Automatically for your survival brain it is a situation that is more stressful for it because by definition of the survival brain it wants to be prepared for the unknown, it does not like the unknown.<\/p>

And so at that moment your survival brain is going to draw from its database, it’s going to look at what reaction patterns you’ve used in your past that have helped you in the past when faced with situations of the unknown and uncontrolled, and it’s going to suggest this way of acting.<\/p>

Several origins are possible<\/b><\/p>

From the experience I have accumulated with the people I accompany, I have noticed that there are mainly 4 origins of this apprehension of non control:<\/p>